This is the way

Such question better be asked to psychologist. I am not one

Even dogs pay attention to sirens, unlike some people(

It’s not the matter of difficulty, but of reason for even trying to socialise. For example, you started playing a new game. You can gradually dive into gameplay and master your skills, or you just want easy wins so you buy cheats and play god (also destroying others game experience as a nice bonus)

Because it’s either whining without effort of changing situation or psychological conditions. If you want to socialise - you will find a way, by changing yourself of changing environment. It’s that simple