I just saw a thing that reads: "The peace I feel without your presence in my life is worth being the villain in your story." And I gotta say... I relate too hard to this. - ThreadSky

valentinebarker.com • 72 days ago

I just saw a thing that reads:

"The peace I feel without your presence in my life is worth being the villain in your story."

And I gotta say... I relate too hard to this.

Comments

corithna.bsky.social•72 days ago

It is amazing how often this statement would prove true for people if we did a better job of educating our young about how to recognize abuse, and what can be done about it.

belfegordo.bsky.social•72 days ago

Either I'm reading it the wrong way or it sounds pretty toxic.

valentinebarker.com•72 days ago

There were people in my life that have cast me as the villain in their story, which is fine, because the amount of peace I experience without them is worth the trade off.

Some people aren't gonna like me, and that's fine. I don't have to ruin my calm to make everyone happy.

belfegordo.bsky.social•72 days ago

Oh, okey, I effectively had read it wrong, I'm not sure if I had read the "peace" as "pain" or the "without" as "with".

mobsie6.bsky.social•72 days ago

If only it wasn't my own mother.....

patriciaspencer.bsky.social•72 days ago

Ohh wow so spot on … yes so comforting 🙏😭

jazzrat2000.bsky.social•72 days ago

Absence makes the heart, well, grow peaceful

deathexuberance.bsky.social•72 days ago

Oooof, this right here!

lousywords.com•72 days ago

I think we’re all a villain in someone’s story. I *know* I am. Those who need me to be evil for them to be the aggrieved party? I wish them well, as long as they are doing well far away from me.

valentinebarker.com•72 days ago

I think that's the point exactly. I know I'm a villain for some people, but I'm done wringing my hands over it and trying to make them happy. If they're over there thinking I'm a bad guy thats okay -- as long they stay over there.

lousywords.com•72 days ago

Fuck yeah.

bella-anne70.bsky.social•72 days ago

Perfect! Perfectly explains my situation. Oh to be that eloquent.

belleofliberty.bsky.social•71 days ago

I have a couple of those people in my past.

damemyniah.bsky.social•72 days ago

Oof, me too

genuinemuffinman.bsky.social•72 days ago

Am I the villain in the story, or am I only the villain in their telling of the story?

25-oclock.bsky.social•72 days ago

That wins.

lauracameron.bsky.social•72 days ago

Yup. I have a sister like that. Or used to.

abstractdragon.bsky.social•72 days ago

The only hard part is learning to be unaffected by what other people think about you. If it bothers you to know other people think something untrue about you, it's harder to execute. Which is why being unbothered is such an important skill. You have to remember you can't prove them wrong so why care

patriciaspencer.bsky.social•72 days ago

Definitely the hard bit .. much younger was never bothered didn’t give a damn I knew my truth within, oddly in later life getting truth out mattered more. And why this is a timely post ☝️😊

valentinebarker.com•72 days ago

Some time ago I came across another quote:

"What other people think about you is none of your business."

It took a while to fully accept, but it has definitely helped.

ikarusmind.bsky.social•72 days ago

Totally. And that doesn’t leave you helpless. On the contrary, you could initiate a conversation to clear up misunderstandings which could change the course of that relationship for the better OR you realize that conversation wasn’t going to change anything except you moving on.

aidenlimitless.bsky.social•72 days ago

Oof. Far too relatable.

fabiosfan.bsky.social•71 days ago

Being comfortable in one’s skin means accepting not everyone will like you. Learning oneself is the greatest treasure in life.
I have another one you may like; Allow others to be themselves, regardless of their suffering. Fixing people is not a real thing. It only distracts another from their pain.