there are so many mutuals/creators I wish to engage with more by replying to their posts/messaging them but often times worry that im just butting in uninvited, so for those who reply/message me first, I am grateful thank you π
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At the end of the day, I think we're all here to seek community. Hearing something nice from a stranger or friend brightens my day and is reassuring but I definitely think we all struggle with this lol, hence why this post has so many likes
I feeeeel this. Even if I'm mutuals with someone I worry I'm not exactly welcome to try and engage with them or try to get closer to them. It's scary ;-;
Homie, I can't envision the creator that wouldn't welcome you reaching out. Your work is fabulous, delightful, flat out brilliant. Feel good about that, and feel confident that folks see it. <3
I'm in the same boat as you, Jo. I want to like and comment on all my close friends' posts, but I don't want to make it look like I'm being overly attached/obsessive where they'll feel uncomfortable and probably won't want to see me again which, unfortunately, I think has happened in recent times.
That's the same for me
Am I being too forward ?
Am I annoying them ?
Always grateful to those who interact first
AND you're always invited to anything I do!
Be brave, I'm sure you'd be surprised how many want to work with you in return, I know it doesn't seem like it, but you are quite famous and I think they think the same thing too sometimes. As Shia LaBeouf said
I can honestly relate... At times, I feel like I jump into an existing convo between friends/mutuals, and often times it's like I act as a third wheel.
I understand the hesitation, appreciate the sentiment, and respect the hustle. Just know you're always welcome in my crypt to talk shop or interests! I implore folks not to be intimidated to message me first!
I definitely feel that. Social media has broken down barriers between people but at the same time... that also makes a lot of folks anxious about bothering folks or being parasocial or the like
like, i just wanna send people stuff that i see that makes me think of them, but then my ancient reptilian brain says "hehehhe youre being a nuisance" dhdhd
I can't imagine someone feeling like you are butting in. You have always struck me as such an amazing wonderful creator, but more importantly a kind and genuine human being.
I can't speak to anyone else but if you ever see anything I'm doing, this is an open invite.
I had to force myself to find the right line between my introverted tendencies and extroverted tendencies without crossing the line into "I'm gumming up the replies" territory.
(I literally rewrote this 3 times for this reason).
Well, i always find it funny when a friend from discord finds my twitter and replies like an entity that has been searching for me
Maybe you can start by replying in a post of theirs, it's gonna be a wee bit more "appropiate" to talk to them because they will know who to expect in their DMs
JoCat, you're a continuous source of inspiration, joy, and happiness. I am glad that you are out there doing your thing. Keep on being you!β€π§‘πππππ€π€π€
It's the social anxiety, I'm sure they love hearing from you. Think about it from their perspective. What if they interacted with you? I'm sure you'd love it too. Have some confidence!
Joβ¦Jo!!! Ya are to good a human(?) living being to be a problem to others. People care about ya and would be absolutely delighted that ya chose to initiate a convo with em!! But ya people who actually initiate convos are great
I've had the same problem for the longest time π but i think every interaction, if done with good intentions, is really nice even if the other person doesn't respond (because they are not obliged too), and it could be interesting for a third person
I have let go of the concept of shame and have given myself the authority to act like everyone would be blessed by my presence, which would normally be a red flag but im gay and also very nice
Despite following over a hundred people I still find my feed mostly consists of a few individuals posting every day or so. I wish my interest groups grow on here more
Eh, I know my intention. They can reply or not, and that's their choice. I just hope sending a positive message their way made them smile. If they think it's suspicious or some grift on my part... That's on them, imo.
Of course, that math changes when you're BIG. π Sending hugs β€οΈ
God I feel this so much. It's so hard and when it doesn't pan out it feels so awkward. Though when it goes well you've made great new friends and everything is great.
FWIW: Butt in. Reply even if just to say "Omg I love this your work is amazing!" I've found that helps me break the ice with cool people more often than not, and it's a genuine expression of appreciation on my part because, hey, a lot of people *are* amazing and do great work.
We had a brief back and forth on twitter before I nuked my account so the reply is probably gone, but it was a nice moment of 'hey! that was awesome!' But I struggle with the same thing, I posted the 3rd drawing like a month ago and never tagged you. Making connections is scary, but it's necessary!
gods that's so real. There's so many people, even friends, I want to talk to and engage with more and I always worry I'm just being annoying and my interaction is unwanted. I really appreciate folks who reach out to me first.
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But of course you are welcome lol :P
Youβd be surprised who would be absolutely delighted to see you respond!
Still thankful of the beyblade community here on bsky for putting up with my shenanigans.
Am I being too forward ?
Am I annoying them ?
Always grateful to those who interact first
AND you're always invited to anything I do!
Many of us feel like that. It's the curse of empathy mixed with anxiety. And probably trauma π
anxiety my beloved...
like, i just wanna send people stuff that i see that makes me think of them, but then my ancient reptilian brain says "hehehhe youre being a nuisance" dhdhd
I can't speak to anyone else but if you ever see anything I'm doing, this is an open invite.
I had to force myself to find the right line between my introverted tendencies and extroverted tendencies without crossing the line into "I'm gumming up the replies" territory.
(I literally rewrote this 3 times for this reason).
You're very much appreciated Jo π
Relatable.
It's tough but gotta be brave
Maybe you can start by replying in a post of theirs, it's gonna be a wee bit more "appropiate" to talk to them because they will know who to expect in their DMs
did you know I've a bit of experience when it comes to drifting? You know, back in college they used to
(The crowd boos and pelts me with tomatoes shortly after)
Though anxiety with talking to people is a big fat mood. I wish you luck with engaging with anyone you want to talk to more
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Of course, that math changes when you're BIG. π Sending hugs β€οΈ