suebrackstone.bsky.social
Life coach. Mindfulness teacher. Hearing loss advocate. Learning BSL.
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Getting Started
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So where do you start?
Pick your moment – a 1-1 chat over coffee is likely to me more effective than trying to be heard at a big family gathering.
Use “I” statements: “I feel [emotion] when [situation] happens.”
Practice setting boundaries calmly.
What tips would you add?
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Guilt and Obligation - Do you feel selfish for putting your needs first? Many families emphasize self-sacrifice, but advocating for your needs isn’t selfish.
Assumptions- “They should know what I need.”
This leads to disappointment. Your family aren’t mind-readers. (Which can be a good thing)
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Power Dynamics- Family roles (e.g., parent-child) can make some people feel they lack authority to assert their needs.
Emotional Baggage - Past conflicts or unresolved issues can make conversations about your needs feel extra charged.
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Fear of conflict – Nobody wants to "rock the boat" or cause tension in family relationships.
Fear of rejection – Worrying that your needs might be dismissed or criticised can make it feel safer to stay quiet.
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Contact her local fire station, they can recommend and possibly fit it free of charge. Some link to a pager that vibrates, others have a flashing light, some have a pillow shaker to wake you up at night
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Congratulations!