pure-trash.bsky.social
ND, Social Worker, tired
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I know you’re joking but I’m glad you’re doing what it takes to prevent burnout, even if that means going quiet sometimes. Taking things at a pace you can manage enables you to stay engaged.
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And if they said the n word in either example they would still have said the n word. I promise I understand your argument. IMO it is irrelevant to the point that they didn’t need to use her deadname. We are misaligned and that’s fine, but the conversation doesn’t need to continue.
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I have sympathy for both of y’all. She is also a woman. Plenty of women vote against their best interests. Most wealthy white women did if we’re talking about reproductive freedom specifically. It doesn’t make us less deserving of those rights, it just makes it sad.
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We don’t need to connect on this. I understand what you’re saying as well as the OP. The why of it is irrelevant to me. To say a trans person’s deadname is to deadname them. The OP could have said “this admin will deadname you” but they used her deadname to make a point.
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Then we disagree 🤷🏼♀️ I don’t think it’s ever justified to deadname someone because I’m not the arbitrator of who has “earned” respect. Marginalized people often act against their best interests. It doesn’t immunize them to that marginalization.
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Somebody else saw the vision ❤️
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I don’t think it makes a difference why you’re deadnaming someone. If those aren’t your values, why are you ascribing to them?
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Really sad to see how gleefully transphobic folks get when they’ve decided a trans person doesn’t deserve respect.
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But this administration is proving how unsafe it is to be openly trans. People are going back in the closet because of this administration. Not every trans person has the privilege of owning who they are. Please don’t let your allyship be conditional on if you respect the individual’s decisions.
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You don’t decide if you’re an ally. Marginalized people tell you if they think you’re safe, and they’re doing you a service by giving you a chance to reflect on why your words aren’t showing that. Respecting trans folks isn’t conditional on if you think they deserve it.
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It's never cool to deadname people. You're telling other trans people you can't be trusted.