bpdbumpkin.bsky.social
Emotionally unstable bog witch | Mental health & chronic illness advocate | Philosophy & history enthusiast | AuDHD | Collector of rocks | she/her 🖤✨
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Stay strong but don't be hard on yourself. Life is exceptionally troubling these days (and can be in general with BPD!)
Good luck with counselling, I hope to go back to mine soon too 🖤
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I feel you. I think I've spent the best part of the last two weeks in full disassociation mode. I feel empty and numb and need a break from the world.
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That typo is going to drive me mad 😅 *undressed to dressed
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I'm so sorry, but I completely understand you and thankfully there is an entire community of sane people we can lean on, even if it is only online.
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Truly! And it's incredibly disheartening to realise so many people around me (former friends, family, coworkers, etc) are a part of it. Baffling.
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These seemingly simple tasks when broken down can be far more difficult for autistic people as we don't tend to have that "autopilot" switch for everyday tasks. Each task is a process filled with transitions and obstacles.
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The sensation of being wet can be hellish and the process of getting dry can be beyond uncomfortable. Putting clothes back on can be more difficult if the skin is not bone dry creating another sensory nightmare.
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"You know who wears sunglasses indoors? Blind people... And douchebags".
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If self diagnosis leads you to better understand yourself, your past, your relationships, all aspects of your life then it's worth it.
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But what is most important is how you feel about it. If you believe you have this, that is enough. I've had my diagnosis for 1 year (diagnosed at 34) and I'm still learning about it and about myself but it's made things clearer. Same with the BPD (diagnosed at 33). Do what's right for you...
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Is common. Grief is part of the process when you realise you are autistic at a later age than normal. It sounds like you may have experienced this in some way with your BPD diagnosis?
Obviously autism can appear differently as we get older so researching more on adult autism is still beneficial...
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What you mentioned about having difficulties with other children at school rings alarm bells to me. It's definitely worth researching autism in children first to see how/if you relate. This can be difficult, for me it brought up a lot of painful memories and I also grieved for little me, which...
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May come across this is your research.
Autism is a huge spectrum, there's no one size fits all, however there are particular characteristics that we all share (differing in severity but nonetheless are present) - communication, behaviour, and social interaction...
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Ramble away! I really do relate and empathise with your situation. Autism is a neuro-type, BPD is a trauma response, and it is so often the case that undiagnosed autism causes or contributes to BPD. I also have both, I only mention that they can sometimes be wrongly diagnosed because you...
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I mean.. they're pretty much the same size so I can accept this 🤣 but my cat doesn't sneeze in my face like my friend's puggy does 🤣🤣
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I hope this helps and if you have any other questions I'm more than happy to help you out 🙂 it took me years to get a diagnosis and I then went on to get my qualification in understanding autism so I genuinely want to help others going through this.
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If you are not able to seek an official diagnosis, I would recommend just studying the criteria & allow yourself to self diagnose if you feel it fits - most people without autism don't tend to believe they have it so be kind to yourself & if you truly believe it fits then it's ok to accept it...
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But to answer your question (sorry I'm always off on a tangent!) diagnosis absolutely helped me for a variety of reasons.
It didn't suddenly fix anything BUT it gave me reasons & new ways of coping as well as allowing me to give myself some grace and acceptance & to forgive myself when I struggle..
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Personally I find self diagnosis of autism is valid if you've done the research on it and find you relate (plus when pursuing a diagnosis the assessors tend to want to know what brought you to your conclusion so it's good to have a bit of background knowledge)....
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Hey! It's great to meet you!
Firstly I will say autistic individuals often get diagnosed with BPD rather than autism as they do overlap in symptoms and BPD is easier and quicker to diagnose, so it is possible you have one or the other BUT you can also have both...
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I completely agree, and we need to be able to recognise the early stages of these atrocities so as not to repeat them. I feel (for the most part) Europe does this but elsewhere it seems less so. My heart breaks for your family and the families of so many who suffered at the hands of fascism.
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I cannot imagine how horrific a place it is to visit, yet I'd still like to. I heard stories from my grandfather (told to me by my father as my grandfather passed when I was very young) of Belsen - a camp he and his company liberated. That was enough to shock me at an early age.
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If you see someone stealing food, please don't look down on them, rather look at the state of a country that enables these situations to occur.
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Finding work when homeless is exceptionally difficult. You don't have a fixed address, you don't have money for nice clothes/grooming, you don't have access to job searching.
Starting from scratch as a grown adult is not an easy task and meanwhile you're HUNGRY.
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Any regular person is only a few bad circumstances away from becoming homeless.
Illness, caring responsibilities, redundancy, abuse, the list goes on and any one or a combination can leave you homeless.
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What does it take to be taken seriously?! The UK isn't much better in that regard. I'm also homeless but am thankfully staying in a shelter for a few months. Our government doesn't care either & people don't realise how close they are to becoming us with just a few shitty circumstances.
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I'm sorry you have to put up with so much ignorance. The one I get a lot is "I wish I could live off disability benefits and have all that free time"... Like, seriously?! People really think I'm having a good time right now? Also, people think disability benefits are enough to live off?? Smh
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To flip back and forth from 🙂
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Ahh I feel you there haha I always felt left behind in my philosophy classes but it's always good to go at your own pace, you'll catch up eventually.
On the other hand Descartes & Kant are great starters for modern philosophy & I feel they tie in well with Greek thinking so they could be good ones
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I find it refreshing to be surrounded by actual intellectuals but I completely understand you here! But now we can learn and grow from the knowledge of others rather than drown in a cess pit of stupidity and name calling 😅