Regularly hear comments like this from non-British peeps and... I get it
But I'm very aware of how viscerally I react to forced bubbliness and positivity. One of our local run clubs claps in each runner, it's lovely, warm and supportive
And I fucking hate it. Comes across to me deeply patronising
But I'm very aware of how viscerally I react to forced bubbliness and positivity. One of our local run clubs claps in each runner, it's lovely, warm and supportive
And I fucking hate it. Comes across to me deeply patronising
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It's almost a national language to complain about the weather, the politics, etc. And will be endorses by near any Brit you talk to.
There are a lot of things the the UK that are crap.
Why pretend they aren't? Might as well verbalise it and let it out- rather then keeping it in.
It also validates and shows it's a shared experience if you agree something was rubbish.
More different cultures and ways of interacting. I've had people who are v.negative who love this stuff - and the reverse.
And I fucking hate it.”
Perfect.
I'll give praise and positivity when it's deserved - and for some running 5K is a massive thing and they deserve all the encouragement and praise. But for the whole group? Each week? With whooping?
Another cultural stereotype: British people apologise if someone barges into them.
That seems the opposite of complaining.
Maybe it’s lack of vitamin D, seasonal affective disorder or irritable male syndrome.
But I see the forced positivity and bubbliness as just the bath water. The baby I am keen to keep is the discipline of prefacing constructive criticism with praise for the good bits.
And yeah, I'm not sure it's a particularly positive feature either but nor, I think, is just giving it when undeserved
But the US ‘we will overcome this challenge…’ positivity was worse when it was insincere and said just because that was what they felt they had to say.
And gah, it goes against everything I was basically taught culturally as a kid. You don't get claps for running a 5k or doing your job
(I also basically see all praise as insincere. Its fun.)
And I get I'm not the target audience - I say that down the thread a bit - its a bit of a me problem, but its there
But I really struggle with that side of it.
Arguably I'm wrong here - but they've also driven quite a lot of people away from the club with it. Which seems to slightly defeat their object...
I think this probably features heavily in the origin story of the clapping.
(But OTOH, a quiet "that was good" from someone you really respect who isn't all that effusive can keep you glowing for weeks. I have a few I still cherish.)
Which is BS. It's about doing it and that's the achievement
I was saved by my Garmin Coach giving me a training plan to a specific goal. It means I can know I hit my goals for the day and don't worry about whether I set a top-3 1k split.