reading stuff like this and people's subsequent responses makes me realize how awful i've allowed partners and their parents be to me my entire dating/married life
Damn. There's stoic "dwelling on emotions now won't do you any good or change the material outcome" that some folks do, but if you do that, you gotta learn that to lots of other folks, you're going to come off as cold and emotionally repressed.
So he never talked to his mom? She didn’t go to him first? Partners should be dealing with their own parents and not leaving their issues for the other partner to shoulder. A partner with shitty parents can be handled as long as they don’t make you clean up the shit.
Yeah, the assignment to the kitchen was supposed to be the four of us who were not related to her by blood so that she wouldn't have to move the tables around. So the SOs of her two sons, her own husband, and her sister-in-law of 25 years. (cont.)
My husband and his brother, somehow having turned out to be mentshes despite their parenting, jumped up and said no way, and they and the brother's girlfriend and I turned it into a "kids" table and we had a grand old time away from the rest of the family. And the aunt got to sit with her husband
thanksgiving, my grandparents tried to make my disabled brother eat on the floor out of concern for their table linens. there was already a separate table for the grandkids they didn't like, but they put his plate on the floor. mean people get mean notions.
Anyone who sorts their life this way genuinely cannot be trusted. I pity everyone at the “Blood” table/s for being forced to have someone like that in their lives.
I would really like to know if he ever called Mom out, but if she was blindsided by the bride bringing it up then either A) he didn’t or B) she simply refused to hear it, which is fully possible. and he doesn’t seem to have pressured fiancée to include mom or questioned why she hadn’t
I wouldn't be surprised if she just refused to hear it. When I divorced my first (emotionally abusive) husband he said he didn't understand why, and I was dumbfounded. I told you why multiple times. The marriage counselor told you why. It's not a mystery.
I'm gonna assume the best and say she was paraphrasing but usually for these AITH posts, of the boyfriend is shady AF, it'll come out sooner or later in comments
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Spot of tea?
Keep the fuckers out of your happiness
That’s some seriously messed up shit.