I don't think being single means there's anything wrong with you. but also when you hit the age where all of your friends have partners and you're doing everything alone, it makes you feel like there's something wrong with you
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More and more I have come to view it as finding someone who fits you (and you them) and zero to do with any perceived wrong or right. We are weird. One person’s weird is another’s ’really? So good’
honestly the more i find out about adhd and autism the more im like “okay well there is something wrong with me, and that’s relieving in a way because up until now, there’s been something wrong and i’ve felt crazy for sensing there was the whole time”
although it still really fuckin sucks because once you have that realization, you're like "welp, everyone in my life yelled at me and said I was lazy even though I was suffering and not getting support, and now I'm pretty pissed about that"
oh nah there’s a lot of trauma and grief to come to terms with after; i’m still doing it but it has gotten better; i probably spent about a year and a half just crying about it tho
it does! there’s a late zen master thich naht hahn who laid this concept on me that really made an impact called “emotional circulation” and we have been all blocked up and poisoned so at first it sucks but then it’s like you can’t go back to the old way; it’s a get worse to get better thing ❤️🩹
that's a really good analogy, and I've experienced that with other things now that I've been in therapy for a few years. think I'm still going to be forever pissed at every teacher who ever told me "you just need to apply yourself", though
I used to worry about this sort of thing until I realized that many of my single friends are genuinely very happy and mature and relatively sane. I think it’s important to live your life as yourself, whether or not you’re with someone else. My two cents
that's kind of you, but I'm perpetually exhausted because my brain is often trying to kill me, and I struggle with basic life necessities because of trauma shit. there is definitely a lot wrong with me. I'm just trying to work on accepting being ok on my own
i hope life brings you better days soon, friend. it is still possible to find someone who loves you for exactly who you are. flaws included, you are still worthy of love regardless of it all.
That feeling is just society being jealous of what you have. You are right that nothing is wrong with you being single, and I wish it wasn’t the case that society is this way. I have a wonderful partner but I love doing most things on my own still. Thank you for sharing.
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or maybe that's just me, idk
you’re better off transcending the concept of a box that is ultimately imaginary then trying to fit in it when you really don’t
plenty of folks get themselves in the picturesque situation to find they hate it
someday you’ll find someone who truly thinks the sun shines out of your ass even when you feel like the most unloveable person on earth. 🫂