Robin Williams comes to mind.
It's interesting how many of us are similar, wouldn't it be nice to feel the same on the inside as the outside appearance?
I hope you find the answer that helps you.🤗🇨🇦
This is especially true when you consider that sadness is actually harder to fake than other emotions, so trying to fake depression, which is a whole web of emotions and feelings, would be virtually impossible to do convincingly, if at all.
When positive emotions are valued the most, it's easier to act like one is happy. There is an interesting flipside: Sob stories. Manipulating through a sob story involves using emotional appeals to gain sympathy, influence decisions, or achieve personal goals.
I'm a Lyft driver & have beanies on my head rests. Ppl ask Y. I tell them so everybody has an opportunity to smile. Ppl these days don't have anything to smile about but I want everyone to at least have an opportunity to smile. If you don't, fine. Maybe you're not a smiley person or maybe u could be
That's absolutely how I felt all through school. Like there's no way happiness is real, why is everyone faking it.
Got diagnosed with major depression shortly after high school.
Antidepressants are 100% the only reason I'm still alive today.
There're 'fixer' type of people which will give attention to folks in need. Some people just like drama, or person which is pretending to have depression will use it as excuse for some unkind behaviour 🤷♀️
I guess you do have a point, but people like that are definitely messed up. Not depressed, but messed up to pretend it for ANY reason. Somethings off in their brain to make them do that. 🫤
Have been reminded frequently in recent weeks that sometimes we have little control over our feelings and can be easily overwhelmed by irrational, nightmarish panic attacks that suddenly seize control of one's faculties with destabilizing results. Quite aggravating, to say the least.
Wish I could agree but after those ppl on tiktok faked mental disorders idk anymore (not saying your faking if your going through that I hope you get the help you need if you are)
No, but I’m glad you got help.💙 I’m mostly depressed because of the election and Dems in DC are reluctant to investigate and prove all the cheating Trump, his team, Repub politicians, Russia, & MUSK did. I’m sure most of us feel the same way. We are running out of time and everything depends on it.🤬
Repubs cheated. Trump, his campaign team, the GOP, SCOTUS, Russia, and MUSK with his Starlink and bribes. This must be exposed but Dems in DC act like they are afraid to do it. Makes me so furious for them to just allow us to be destroyed!
"pretending" to be happy has a positive effect on being happy.
It has a certain feedback loop that works.
Dwelling on the negatives of life will also feedback negativity and can lead to depression.
There are serious limits to that approach. Fake happiness, “good vibes only” and positive thinking can help you power through a difficult time, but if you don’t acknowledge and deal with the negative emotions underneath, they will boil up in surprising and destructive ways.
Problems in life have to be dealt with, I would never say someone should ignore them.
Dwelling on those negative things create an attitude that extends to all levels in life. Having a very bad day at work and carrying that negative attitude home to your wife/husband/partner and children should...
be avoided. Go home with a smile and think of the good things will have an effect, a positive effect.
There is a difference with dealing with the negative things in life or constantly dwelling on the negative.
Happiness is a state of mind that can be influenced, one way is to act as if we are happy and that emotion, like negative emotions, has a feedback loop.
To deny the negative state of mind, is not denying the problems that need to be corrected.
It's also how suicides happen "without any warning" because people are trained to act happy no matter what, but on the inside they're past breaking point
Unless you’re in such pain that acting any way is difficult if not possible. Hard to understand if you’ve been fortunate to not experience. Rxs are ready but no transportation exacerbates and creates more anxiety. Seems to never get better 🫤
A "fake it till you make it" approach to happiness has it's place I think. SOMETIMES.
But other times you have to be allowed to feel your feelings and talk to people about them instead of just trying to ignore them and tell everyone you're fine.
To be frank when I told one of my closest relatives that I felt depressed and didnt have the will to even clean my flat, they didnt care that much and thought Im just being lazy and that crying was not manly. It is easier to put on a smile than hearing for the nth time to eat better and train.
Thanks, it was a relative, but I still love them for all the things theyve done for me. I also found a great friend in the form of my feline companion. 😄
That sounds rough. Bad enough feeling crappy but then guilted/shamed about it (especially from someone who should be supportive). I think we need to normalize men having and expressing emotions (in a healthy way obviously). I hope things get better for you
I think this is true for life in general. We try to be happy and make the best out of what we have, all while trying to avoid thinking about the elephant in the room... death!
People fake a lot for sympathy. Even faked cancer. Not always due to having Munchausens.
By being "depressed" every time Bree harassed someone, usually a rape victim, she could go and complain to someone else that the person she harassed is "worsening her depression".
...and I know that is easier said than done I hope you know it comes from a good place. Hurt people often feel the need to help others as if to rescue themselves or even just to distract from our own problems but there is something in shared empathized with experience.
“Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal.”
― Albert Camus
Feel your feelings and speak to them rather than letting them speak through you, do that with someone worthy of your trust. Stay safe. Sometimes the worst enemy is between our ears, that harsh critic.
Me, too. It’s going to be a tough 4 years, but in 709 day until Nov. 3rd, 2026 for the mid terms and 1444 days until Nov. 7th, 2028 to make a change if there is ever another presidential election! 🤞🛐🙏🏻
This one hurts. I laugh and make people laugh to not crumble. Sounds dumb, but if I dont find the strength to keep playing that little game, Im not coming back...
The "Oh they're just pretending for attention!" never made much sense to me because in the event someone ACTUALLY goes through lengths of isolating themselves, self-harming, or even pretend self-harm for attention... then they're obviously still not feeling well...
Oh I’m so sorry! 💔 🕯️ I know how hard that is. Lost my whole family except hub and son. I wish you peace. 🕊️ Hang in there. It does get easier with time. Sending hugs.
Why? There was a saying in thw 1960s, "Let it all hang out."
Just be straight up about it at any given moment. People will either offer to help or run quickly in the other direction. Whatvthey won't do is stand there, waste your time & annoy you more.
This happens until you're in your 50s. Then you stop pretending & avoid everybody except your pet & magically you feel a lot less depressed. At least this has been my experience. Sending you 💙.
I frequently wonder how many people appreciate that people used to be taught socially that depression was immoral. Go back and read the lyrics to something as innocuous as "open up your heart and let the sunshine in." It's literally telling children it's evil not to pretend you are happy.
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It's interesting how many of us are similar, wouldn't it be nice to feel the same on the inside as the outside appearance?
I hope you find the answer that helps you.🤗🇨🇦
As a general rule I get annoyed at the always smiling people, but understand they don’t want to worry those around them.
Got diagnosed with major depression shortly after high school.
Antidepressants are 100% the only reason I'm still alive today.
It has a certain feedback loop that works.
Dwelling on the negatives of life will also feedback negativity and can lead to depression.
Dwelling on those negative things create an attitude that extends to all levels in life. Having a very bad day at work and carrying that negative attitude home to your wife/husband/partner and children should...
There is a difference with dealing with the negative things in life or constantly dwelling on the negative.
To deny the negative state of mind, is not denying the problems that need to be corrected.
But other times you have to be allowed to feel your feelings and talk to people about them instead of just trying to ignore them and tell everyone you're fine.
Find qualified help. Everyone deserves to feel hope. ❤️🩹
She was a major cunt who harassed a lot of people while intentionally dating a pedo so she could play victim any time someone got mad at her.
Shitty people do shitty things. Pretending to have depression included.
I once hung around a guy who used depression and suicide to pressure me when I was 14.
He did it to another girl I know too, but I hated her because she routinely lied about being raped. Took me 2 years to realize she was lying.
I hate people...
Both guys and girls.
Stay safe and stay cautious. 💞
By being "depressed" every time Bree harassed someone, usually a rape victim, she could go and complain to someone else that the person she harassed is "worsening her depression".
She was a horrible person.
I believe those prone to depression are intelligent folks
― Albert Camus
Feel your feelings and speak to them rather than letting them speak through you, do that with someone worthy of your trust. Stay safe. Sometimes the worst enemy is between our ears, that harsh critic.
I think of Robin Williams as a perfect example. 🥺
People that are depressed, would believe that.
Have a glorious day!
Thanks for the posting! 📫
Just be straight up about it at any given moment. People will either offer to help or run quickly in the other direction. Whatvthey won't do is stand there, waste your time & annoy you more.