sometimes you need to vent. you don't want someone to try to solve your problem having just heard a 30 second summary of it. you just need to vent. - ThreadSky

tomtomorrow.bsky.social • 477 days ago

sometimes you need to vent. you don't want someone to try to solve your problem having just heard a 30 second summary of it. you just need to vent.

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awstiles.bsky.social•477 days ago

@besswww.bsky.social

awstiles.bsky.social•477 days ago

Thanks for allowing me to vent!

randomjeweler.bsky.social•477 days ago

Yes if I was able to do that the problem would be solved

natteringnaybob.bsky.social•477 days ago

I had a boss rant at me for a while, pause, ask "You do know I'm not yelling about you?", and when I said "yes", went right back to ranting.

tomtomorrow.bsky.social•477 days ago

this applies to a *lot* of posting and replies

tomtomorrow.bsky.social•477 days ago

"you could just--"
lemme stop you right there

tomtomorrow.bsky.social•477 days ago

first year or so after my surprise divorce, when I was reeling, the number of people who said "you should just ... get over it!" thanks so much, extremely helpful

ellinst.bsky.social•477 days ago

There's a reason why divorce is up there in the Big Three of grim life events along with bereavement and moving.

tomtomorrow.bsky.social•477 days ago

Yeah as I've said before I hit all 3 in the course of 5 years

ellinst.bsky.social•477 days ago

Ugh. A trough. But the upswing is coming.

artduszynski.bsky.social•477 days ago

I think of this blog post every time I catch myself starting to form a "Why don't you just..." reply. https://bradfrost.com/blog/post/just/

siobhanmcelduff.bsky.social•477 days ago

I confess to being guilty of suggesting people think about buttering the steps and giving the source of the problem a wee push.

pedroharry.bsky.social•476 days ago

The struggle to not barrage your venting loved ones with solutions is so real

p0sx.bsky.social•476 days ago

foooor sure. some of the most helpful words you can say in those times: "well that freaking sucks"

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