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Writer. Artist. Creative. 33| Enban femme| Versian| xe/xir/xem. Afronative. Getting really into yogurt lately...
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(All that said, the poem is still ass. I think the heart of the matter is understandable, even if her attempt to poetry about it sucked b/c racist and shallow. But I do think if the poem's issue is "bimisogyny" then "just be with more women and around queer people" won't solve it.)
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Of course, then there's the absurdity juxtaposed over it. That she could live a full, happy, lesbian life and still somehow be half a gay. A failing she could never erase or overcome or compensate for. I think it's meant to highlight how absurd and harmful biphobia can be as she experienced it?
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The title "Imposter Syndrome" makes sense in this context too. Because a regular manifestation of biphobia is that it is ephemeral, lacking in real substance, and fake. Even sometimes described as a method to smuggle straights into the community. A dangerous mimic.
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false or lesser queerness, then the poem makes more sense to me. She does all the things to be seen as a "real" gay woman, but she can't erase the feeling that people see bisexuality as a "false" sexuality. A pretend sapphic. A performance for men she isn't even choosing anymore.
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Consider how the poem ends "half a gay", and the section in the middle about "pretend I've never slept with a man". She describes living a full lesbian life and still being crowned half a gay at the end of it. If what she's struggling with is the perception of bisexuality as a kind of
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Hey, actually, having read it again, I think this poem is about biphobia, not whether she feels "queer enough" in an abstract sense. It's a very clearly grappling with feeling like an "insufficient queer" because of her sexuality itself.
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Do you...know something about how sex life that we don't? Like, do you know her personally and know she isn't involved with other women? Did she post about it on Instagram or something?
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Obviously, any of those things can help you internalize, but they are not sufficient on their own. Your mind is capable of rationalizing away any number of things if it's motivated enough. Or are the men who regularly have sex with men and call themselves 'straight' not illustrative here?
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You can't "do a behavior" out of a psychological error. That's the point of the poem. You have to internalize it as true, and stop expecting some external accomplishment or behavior to prove it to you, because you will come up with excuses for why that doesn't count.
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By laying out how the psychological process functions, it draws attention to how absurd it is. "But would she actually believe she wasn't gay if she married and fucked a woman?" That's not the point! Because A) some people do and B) they do because the REAL issue is psychological, not behavioral.
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??? The point is the statement is untrue and an exaggeration. She doesn't literally think this. Imposter Syndrome isn't tied to any actual "accomplishment". There are people with national level recognition and skills who still think they are frauds.
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I'm not sure how you read "I could marry a woman and still not feel gay." and not realize that's the point, other than feeling annoyed someone you think isn't doing enough embodiment is speaking.
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That *does* seem to be the actual point of the poem, yes. That all of those signifiers, even the fucking and loving women Alice is extolling as being a fix to the problem, aren't the solution because the problem is psychological.
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This is why I watch nail art videos instead. All the art and details, none of the weird phrenology...
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Mmm no. We have black beans, not black-eyed peas. We can get some BEP, but I was under the impression you were much of a fan?
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Hopefully, Mermaid Game can improve on some of the gameplay things that didn't jive with me.
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>list of transfem stereotypes
>I meet like 85% of them
I'm not sure where that last one comes from. Why was it snuck in there? D:
Anyway, I think this list is just "transes are autistic and nerds" more than anything.
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Hell yeah! I knew you could do it! 💜✨🎉
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Every once in a while, I manage to string words together in a pithy manner. (That is to say: go for it if the spirit moves you.)
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The only solution is a constant grist-mill of items, a conveyor belt of products consumed in a slurry to extract more value from customers who should only have use of one pair of good work boots in a lifetime.
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Hyperefficiency to produce more(not necessarily better) in less time is how capitalism seeks to extract more profit from the world at the moment. All the markets captured, no new horizons in sight, rent-seeking squeezing the proles ever tighter.
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I've seen them too! I think they hit your account because you are trans instead of because of telling him to jump off a cliff. "Only the cis(hets) can tell transes to die! No retaliation!"
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They ban you on twitter for that? I didn't know that. (He deserved it. What a weird fucking thing to post!)
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Under two years is not a long time when you're working on the second draft. Maybe you have to work slower than average, but it's not a sign that you're inferior or incapable. And it's still normal for writers. You aren't uniquely flawed.
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I have been writing, as a hobby, since I was 16. Do you know the first time I finished a story? Late 2023. Do you know how many years that was? 17. It took me Seventeen Years to figure out how to finish a long form story. Seven Teen Years. Like you, I have ADHD, depression and physical disabilities.
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My sibling is a published TTRPG author w/ multiple awards and just had a piece of writing not pan out and has multiple not finished pieces of work. I have multiple unfinished pieces of work. Not finishing work/it taking time is normal.
It's how it works. People don't show off their failures.
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His pathetic weasel flopping about this has gone from amusing to enraging really fast. I thought he was just being his usual "can't read great and likes to fight" self, but this is a consistent stance for him!
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What kind of non-answer is this man? Lots of people(white supremacists) disagree with the characterization of the Confederacy as anti-black racist slave states, but that doesn't make it not true!
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Genuinely, his ability to triple down on his initial stupidest first idea and never retreat or let it go is causing him so many issues here, because he first came up with his stance on this in 2023, and has teflon'd his brain against absorbing more info about the situation.
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They can "conceive" of whatever they want, but the practical reality of its founding principles, and it's practical usage in Israeli policy, is ethnic cleansing based genocide. So? What now?
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You can practice completing things until you get better at it. But even if you never finish a story, you'll still have created something. Even if the only person who reads it is you and/or close friends who see the rawer work, you're still creative.
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This isn't a failure to create. You've written words. You've created something from nothing. That it's not complete is something else. Writers write things. That doesn't mean completed stories, writing words creatively counts.
To be honest, completing things is a separate skill from creation.
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"I've been working on it for two years now". Hey...I have a fanfic I started at 20 that is unfinished, and I am turning 35 this year. Two years is not a long time to work on a novel length anything. I have so many, MANY half-started projects on my computer.