The autistic experience of not having ulterior motives, but constantly having to reassure people of this because they have PTSD from most other people they've interfaced with having ulterior motives 😏
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Yes. We communicate so differently and without subtext, it's highly unusual to them. I reckon most don't believe I actually say what I mean - it's tough.
Because I’ve often thought my entire way around a situation, and so am acutely aware of what ulterior motives could be had, if I let any of that thinking slip, then obviously to someone else, I have those ulterior motives! Can’t win.
I find it extremely hard to engage with people who INSIST I must have an ulterior motive. Like, when I say "I'm confused", it's not passive aggressive or feigned incompetence. I'm genuinely confused.
This is huge! It's like people think I must be up to something or have ulterior motives. I am so transparent but you're right people can't always believe it.
Tfw you realize you’re autistic, and then going out of your way to date/friend other autists makes it feel less like being on a high stakes game show where you don’t know the rules and everyone is mad at you for asking
My son kept having to prove he didn't have anorexia or bulimia when hospitalized for rapid weight loss. No "I have a body image issue" ulterior motive but "I have interoception issues":
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Not having ulterior motives makes you incomprehensible!
& In large part we do not think like them. So they have no idea what we're thinking.
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