Women with a public (ISH) profiles who have left X...isn't it just SO nice to just not constantly be abused all the time? Like to be able to pick up your phone and open this app without some random person questioning your intelligence or calling you a whore. I'm genuinely sleeping better at night

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Ok so admittedly as a bloke I’m off topic, but if you’ll permit me I just want to echo how lovely it is to not have X’s ubiquitous toxicity (& constant Musk notifications despite not following him) here on Bluesky. Long may it continue this way!
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awful you experienced that before and pleased noticed a difference - always enjoy hearing your contribution on the podcasts I listen to!
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I totally get it and I’m not a large account. What I’ve experienced, I can’t even imagine what you do. ❤️
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It is certainly better, but there are an awful lot of them here too. They even think they’re the good guys. I just get told “it’s a joke, honey” instead of being threatened.

I’m so glad you’re sleeping better though. The other place was terrifying
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Happy you feel safe(r) here! Have a great day
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The fact that this is a genuine feeling for so many women is a damning testament to how far too many men have fallen into a state of perpetual hate and rage.
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It is better here

I have no reason to correspond so I decided to stay away from X
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If you ever miss it (like some former citizens of East Germany who apparently occasionally pine for the simpler days of the GDR), just let us know and we'd be happy to oblige
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I'm not in the group you're addressing, but I'm glad you feel safer and are getting better sleep. When men shout down the observations of women, those men suppress half of humanity's total brainpower. We can't afford that loss!
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Have you left entirely? I’m tempted, but it seems such a big step.
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Do you get much engagement on x?

Are the people you follow there, here?
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Hardly any now. It’s much better here. But a lot of my old community (eg around housing and local gov issues) don’t seem to have moved yet. I wonder if I need to give it another month…
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Have you encouraged them to move?

One can spend a lot of wasted time fighting the good fight on Twitter only to discover you’ve been locked in a box by yourself with invisible, soundproof walls. No one can hear you
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Yes! I’ve made it clear I’m mainly over here now as being yelled at by incels isn’t how I like to spend my day
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Yep, deactivated. Don't miss it at all
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First, I deactivated, then deleted. It was almost painful.. for about a minute.. 😆
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Perspective. I had a Twitter account until Elon bought it. I wasn’t super active. Even back then I found it loud, ignorant and abusive.

I’m not a big fan of social media. I will stay here as long as it stays civilized and worth the effort.
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What verifiably do you get by staying there? Is the abuse really engagement you want?

Or are you just bagging “followers” no matter what they’re worth?
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No, all of journalism has moved here so I could leave immediately with very little impact. But I want to stay in touch with a few of my less online followers eg social tenants and grassroots housing campaigners. They’re not here yet. But not sure they see me there now either
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It’s not a big step it’s literally just an app and an app that no longer does what it says it does but rather stokes hate and fear in you. It’s like a fucking heroin addiction. Everyone who leaves and gets away says they are better for it in lots of ways.
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Well my old addiction to there has already been replaced with an addiction here - so in that sense, it probably won’t make any difference at all. But as a freelance I don’t want to chop off useful avenues. And I’m probably quite close to accepting it’s no longer useful at all.
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I’m surprised to realise just how much I was self-censoring and second-guessing possible responses to avoid a cacophony of abuse. I had almost forgot how to be myself online
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That's really interesting, I definitely felt the same. Like I had to be so nuanced in case something got taken out of context or triggered a pile on that so much stuff I said eventually lost its meaning.
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And it was all for nothing, anyway. Here are some comments left beneath my entirely innocuous book reveal tweet
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Odd that none of the abusers have the courage to put their name to their comments. Cowardly bullies all.
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Jesus. Whatever you said I'm sure I'd have agreed with it anyway 🤣
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And that’s why we will always be kept apart on TV, Zoe
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Grim. Waggonist is a surprisingly inventive term, mind.
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True.
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and my quick google suggests it is a recent linguistic arrival from the Caribbean, which I guess makes it an immigrant word. So woke.
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I think there’s been some nascent research, including by the International Centre for Journalists, about the extent to which women self-censor after abuse online. The ‘chilling effect’. A particularly problematic cycle when it’s women raising issues affecting women…
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I haven't got a public profile, but I have found myself repeatedly trying to re-write online comments after some right wing bloke has called me stupid. It's like I feel I haven't explained well enough, so I try again. They never withdraw their nasty comments though, in fact they get nastier.
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They have pathetic lives and anger in their hearts.
You can’t argue or reason with that.
Just say ‘thanks for that Karen.’
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Perhaps Twitter or the cesspit X that it has now become will merge with LiesSocial so all the haters will be in one place? However we are in a golden period here, when the nasties start arriving how the admin deals with them will be the big test for @BlueSky
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Goodnight 😊
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I did a few broadcasting things recently which afterwards I'd usually be anxiously glued to my phone watching the horrible comments roll in...now I just continue to go about my day and exist.
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I’m sorry that happened to you. I just get called a fat fuck. I’m not fat but I do copulate, so it’s half true
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I hope you don’t mind. I’ve quote posted the original message just stating how uplifting this is to read.
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Zoë, can I just say how wonderful you are and how glad I am you are over here.
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Even with a very non-public profile this is very good indeed. Like the golden age of twitter…
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I’m worried it won’t last or can’t last. The howling shit storm that is the world can’t be kept out, can it?
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Very happy for you. It has been awesome to read this and similar posts throughout the community. Moving forward, do you think that its sustainable as bluesky scales? Should this standard be individually governed? The sociology of bluesky is going to be fascinating to watch.
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Misogyny pushed me over the edge from twitter. It went from unacceptable to almost terroristic since that actor acquired it.
Part of me is ashamed that I'm not there pushing back on that incel radicalisation.
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Deleting it is the most effective form of pushing back, I think.
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Some of the comments journalists received was sickening.

And of course, women get it the worst.

Loads of journalists are saying engagement rates are far higher even with less followers? Shows it wasn't just bots that were the problem, but people following on here more informed.
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Easily a third of the accounts on Twitter are bots. The rest are people and inactive accounts.

It wouldn't surprise me if around half the *active* accounts on Twitter are bots.
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I'm glad women are finding a safe space away from the vileness of what Twitter has become.

I hope it stays that way. 🫤
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I'm a guy and reading this post made me so happy. I finally got around to watching a certain show and I want to share something that made me consider getting my first tattoo:

Nolite te bastardes carborundorum!
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@karaswisher.bsky.social put it perfectly: X/Twitter has become a Nazi porn bar.

SO good to get out of there!
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I feel I should say something to make you feel more at home.... umm.... umm.... you smell! There, it now has the social media feeling.
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I put a picture of me making a strange face as my profile at first when I got here, just to avoid that and getting hit on or the profiles adding me and fifty-'leven women who look exactly like me.....turns out I needn't have worried! Yet. I'm sure it's inevitable. But it's nice for now!
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I don’t have a public profile, but I’ve basically stopped posting anything because even the most banal post on Twitter resulted in such immediately nasty responses. I guess it changed my behaviour and made me not engage and it’ll take a while to feel braver … but I like what I see over here so far.
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I have dared to make replies and comments. Still borderline anxious about saying anything that might get a terrible reply.
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It’s the best! No incel chiming in. Or just gross men. It’s very nice.
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Twitter truly has become a noir right wing open sewer of hate speech, racism, bigotry, Christian Nationalism, White Supremacy, QAnon Conspiracy Freaks...the South African illegal immigrant billionaire Elon Musk must feel so at home there...Leave it to him...
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I left extreme misogyny off the above list...Twitter is literally floating in an infinite river of extreme misogyny...
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Two people have been ride or patronising to me - men naturally
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Oh, gawd, YES!
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genuinely happy for y'all and i say that as a certified dumb whore
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It’s nice here. I believe we can have a good community here. 💙
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I've only run into one on here so far like some of that, but it was a quick and easy block and then on my way, thankfully. The peace has been nice.
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Yes it is! Really enjoying the engagement on here without navigating all the nonsense
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Ooommmmmmm 🧘🏻‍♂️ 🙏
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Twitter is a flat roofed pub that puts on exotic dancers two evenings a week to get some trade rather than serving nice things in a welcoming environment. The women leave first. Most of the men then ask themselves why they are still there. The free market does the rest.
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As it should be mate.👍👍
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There is not a war on women here.
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Im just a man, standing in front of you a woman saying.. Welcome to Blue Sky!
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As a gay man on X the constant line was either you were a pedophile, a woman abuser, was gay because I can't get a woman or some other random homophobic abuse. They were all rather fascinated by gay sex
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Fortunately, I have an androgynous name on here and there.
Still got abuse over there but usually followed by being called 'pal' 😂
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Just reading some of the awful stuff on there is bad enough.
I couldn't imagine actually being a target for it.
It's much nicer over here 👍
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Glad to hear it! And apologies on behalf of the less well healed. We here would take you over 17 million of them. Gö Grüne!! 💪🙏
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So pleased
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There is a saying about the squeaky wheel getting the oil, social media is about getting responses (positive or negative). I’ve decided that I will only post beauty and I will only respond positively. I hope that $$$ doesn’t guide how this site will progress.
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