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For me these are the little things that leave traces on others. Also I feel “what you give, you get back and more. Have a great week.
As ever thanks for reading.
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Be kind
Show respect
Show compassion
Be empathetic
Check in
Praise regularly.
Listen
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Locard’s principle shows how every interaction—no matter how small—can make a meaningful difference. So how can this principle be applied in very day life. Simple -
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Helping others can create a ripple effect, where the kindness/support you give encourages others to act similarly. Just as traces left in a forensic scenario can be traced back to their origin, acts of kindness or support can grow & spread, creating a more compassionate community
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For instance, providing emotional support, offering assistance, or even just listening leaves a “trace” of kindness or encouragement, which can help someone feel valued or inspired. These positive traces can affect a person’s well-being and influence future interactions.
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But for me this principle has application way beyond solving crime.
In helping people, each interaction leaves a positive impact, just as physical traces are left in forensic science.
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Locard’s Principle of Exchange states that “every contact leaves a trace,” meaning when two objects come into contact, there is always a transfer of material, such as fibers, hair, or other substances.
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As ever thanks for reading.
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Finally when we introduce conversations on this issue early with young people we help prevent future issues. Much of what I discuss above can be implemented in younger peer groups also.
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I read this story last week. It’s clear pushback from speaking up is still an issue. All Settings would benefit from a focus on how a no snitching culture helps nobody. whilst welfare officers will help it doesn’t address this issue www.bbc.com/news/article...
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Next encourage early action. That way staff don’t need to snitch on their colleagues. Peer intervention is designed to support such early action. Earliest is way best. Early action leads to less harm.
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Build psychological safety. A safe culture isn’t simply the goal. It’s the environment where are goals are achieved. Also such safety isn’t the end result it’s a journey that is ongoing.
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Orgs require to encourage direct open conversation. Many orgs rely on e-learning to address culture issues. Such an approach fails to correct the misperceptions I discussed above. Work to create a culture where staff feel discussing concerns with each other.
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Set clear ethical standard and train leaders to reward teamwork and not just individual achievement. Teamwork is a strength in orgs. It it’s seldom rewarded directly.
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So orgs require to help people tap into their own moral compass and to align that with the mission of the org. In my old profession, policing, that’s simply to help communities. Help build self awareness. Don’t force bakes on staff. Align yourself with theirs.
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Moral rebels have learned to act even when consequences are clear. Why do they do it? Research says that people with a strong sense of inner responsibility are more likely to act. They’ve had this instilled in them since an early age. They have an ability to go against a norm
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This term remains a major inhibitor to action even in cultures where codes of ethics are in place. So what is needed? Remember I’m all about solutions rather than continuing the problem.
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The term is part of the “growing up”rule book. I’ve heard it used in primary schools and it follows us through our lives. I’ve learned that it’s these rules that often lead to people failing to intervene even when friends are involved.
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The phrase snitches get stitches originated in gang culture where snitching (informing) was a serious offence, often punished with violence. Nowadays it’s often used in a more general way in peer groups & communities to express the sentiment that we don’t tell on each other
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All terms are negative and suggest bad outcomes for those who do speak up. The result is often a group silence. Silence is a major issue in organisations. It continues harm. It tells victims we don’t care and tells harm doers keep going. Silence must be addressed.
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Remember I asked people not to share how they feel, more share the wider perceptions of those who do speak up. It’s not likely to be how they personally feel.
For me it’s these misperceptions that often lead to silence.
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Thanks Matthew. We need to be having the right conversation not simply one that appears to be the right one.
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As you know it’s the story telling that has led to the societal discussion. The challenge is helping people work through the discomfort of realising we’re all part of the problem.
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As ever thanks for reading @jnaplescampbell.bsky.social @sorayachemaly.bsky.social @matthew-wright.bsky.social @lizaston.bsky.social @chriscreegan.bsky.social @violencestudies.bsky.social
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Let’s use our empathy to act & create needed conversations with boys. Don’t shout or lecture them. I see many using very neg & gloomy language. The Golem Effect is a psychological phenomenon in which lower expectations placed upon individuals leads to poorer outcomes.
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At this time the Netflix drama #Adolescence is provoking lots of debate. It’s also building empathy. It’s not about excusing behaviour. Accountability must always be present. We saw this after the post office drama. Society started to better support post office owners.
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In many ways their presence is their superpower. Help develop this. When we equip young boys and men with these skills they flourish. We all benefit from investing in such conversations and skill development.
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6. Teach them that strength is as much emotional than physical. Physical strength has a place but at the right time.
7. Develop emotional intelligence.
8. Help them to Stay healthy.
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4. Help them to walk away from neg peer influence.
5. Provide them tools to address negative peer behaviour. Accountability is important. Peer accountability is powerful.
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So what skills do boys need. Here’s my list
1. Help them to find & keep friends.
2. Correct misperceptions that they have about peers
3. Develop their values & beliefs. Not all young men have a stable family life. Coaches and teachers have a role here. Help build their brand
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When we ignite the human soul we all benefit. Providing our young men with skills to be good people is what is needed. It’s not simply lectures on how to behave. We must also help them see that in their peer groups most people have healthy views. Most see Tate as dangerous.
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When it’s strong it helps us to not get involved in bad behaviour. Helping young men develop this will help provide them and us with a powerful weapon to address the likes of Andrew Tate and others. I love this quote from Ferdinand Foch. It’s true.
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I’m talking about developing leadership. For me character matters. Better people make better friends, dads, partners, colleaghes etc etc. Loads of research suggests that it’s the internal moral compass that helps drive behaviour.
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Whilst we do need more male role models we must also help instil a set of skills that will help young men be role models in their own peer groups. We know that the biggest influence on an individuals behaviour isn’t themselves it’s their peers.
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Gareth talks about the importance of belief and resilience. I concur. We must help young men obtain the skills to walk away from these influencers. A set of skills that will help them avoid harmful events and to be successful in their lives.
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The notion of the role model is vital. Male influencers suggest support but it’s conditional. Conditional on supporting their way of thinking. If you don’t then support is withdrawn. At a time when male suicide continues to be a problem support must be present all of the time
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I admire #GarethSouthgate He cares for his team. His transformational style has instilled a belief in his players. A bit like the wonderful #TedLasso who simply wants the best for team.The idea that when you care for players success will come. What you give you get back
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At a time where young men are flaming out academically, in relationships and sexually there’s a clear need for support. I talked about this last week when I discussed the presence of ‘Wolves in sheep’s clothing”. Tate & other online Influencers are a clear & present danger
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I agree. I’m a bit concerned it’s not being used to properly engage boys.