has there been a piece about Giselle Pelicot by a man, reflecting on what he's learned about masculinity, about himself and about other men from this horrific case?
I feel I've seen so much by women, but it wasn't women who bloody did it. It's not women who need to reflect on how it could happen.
I feel I've seen so much by women, but it wasn't women who bloody did it. It's not women who need to reflect on how it could happen.
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This is what we are not talking about, and we need to choose if this behaviour… this personality trait is going to continue to be accepted.
It is not.. and they should never have power. We can test for sociopathy
To answer your question, maybe they are ashamed of their gender.
If men think this case ISN’T changing how lots of women view the people in our immediate spheres, they’re not paying enough attention.
There’s less safety in my neighborhood than I thought. Less safety with my co-workers.
Gisèle is a smart woman and she never knew. Until she did.
How can we not extrapolate that these men exist everywhere in huge numbers? And how can we (and I mean men here) not see how terrifying this must be for women?!
Also, I am happy to be an apparent minority as I have never harmed a woman.
IMHO we need to look at society as a whole and determine why so many keep voting / advocating against their own interests.
I suggest you think very hard about why you're doing that.
https://bsky.app/profile/naomialderman.bsky.social/post/3ldqbvz73zc2h
Anybody shocked by this vile story has just not been paying attention to the stories women have been telling for centuries now.
How many Dominique Pilocot's are out there, as yet, un-caught? This story tells us it must be thousands at least.
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The conclusion I draw is that men who behave like this know how wrong they are and know how to hide it from men who do not agree with them.
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I've never seen behavior like that from men whom I know, but I do have a female friend whose first husband bullied her into having sex with his friends.
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I have served as...
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https://www.theguardian.com/global/2017/oct/19/remembering-sean-hughes-the-sadness-is-he-didnt-get-to-be-old-just-lonely
Many men just do/act. Not reflect on those actions. Not unless it's about business or sports.
They don't think about things BEFORE or AFTER they do them.
I have observed that women are more capable, committed & courageous.
So stop indoctrinating young men into "Bro Misogyny” that belittles women & their abilities.
Realize that we need the abilities of 100% of us to face the future.
Support women they can save us all!
Men tend to problem solve, and our solution would be to castrate everyone who participated!
so the question is: are you thinking about who that is? and what the evidence is that you need to look for in order to figure it out? and how you'll then warn the women in your life?
What she does want: Sex education. Nation-wide training on CONSENSUS. Training for people who welcome victims. Psychological support for (would-be) offenders!
Men love to say they protect women, but the reality is they protect each other.
It's men who need to call out male misogyny and sexism because this is where sexual abuse of women has its roots and can grow like a cancer if not immediately cut out.
I know from my son late teenagers are aware of rapey behaviour and do react to it.
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That's a decent first-round approximation, actually! Part of that context is the concept that the wife is the _property_ of the husband, his to share if he chooses.
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In some wedding ceremonies the officiant asks "Who gives this woman?"
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When a father says "I do", he's establishing the context of property, and thus the context for marital rape. If he's NOT okay with the husband treating his daughter as property, then he should challenge the liturgy.
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/bitter sarcasm
I think it is extremely hard, that's very true. But probably not harder than what Giselle Pelicot has done.
https://www.irishtimes.com/culture/books/can-a-man-write-a-feminist-novel-1.3691240