I'm considering leaving my girlfriend. She hasn't anything wrong, and she's a nice person, but I'm not sure I still feeling it. It's a sad situation to be honest. I don't want to hurt her, but I'm not sure what else to do.
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This is normal. Sometimes we eventually tire of things or partners. If the love has gone, it's best to admit that. Just tell her you aren't feeling it any more, but it's nothing she's done.
And if you do break it off brace yourself for a period of feeling like a total arsehole when you see the upset you have caused. But this will pass and even that comes with a sense of relief and feels better than the awful weight of carrying around how you know you feel now.
This isn’t really the best place to seek relationship advice, but I’ll try.
Someone can be a good person but not be right for you. If you stay in the relationship because you don’t want to hurt her, you’re wasting her time. It’s not fair. Tell her the truth, kindly. You seem a kind person.
Have you considered where they may be based? To us a weekend in Anglesey is a mere bagatelle. But they could be based in Norfolk or Troon. The travel logistics could destroy what's left.
Think of the adventure, the motorway 'service' stations. And the ultimate disappointment of ending up in Holyhead. If they can make it through all that I feel I should be invited to the wedding.
They may not even drive! The dispiriting long train journey across the country. The smell of other people's burgers. The 4 morose blokes with a table silently and determindly getting through can after can of Kestrel super lager.
It's a vision of hell!
I heard rumour they all took cover when he began lamenting that he could shit through the eye of a camel, or was that needle? Or pulling a camel through a needle? Er…
I think you might be me from half a year ago.
It's going to suck, especially if you can't put words to a reason. But so much of relationships are based on feelings that can't be explained, good and bad!
As others have said, you need to get out of this so you can both find someone better ❤️
Be brave and ask her how she’s feeling. Ask her how she feels about being with you. You’ll either break up but learn something for next time or get a better relationship for you too.
That and she’ll tell her friends who will quietly remember it and hook you up later with their other friends.
This is fesshole. You need to marry her, begin to hate her then come back on here in ten years when you've had an affair and she's made you move out and live in a Nissan Micra.
Try mixing up the routines for a while. If she doesn't like it & asks you why you're doing it, she's already taken the first step of the conversation you want to take.
But if she likes it & you get your boners back, everything is coming up Milhouse!
You need to just tell her. She'll be able to tell eventually, assuming she isn't already getting the feeling your heart isn't in it. You're obviously already starting to feel shitty about it, so just put your big boy pants on and end it as nicely as you can.
Not sure you'll get good relationship advice from 'fesshole.
But for what's it's worth.
Be honest with her and break up. Yes you will hurt her, that's inevitable, but it's better than stringing her along. It will only make you resentful and you'll end up hurting her far worse by deceiving her.
This is normal. Butterflies always fade. It’s why people mandate date nights, no moaning about work when you walk in the door, spice things up to inject the new romance vibe back in.
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Go and do something stimulating and out of both your comfort zones together, like a BDSM scat dungeon or a romantic week in Pyongyang.
If you are going to confess to something, make it exciting or implausible.
Someone can be a good person but not be right for you. If you stay in the relationship because you don’t want to hurt her, you’re wasting her time. It’s not fair. Tell her the truth, kindly. You seem a kind person.
It's a vision of hell!
It's going to suck, especially if you can't put words to a reason. But so much of relationships are based on feelings that can't be explained, good and bad!
As others have said, you need to get out of this so you can both find someone better ❤️
It is confirmed that X is toast.
Only time now.
That and she’ll tell her friends who will quietly remember it and hook you up later with their other friends.
But if she likes it & you get your boners back, everything is coming up Milhouse!
But for what's it's worth.
Be honest with her and break up. Yes you will hurt her, that's inevitable, but it's better than stringing her along. It will only make you resentful and you'll end up hurting her far worse by deceiving her.