and none of those pieces are being written by people who understand how that level of constant abuse CHANGES you
it’s not a mere tedious cleanup process, blocking today’s round of trolls just like sorting out the junk mail from the bills and birthday cards
it does not live on you that lightly
it’s not a mere tedious cleanup process, blocking today’s round of trolls just like sorting out the junk mail from the bills and birthday cards
it does not live on you that lightly
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Louisa
The thing that keeps getting me about all the pieces fretting about Bluesky being too insular is that the argument seems to be that those of us who are most likely to be abused by the right (BIPOC people, trans people, queer people, etc) must put up with being abused for the sake of public discourse
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Especially when the goal is to trigger you. The vast majority seem to live for 'owning the libs'.
Many of them reject the idea of equality; the social order must be preserved. They *need* to step on us (and implicitly, if they are not, *they* are at the bottom of the pecking order).
Seems like a lot of this reaction is them being angry people they are trying to abuse are extricating themselves from the situation?
One possibility, at least
there’s like, the Elon Musk version of this (active malice and desire to harm) and the Nate Silver version of this (he is smart and we are stupid little babies who are scared of a little healthy debate)
Anyways, the
✨🩷🐚echo chamber🍀🦄✨
is fabulous
I can assure you they hate women, immigrants & people of color just as much. I was incredibly mean to them & at first it felt cathartic but after 2 yrs on "untruthful" social I found myself sinking to their level of meanness. you are not alone
I miss that
I stopped reading replies and messages, cos just vileness.
I'm not yet back to a place here where I can yet, but I'll get there.
Was not going to happen over there.
I considered myself a digital nomad.
Or they think that appealing to their empathy will change them, even though this election should have disabused them of that fantasy.
I shouldn't need to have the answers.
I hate that my friends are breaking or broken or dead.
The worst part? I'm on the sidelines of the worst of the abuse; I'm not even in the line of fire at this time.
It's "I'm not touching you, you're touching ME!" all the way down.
I won't give up that detoxed space.
It was only after I was no longer in that stew (and made some other changes) that I reset.
That's you.
I know there were times where I lashed out, seeing attacks where there were just miscommunications, or where I had a disproportionately harsh response to a comparatively mild infraction simply because it was the 50th one that day
and that is an exhausting way to live
She talks about this facade of nonchalance and the exhaustion of constant abuse too.
https://youtu.be/fhgEuY64ECw?si=uK21LTXF72TVdQGq
The design of the interaction system of that “social” app was inhumane and anti-social.
The virality, the lack of moderation controls, the vanity metrics on posts being hijacked as trophy metrics for trolls, etc.
Good faith interaction was penalized.
It took a long, long time for me to even social media at all.
It wasn't just strangers, I had abusive relatives stalking me too.