Since he thinks women are only good for sex, and kindness doesn’t automatically get him sex, in his mind he’s now justified to treat women with contempt and disrespect.
It would never occur to him to be kind and respectful because that should be the default towards other humans.
And even if someone usbeing genuinely nice we still aren’t required to like them. This reads so grossly entitled. He’s obv not a nice guy and women smell it on him
"There is no woman that sleeps with a man purely because he is kind to her and respectful to her." He was nearly there. He and the point: 2 ships passing in the night.
They are attractive qualities but they have to be sincere as in really who a man is. And yes we see through the bullshit and call it out accordingly. Like men don't fake kindness and respect just to get in woman's pants 😂 😂 😂 😂 How to say you're not a kind and respectful man without saying....
So funny! When i think of my late husband, i dont sum him up as a nice guy but a kind guy who always let people in front of him in traffic and always went out of his way to open doors for people or help put grocery carts away etc…and i guess i didn’t love him after all?
Women don't like men who have skin. I have wonderful skin and a clear complexion, and yet no women are falling over themselves to rut with me! Clearly, they want men who have no skin and will bleed all over them!
Correct, kindness and respect are not the only criteria. Sexual attraction is important. There's tons and tons of women in the world. Do some work and find someone compatible, you jackass.
The thing is, dude thinks of "Kindness and respect" as a means to an end, and very likely signals that clear enough to show any woman upfront that he possesses neither.
He is a teeny bit right. There is no woman who sleeps with a man PURELY because he is kind & respectful. We're not vending machines for ANY kind, respectful man to stick a coin in. Thankfully, truly kind & respectful men know that.
I know a woman, very independent & career woman in IRS, saw man in diner who helped a waitress who lost a tray of plates helped clear the floor and get on w her work, made note he was a regular and made sure she met him, dated & they had 2 kids after marriage. Had job & shit together, empathy a plus
I’m a cishetero woman, and one of the sexiest things alive to me is a strong man showing kindness to children, the elderly, and small animals. Another is speaking truth to power, no matter their age.
I always wonder if ANY of these guys have ever tried just TALKING to women like they're real live human beings instead of video game targets to dump jizz into.
FFS. Just pretend you got your junk shot off in the war. Don't SAY so, just ... take fucking completely off the table. See what happens.
Guy who is faking being kind but really sees women as objects is shocked, SHOCKED, when women see that he is faking being kind and actually sees women as objects.
If you genuinely are kind and respectful, there still needs to be other attraction factors - obviously - but they are sought after virtues.
If two guys look identical, have the same jobs etc, but one is a narcissistic prick, they're going to go with the nice guy, even if it's not straight away.
At no point to they actually talk about physical attraction which is odd. That goes hand in hand with kindness and respect when it comes to a romantic or sexual relationship.
Translation: I feel contempt for women, but I say they have great boobs and would gladly do them, so they are too stupid to know. Obviously women lie when they say they want kindness and respect because they won’t fuck me.
But kindness and respect aren't sexually attractive to these men either. None of them will ask out a woman just because she's kind to him if she doesn't also meet a long list of other attributes.
Yes, sometimes men are kind & get rejected. That's life. The writer fails to consider other reasons rejection may have occurred. Exploring other circumstances may have undermined his preferred narrative, which may explain the hasty conclusion. Sounds like he's trying to justify manipulation, tbh.
Yeah like they're generally required to at least be perceived (here meaning unfortunately some people fake it to 'get their foot in the door') before other traits would even be worth considering
Men don't sleep with women because they're kind either. They expect gratitude pussy for insincere basic decency while feeling entitled to objectified women with no consideration for her humanity at all.
That guy fundamentally does not understand the concept of an attractive trait. “I find it attractive when men are respectful” does not mean “I want to sleep with every man that shows me respect.”
Exactly. Attraction is a complex and highly individual thing. I may not wanna fuck every guy that shows me respect, but I definitely don't wanna fuck a guy that doesn't.
I dunno dude.
If the man I've been sharing a bed with for nearly fifty years hadn't been kind and respectful he wouldn't have made it into my bed in the first damned place.
Truly kind and respectful folk = the BEST sex partners.
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It would never occur to him to be kind and respectful because that should be the default towards other humans.
Clearly, they don't want someone to actually treat them with kindness and respect. That's the ONLY explanation!"
They always seem like gamers trying to min/max their characters, as though there’s a number of points needed to unlock the “get laid” achievement.
by a creepy lecher masquerading as a “good guy” from a mile away, upwind.
-an excerpt from the groundbreaking documentary "Everything I know about women, I learned from watching anime."
Respectful is table stakes.
FFS. Just pretend you got your junk shot off in the war. Don't SAY so, just ... take fucking completely off the table. See what happens.
One door-open or fedora tip does not 'kindness' make.
But for me, if a man is only kind and respectful to me, it raises a lot of red flags.
I want a man who is genuinely kind and respectful to everyone, because that's attractive as hell.
An act can only last so long before it eventually shows cracks, no matter how convincing the act is.
If two guys look identical, have the same jobs etc, but one is a narcissistic prick, they're going to go with the nice guy, even if it's not straight away.
"Nice Guy" is a performative facade.
Treat everyone as you hope to be treated, and all your relationships are better. Work, family, friends, and dating.
Attraction is rendered meaningless if you are unkind & don't respect people
If the man I've been sharing a bed with for nearly fifty years hadn't been kind and respectful he wouldn't have made it into my bed in the first damned place.
Truly kind and respectful folk = the BEST sex partners.
Were we supppaed to reject you to your ass or something?
Entitlement is when you think a woman owes you something. That’s not nice. That’s objectifying. And we can smell it on you.
The ol' sex vending machine situation again