These things don't change who we are. They can, change our perception of the world, and how we interact with it. But at the core of our being we are not changed. We are the only beings capable of changing us. That is important to know and remember.
I agree.
But when faced with trauma we do learn much about ourselves. Finding inner peace following trauma, and living in sustained peace, takes work. But I believe everyone is capable of achieving that harmony if they want to live fully.
Very well stated. I'm still contending with stuff from very long ago. For instance I have trouble accepting offers of help unless I've first requested it. One of my worst childhood experiences followed an offer of help. So now I understand where that anger comes from.
Indeed. Last October within two weeks; a new Love entered my life (8 months after my abusive husband’s suicide), and I received a stage III cancer diagnosis.
My life will never be the same.
Samuel is right must live each day as though it is our last.
As Christian Fürchtegott Gellert wrote in a poem Of Death, st. 2
Live as you will have wished to have lived when you are dying.
Of all those little unexpected events one will be our last as it alters our path we walk in life.
Just got off the phone with my little sister 27. She’s working two jobs and recently got a car—used, but new to her. It broke down, and so did she. She texted me in tears, unable to afford the repairs or to be without a car. I was able to help, but so many others don’t have that support… #The99
I and a friend were discussing this very idea yesterday afternoon. I was in a car crash that set me back and he had a health crisis that set him back. These things totally redirected our lives.
I was in the car accident 5 years ago, the phone call came 2 years later telling me about my son's suicide, and the massive heart attack was 8 months ago.
Everytime I try to figure out who I am, the Universe just laughs and laughs.
Then it kicks me in the teeth again.
And yet I knew an 80 yr old woman who broke half the bones in her body in a train accident (!) and recovered. We are living contradictions; loving and hateful, fragile and strong, nurturing and destructive. Maybe we were created as part of some deity's masters' thesis in philosophy.
Calling our sitation "beautifully fragile" is no more credible than calling it "hopelessly fragile." And noting that a single moment can change us "forever" is contradicted by that very fragility, for what can happen once can surely happen again and again, over abd over until we die.
20 yrs ago, & up to now, poor Spine health, Arthritis, a massive heart attack, & Fibromyalgia have totally changed the trajectory of my life. That said, I had to really dig deep 2 find ways for them 2 not destroy my life. While I am in chronic pain daily, I fight it with humor. I refuse to give in.
I understand. I am in yr 4 since having colon cancer surgery and chemo. If I am clear, one more year of surveillance. And I've had lymphoma since 2015. Rough.2 cancers.
But the fight is real! I also have spine degenerative disease.
But we have to keep winning!
Yup. Degenerative Disc Disease has already claimed 2/3 of my C-Spine, and my L-Spine. I’ve had four spine surgeries already, and recent MRIs confirmed that I am again bone on bone in the levels above, and below previous surgeries. I’m done with spine surgeries.
Ouch those surgeries are so painful not to mention the rehab from hell. I get so many CTscans for my colon cancer and lymphoma and they always say how my spine continues to deteriorate. LOL It is like a race....will her spine give out before the lymphoma gets her! haha
I'm sorry for your pain
Wait, why would any of those change who I am? I have experienced half of those and I have never changed, I am exactly the same now as I was when I was a kid.
About 6 years ago, i slipped on some ice, on concrete stairs, and landed with my lower back on the edge. Thankfully i can still walk, but let there be no doubt those milliseconds of slipping and being airborne only to crash down hard were utterly changing in more ways than I will probably ever know.
Sorry to hear about your son. Hope he’s recovering. 💙
My husband, a good friend and 7 people in the other vehicle were killed. All because of an irresponsible motorcyclist. I had 16 broken bones and guilt for being spared. Took forever to forgive myself for living.
OMG, you poor soul. Do you still get pain from the broken bones. My guess is that you do.
You are alive for a reason. Make the best of every minute.
Bless you Elsa
I met a woman who was in a car accident & hospitalized in a coma for 4 months. When she got out, her nearly paid-for home & everything she owned had been sold. She got nothing. She was working as a caregiver.
How does this happen in a "civilized" country?
This is so true. Within an 8hr visit to the ER we found out my husband had cancer. Within 8 weeks, he was gone. I will never be the same person, my life has changed forever.
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But when faced with trauma we do learn much about ourselves. Finding inner peace following trauma, and living in sustained peace, takes work. But I believe everyone is capable of achieving that harmony if they want to live fully.
My life will never be the same.
As Christian Fürchtegott Gellert wrote in a poem Of Death, st. 2
Live as you will have wished to have lived when you are dying.
Of all those little unexpected events one will be our last as it alters our path we walk in life.
For real though, I got to use an experimental piece of equipment, the hyperbaric chamber
Everytime I try to figure out who I am, the Universe just laughs and laughs.
Then it kicks me in the teeth again.
But the fight is real! I also have spine degenerative disease.
But we have to keep winning!
I'm sorry for your pain
And I have had two cancers one now incurable.
Do not mistake normal for boring.
Life is a rollercoaster
“ parenthood”.
My husband, a good friend and 7 people in the other vehicle were killed. All because of an irresponsible motorcyclist. I had 16 broken bones and guilt for being spared. Took forever to forgive myself for living.
You are alive for a reason. Make the best of every minute.
Bless you Elsa
How does this happen in a "civilized" country?