If you're gay (and if you're following me, you probably are) what did you think your future would be like when you realized you were? Did you expect to come out and have gay relationships? A family? Or did you expect to be closeted with a beard or as a "confirmed bachelor?"
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Legitimately didn’t believe I would have a future beyond maybe early twenties.
I know if I had come out when I was in university, I would not have survived the AIDS crisis. HIV was circulating, unknown to anyone, during my 20s
I am beyond grateful that so far life has overshot
my expectations significantly.
So, the bar was set pretty low in terms of my life expectations.
I'm so thankful I've grown so much and didn't end up anywhere near that path.
It's funny how death changes ppl. I'm really happy to hear your family has your back now, too.
I was bullied a lot for being different growing up and media didn’t help build any self esteem as a millenial. A lot of therapy and reconciling finally put me in a place where thinking of a future was possible.
I also thought that I’d remain a twink. 🥴🥴
And I'm so glad you didn't remain a twink; you're so sexy as the full ass hunk of man you grew into.
am a long-term abuse survivor.
never expected to make it here.
knew permanent residence in my hometown would lead to suicide.
expected to need less therapy. (delusion)
lost my family and most friends to be out.
'm still figuring it out.
Had to rewrite the skeet a few times due to its nature. "How do you convey not being able to see a future while providing context?" was the thought.
Some days I feel great about being around, other days ambivalent or mad cause idk how to handle certain things that get thrown my way :/
But I think being annoyed at coming out is actually the most sensible emotional response. People act like we're just born in a closet, but that's not how it works! Our own parents put us there!
okay i am, you got me 😒
i was a fucking hopeless romantic teenager.
i thought for sure i was going to find a husband, we were going to get married, and it was going to be happily ever after.
then i became an adult and life didn't work out that way. (1/2)
As a kid I never fully imagined like a particularly strong family life say, I think the single strongest image I had of my adulthood was this idea I was gonna live in an apartment above a neighborhood restaurant, forget exactly when that showed up
And also wondering why Arcee and Bumblebee were my favourite Transformers. 😂
glad you’re not in the closet.
Fortunately my life has turned for the best. I’m in a relationship with my boyfriend who I never imagine I would meet someone like him & living with our dog. And my parents are accepting and proud of me.
And then I tried a straight relationship for a few years and that wasn't wise.
Then I discovered that there actually was a place I fit in a couple days before my 37th birthday.
First time I've really felt like I belonged in a room.
I’m so glad I had the courage to break off our relationship before it got that far.
I moved 1300 miles away, to have my 1st boyfriend at age 30.
I was simultaneously convinced I was normal and well aware that my depression would end me.
Coming out cost me my family and it was the best decision for me
It said I had a mental disorder and would live an unhappy life trying to hide it
But I never thought I'd be 36 yrs married - never crossed my mind that was even an option to a gay person