zeespencer.bsky.social
They/Them, residing on unceded Ohlone territory.
Worker-Owner at the Cohere Cooperative; stewarding OpaVote, Transparent Classroom, and Convene.
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The next step after defunding every NGO reliant on federal funding is to go after those that aren't. The weaponized IRS could revoke tax exempt status of any organization that advocates for "DEI" or "gender ideology." They could essentially gut the entire nonprofit sector.
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In my worst moments, I struggle with retributive thoughts due to having felt like my life was the acceptable tradeoff to a lot of other folks’ priorities. Because I was, many of us were. That kinda ache is running through A LOT of people.
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we were robbed of the peace and stability we deserve, it's true. We were robbed of the state capacity that would keep us safe and healthy
we were robbed and we are facing a very difficult road
but it's essential to remember that loads of people are complicit in that, even the "good guys" in power
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Many humans realized struggle ends with healthy interdependence. That healthy interdependence intertwingles across personal, domestic and societal contexts.
They built networks of mutual care into their homes, workplaces, cities, and towns.
Maybe we only have to wait a few more years?
#MicroSFF
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Rule follower/situational flexibility/rule breaker - is how the left judges good and bad. We spend disproportionate time judging each approach for its moral failings. I think that is more intense right now because we don’t have a unified thing we’re fighting for. The right has segregation.
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The Montgomery Bus boycott is a good example of how this method can work when concentrated over a long period of time with a clear ask
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And if we’re keeping it 💯, the reason we don’t have these skills in our systems is because misogyny taught us that care work is not valuable and important work that should be invested in - women are supposed to just do it for free.
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If we want different, we will have to build different at all levels. We can’t expect magical thinking to create a new set of emotional regulation skills.
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I’ll talk about this a bit more over time but am happy to answer questions. My big lesson of the last decade is we keep asking for people to show up to our institutions with a 2 gallon jug in a country that thrives on 2oz shot glasses to keep us apart.
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what experiences they’ve had, traumas they’ve faced, what healing they’ve had, what practices they have for regulation, and importantly what behaviors they know shut down the dysregulating experience for them.
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So to give feedback across difference and power can be extremely hard for some and relatively easy for others depending on:
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Race, gender, and class in America seems to shrinks A LOT of people’s cups. Which makes a lot of sense because trauma will do that.
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Sometimes majority groups have barrier to talking about race is trauma they have around “being a good person” or not. Learning becomes constricted by an identity based attachment.
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We are watching men with 2oz shot glasses run the country into the segregationist ground for instance. It is important as a leader to know which subjects shrink your normally large cup and which subjects you have your full bandwidth for.
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Every human needs a set of activities, tools, rituals that empty your cup. The thing is, while the cup goes 1 to 10 in everyone - some folks have a 10oz cup and some folks have a 2 gallon jug. This means your wingspan, what you can hold in a given day, is larger.
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So an extra difficult day with a ton of triggers will have your cup fill up and if it hits a 10 - you can implode (disassociate severely, say terrible things to yourself, withdraw) or explode (yell, externalize internal feeling without control or choice).
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The way this was taught to me some time ago is that we all have an emotional cup, and it has levels. It fills based on different experiences we have which cause us to feel “good” and “bad” emotion.
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I loved looking through the art work! And sometimes they had little comics