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Abusers often weaponize your past traumas or vulnerabilities against you. They’ll bring up things you’ve shared in confidence to win arguments or make you feel weak. 💔 This betrayal of trust deepens the wounds and reinforces their power over you. #DomesticAbuseAwareness

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Your healing is a truly personal journey and it is one that only you can walk. #abuserecovery

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Reclaim your precious voice, it deserves to be heard. #domesticabuserecovery

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Abuse enablers are those who knowingly or unknowingly excuse, support, or ignore abusive behavior, creating an environment that protects the abuser and disempowers the victim. #DomesticAbuseAwareness shadowsofcontrol.com/articl...

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Leaving isn’t the end of the battle—it’s the beginning of a new one. The echoes of their words, the habits of survival, and the fear of what comes next don’t disappear overnight. But with time, we begin to rebuild, to heal, and to reclaim the life that was stolen from us. #HealingJourney

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No one should ever ask an abuse victim, "Why didn't you just leave?" Here, survivors explain why leaving is never as easy as just walking out! #DomesticAbuseAwareness shadowsofcontrol.com/articl...

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Abusers don’t lack awareness of their actions—they lack accountability. They avoid apologizing not because they don’t understand what they’ve done, but because facing it would force them to confront their own flaws. You can waste so much energy hoping they’ll grow a conscience or show remorse.

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Domestic violence often begins long before the first hit — with isolation, control, and subtle psychological abuse that slowly erode a person’s autonomy.

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Abusers will test boundaries with “small” behaviors—sarcasm, subtle insults, or slight control—and push further as their tactics go unchecked. By the time their abuse is obvious, you may feel trapped, questioning how you got there. Abuse never starts big. #DomesticAbuseAwareness

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Don't let a toxic person decide on the next chapter. Your story can have a happy ending 🥰 #domesticabuserecovery

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Setting boundaries is one of the most powerful steps you can take in reclaiming your sense of self. #emotionalabuse

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The term "reactive abuse" unfairly blames victims for their defensive reactions to provocation in abusive situations. This article argues that "reactive defense" is a more accurate way to describe these responses to #coercivecontrol and #gaslighting. shadowsofcontrol.com/articl...

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"You’re useless." "No one else would put up with you." "Why can’t you do anything right?" The words may fade, but the impact stays. Verbal abuse is designed to erode your self-esteem until you believe you’re worthless. You’re not. 💜

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Recognizing the signs of an abusive relationship is key to breaking the cycle of harm and reclaiming personal safety, autonomy, and self-worth. #DomesticAbuseAwareness shadowsofcontrol.com/articl...

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Until now, pets in family law were treated as property—just another asset to divide. So happy to see new laws in Australia mean the courts must now consider domestic violence, threats, and emotional bonds when deciding who keeps a companion animal. #domesticviolenceawareness

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Abusers don’t always roar. Sometimes, they’re quiet manipulators, making you question your reality, your worth, and your sanity—without ever raising their voice. #DomesticAbuseAwareness

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They don't just take over your life, they take over the very essence of who you are. #CoerciveControl #emotionalabuse

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Victims don't stay in an abusive relationship because they are weak. They stay when they fear, often rightly so, that the consequences of leaving will be worse than the consequences of staying. That is a very hard place to be in. #domesticabuseawareness

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Domestic abuse victims often rationalize the harm they endure, believing they are to blame or that the situation will improve. This thinking can trap them in the cycle of abuse, delaying the decision to seek help. #DomesticAbuseAwareness shadowsofcontrol.com/articl...

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Abusers often wear two faces—one for the world and one for you. This duality isolates you, as others can’t believe they’re capable of such harm. 🎭

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These first----hand accounts offer a critical insight into the day-to-day realities of #economicabuse and help others understand how control over money can devastate a person’s sense of security and freedom. shadowsofcontrol.com/articl...

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Abuse whispers, “You’re not enough,” until you start to believe it. 💔

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When an abuser tells you you're selfish, it is because that's exactly what they are. They cannot stand it when you don't prioritize their needs above all else. #emotionalabuse

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Whether you are religious or non-religious, marriage never has been and never will be a vow to be abused. #domesticabuseawareness

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Gareth Jones faced a harrowing ordeal at the hands of his girlfriend, Sarah Rigby. From forcing him to sleep on the floor to banning him from using the toilet, her relentless abuse left him isolated and stripped of his dignity. #CoerciveControl shadowsofcontrol.com/storie...

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Abusers are masters of triangulation, pitting you against others—friends, family, even children—to create competition, doubt, and division. 😤

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Projection is when a #narcissist shifts their own undesirable traits, emotions, or behaviors onto their target in order to shield their fragile self-esteem. shadowsofcontrol.com/articl...

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Abusers are masters of triangulation, pitting you against others—friends, family, even children—to create competition, doubt, and division. 😤

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What has been broken, can be mended. #healingjourney

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Abusers are masters at twisting reality to suit their narrative, making you feel like you're the problem while they play the victim. Don’t be fooled by their manipulations—you deserve the truth, not their hypocrisy. #CoerciveControl #emotionalabuse

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You leave an abusive partner, but then suddenly they are everywhere - replying to your social media posts, texting you, turning up to places and you have no idea how they worked out here you would be. This is the scary reality of #cyberstalking shadowsofcontrol.com/articl...

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We become masters of disguise. A brave face, a forced smile, an excuse for every incident. “No, everything’s fine,” we say, even when it isn’t. Because admitting the truth feels more terrifying than living the lie.

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Restraining/protection orders will stop an abuser getting near their partner or stalking them. So what happens when they just hire someone to do it for them? #coercivecontrol #stalking #postseparationabuse shadowsofcontrol.com/in-the...

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Abusers start smear campaigns, spreading false info to isolate you by turning others against you. It’s their revenge & a way to regain power after you leave, causing emotional distress & damaging your reputation, making it harder to seek support. #PostSeparationAbuse

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By reclaiming yourself, you are setting a new standard for your life: one where respect, love, and kindness prevail. #healingjourney

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You might think that if you give into an abuser's demands, they will be satisfied and things will get better. Sadly, it never works this way. They will expect more and more of you until you have nothing left to give. #emotionalabuse

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Drawing from her 21-year experience of #domesticabuse, combined with research and reflection, author Theresa Werba intricately describes the suffocating and enmeshed web of abuse. shadowsofcontrol.com/storie...

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Question: “Didn’t you see the red flags?” Answer: Abusers don’t show their true colors right away. They charm you, make you feel loved & slowly introduce manipulation. The red flags start subtly—by the time they’re clear, you’re already deeply invested.

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If your partner tries to create distance between you and your family by claiming they're trying to control your life, what your partner might actually be worried about is that your family is making it harder for THEM to control you!

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You are enough. Never forget that. Embrace your worth. 🌸💪 #SelfWorth #SelfLove

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Abusers see boundaries as an absolute affront and a direct challenge to their authority and control. #coercivecontrol

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Abusive behavior stems from a need for power and control, and one of the most subtle yet effective ways in which abusers achieve this is by flipping the narrative and acting as though they are the victim. #EmotionalAbuse shadowsofcontrol.com/articl...

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Healing is messy. It’s laughing one minute & crying the next. Taking 3 steps forward & 2 back. Feeling better for a week, then sinking into old fears. Anger at them, then guilt for leaving. There’s no timeline, no rush. Every step, no matter how small, is progress. #HealingJourney

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Self-blame is one of the most damaging effects of domestic abuse, often making it harder for victims to break free. Find out why so many think they are at fault for their abuse. #DomesticAbuseAwareness shadowsofcontrol.com/articl...

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Possessiveness can start small: 🔸Disapproving glances at your outfit. 🔸Criticism when you see friends. 🔸Innocent-sounding check-ins. These behaviors escalate over time. Recognize them early to protect your freedom. #CoerciveControl

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Go easy on yourself. It's a process! #mentalhealth

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