one of the things i've really internalized and try to practice and promote is to just move on if i see a trans person saying something that i don't agree with/find annoying/etc. like, i don't win anything for being an asshole and making them feel bad, and putting them on blast won't fix anything - ThreadSky

bugsmaytrix.bsky.social • 14 hours ago

one of the things i've really internalized and try to practice and promote is to just move on if i see a trans person saying something that i don't agree with/find annoying/etc.

like, i don't win anything for being an asshole and making them feel bad, and putting them on blast won't fix anything

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The way our community handles disagreements is a disgrace.

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girlfriend.bsky.social•14 hours ago

This is a heavenly restriction that confers great power.

kennedytcooper.bsky.social•14 hours ago

Yeah I save fighting with other trans folks for like, Blair White, we can't be tearing each other down over slightly different views on housing reform

foxbat.gay•14 hours ago

Slightly different takes on housing reform is the sort of thing I stop for because I'm like "Oh maybe we can actually have a conversation that won't end in in screaming accusations".

bugsmaytrix.bsky.social•14 hours ago

even with her, unless it's something super egregious i'm like "i'm just gonna keep scrolling"

kennedytcooper.bsky.social•14 hours ago

Usually the right call and yeah in general when I came to bluesky I was like I don't wanna fight all the time like on twitter that's exhausting and unproductive

bugsmaytrix.bsky.social•14 hours ago

there's exactly one trans person i won't care about people dunking on but we're mutually blocked so i'll never see her headass takes

bugsmaytrix.bsky.social•14 hours ago

as soon as the floodgates open, all manner of bad actors will take this as an opportunity to be insane freaks, which will absolutely undermine any attempts at an actual conversation. we don't have to do any of this in public, and actively should avoid it

sweetbeanscomix.bsky.social•14 hours ago

Actual conversation? That would rule. The person question this time does bring up some stuff that needs to be discussed seriously. But everyone is too busy dunking instead. fucking great community we have here.

magsvisaggio.com•14 hours ago

yeah. we've both been on the bad side of sudden and ridiculous mob action because someone got pissy.

bugsmaytrix.bsky.social•14 hours ago

it's so cool and good that we have the hot take economy that runs on dunks and the end result is like, this faux social power that's precarious as fuck and rarely results in anything material all at the sake of fracturing community and being shitheads to each other

bugsmaytrix.bsky.social•14 hours ago

not to say we shouldn't have these conversations! but public forums that have a character limit and an infinite capacity for context collapse are Not The Venue. this isn't the market place of ideas this is the coliseum

shivambhatt.bsky.social•14 hours ago

Yup. Sometimes intracommunity struggled need to be handled inside the community, and out of sight of folks who are looking for an excuse to pile on

bugsmaytrix.bsky.social•14 hours ago

dms exist for a reason and should be used extensively! like especially if it's on a site with character limits that loooooves to take things out of context

d-7th.com•14 hours ago

There are trans women on this app who straight up abused me and I don’t put that shit publicly on blast even though I could

because I know how our community will try to kill them dead

and I do not want that to happen to them, jackasses though they may be

bugsmaytrix.bsky.social•14 hours ago

yup like i could ruin people's whole weeks/worse if i wanted to.

i don't. i really don't want to do that, actually.

d-7th.com•14 hours ago

If I come forward about them, all that happens is a bunch of cis ppl see proof that their beliefs about all of us being sex pests are true.

It’s isolating but it’s the only way

d-7th.com•14 hours ago

I basically lost any real ties to the online trans community bc they didn’t afford me the same grace

nilejoan.com•14 hours ago

truly.

any time i have EVER even politely debated with another tran it always devolves into the phobes thinking they get a free pass to bully at least one of us

i try to have these convos privately if i can

bugsmaytrix.bsky.social•14 hours ago

yup yup yup, it's almost always pouring gasoline on a cinder that could have just been stamped out

nilejoan.com•14 hours ago

sucks bc i CANT STAND some of these trans lol but i get really big sister about it real quick where I'm like "HEY BACK OFF ASSHOLE I WAS BULLYING HER LEAVE HER ALONE"

jon-k.bsky.social•14 hours ago

[emotional music swells]
I hope to one day live in a world where we can all hate a person not based on their identity, but the content of their character

bugsmaytrix.bsky.social•14 hours ago

LMAOOOOOO no that's like so real like "i'm having a conversation and i WILL fucking cut you if you're a dick to her"

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