And BOY is it weird and sad when people try to shame you for maintaining interests/hobbies after your 20s!!! Like, what exactly was supposed to flip like a switch and kill all my lifelong interests dead the moment I hit 30? Cuz this shit feels like projection. You not having fun ain't my fault. - ThreadSky

ironspike.bsky.social • 18 days ago

And BOY is it weird and sad when people try to shame you for maintaining interests/hobbies after your 20s!!!

Like, what exactly was supposed to flip like a switch and kill all my lifelong interests dead the moment I hit 30? Cuz this shit feels like projection. You not having fun ain't my fault.

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your 30s are just your 20s but you finally have names for all the shit that's wrong with you both physically and mentally. also the silly freak shit you like will still be there. hitting 30 does not turn your interests into mist

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gordon-gecko.bsky.social•18 days ago

I think the assumption is that you'll have kids by that point, and the expectation is that you'll devote all your time to them if you want to be a good parent. Doing anything else or even having free time at all makes you a bad parent/ lazy to some people. Hobbies can resume once the kids move out.

lartist.bsky.social•18 days ago

I have never ever understood the whole 'put aside childish interests' attitude. Is that a Puritan thing?

musroom-king.bsky.social•17 days ago

There’s a Bible verse about it (1 Corinthians 13:11 specifically) so it is definitely a puritan/religious thing, and i’ve unfortunately seen the verse used to harass people with “”””childish”””” hobbies (which is how i know which verse it is…)

cursed.monster•18 days ago

Pretty much, yeah.

lartist.bsky.social•18 days ago

Puritans continue to suck down through the generations.

91vaults.bsky.social•17 days ago

I think it also goes back to when most people had kids which does require a big restructure I'm your life

jamiecoville.com•18 days ago

I sometimes feel my generation was the first to ignore this, particularly when it came to comic books. My older brothers said when they went from elementary school to high school (grade 9) you dropped comics, toys and other 'childish' things so you'd be more 'mature/adult'. The whole War on.. 1/

jamiecoville.com•18 days ago

Drugs anti-peer pressure message we were hit with as kids worked on us when it came the things we liked. So when that peer pressure came to drop it, we just said no and continued to enjoy what we enjoyed, but often in secret. Until we discovered somebody else who liked the same thing. 2/2

fifthacecomics.org•17 days ago

I know of some people I will not name who espoused this attitude, and yes, I truly believe them to be fundamentally unhappy people.

The only way they seem to keep going is by trying to drag others down because they gave up on having fun.

zeropointalpha.bsky.social•17 days ago

People to a friend of mine about his miniatures: "*PFFFT!* That's so childish!"
My friend to them: "You know what the best part about being an adult is? *I* get to determine what that means, now! :D"

unclebabypuppy.bsky.social•17 days ago

I’ve had far more hobbies in my 30s than I ever did in my 20s lmao

abbylark.bsky.social•17 days ago

When I asked my dad what he'd like me to know now that he's dying, he said "Be a jack of all trades" basically. He was like I'm dying but I don't feel like it was a waste because anytime someone asked me to try something new, I did. So he ended up tapping maple trees, woodworking, golfing, (cont)

abbylark.bsky.social•17 days ago

playing the guitar, hunting with a compound bow, little light lumberjacking, hiking, camping, canoeing, kayaking, skiing, collecting Disney snowglobes that he claimed were for my mom, going to Disney World, riding horses, light home renovation & plumbing, piano and violin also, and he liked football

justinseitz.bsky.social•17 days ago

I love this :)

jacopobertolotti.com•18 days ago

Joke is on you. I am in my 40s and largely maintain the interests/hobbies I had in my 10s 😉

mrbleargh.bsky.social•18 days ago

Half the stuff I do for fun now, I only discovered in my late 20's. It'd be a shame to unceremoniously dump it all after a few years because some bore on the internet said so.

mrbleargh.bsky.social•18 days ago

I wonder if they're the same people who on Reddit insist they lost contact with most of their friends once they married. It's very weird.

dwoboyle.bsky.social•18 days ago

To be honest, I wish I got some of my 30+ hobbies sooner. Like birding? Don't do it often but it rules! You get to watch little fellas!

jakescholl.link•17 days ago

You shouldn't have to change your interests EVER! If your friends find it embarrassing, too bad.

darthastris.bsky.social•17 days ago

Sounds like time for some new friends in that case. 😂

musroom-king.bsky.social•17 days ago

This is kinda why i’m thinking of leaving feedback at my local library complaining that all the “adult” programs are extremely boring. The fun stuff—art classes, cosplay nights, fantasy book discussion—are usually teens only

amiserablerabbit.bsky.social•17 days ago

The kids are just jealous that I have a Job that pays Money and the Willpower now to Save The Money to purchase the Big Hobby Items.

I remember in BJD and EGL everyone shrieking "How can anyone afford THIS ($200-500)" lemme tell you how many things I spend 200 bucks on in a month...(Owch)

amiserablerabbit.bsky.social•17 days ago

Like I don't have a lot of expendable income, but I certainly have a lot more of it now. What, I am supposed to just accrue money? Might as well just quit society at that point. I want my stupid little hobbies.

darthastris.bsky.social•17 days ago

Big fuckin mood. Star Wars is likewise not a cheap hobby, but it makes me happy to collect my little figures (and occasionally play with them and take dumb pics). I took out a whole ass credit card so I could go on the Starcruiser before it closed and I REGRET NOTHING.

sidhcreature.com•18 days ago

I knew before I even entered my 30s that I was gonna enjoy my 30s far more than I did my 20s

For the first half of my 20s, and most people I've spoken to about this have related, I was not a complete person.

I don't think I was until my late 20s and now I get to enter a decade being fully *me*

sidhcreature.com•18 days ago

We were raised on movies and stories of our parents and our parents' parents owning homes and starting families at 23 years old and developed a whole cultural complex about what adults were meant to look like

Not only can we not afford to live like that anymore, I'd argue we never should have.

sidhcreature.com•18 days ago

I mean we saw their divorce rates and the cultural obsession with husbands and wives hating each other. That sure does *feel* like a problem born of being expected to be married and shooting out babies before you hit 25.

sadpotato.co.uk•17 days ago

For my sins, I let them shame me. I dropped nearly everything, apart from gaming which I never spoke about with anyone. And I wondered why I was so desperately unhappy. Now I'm nearly 40 and trying to reclaim a part of myself I let wither and die.

theodinspire.bsky.social•18 days ago

It’s like when other parents throw their own interests out the window when they have kids. Like, one needs to be a person apart from one’s kids

yuzupool.bsky.social•18 days ago

its always funny when someone who is like 21 and just entered an interest/fandom/whatever thats been around since like the 1970s starts saying its weird that people over 30 are involved. like bitch you cant even buy insurance yet hush up

mrbleargh.bsky.social•18 days ago

'Is 23 too old to go clubbing?'. That's one I always see. Depends which club, I guess.

darthastris.bsky.social•17 days ago

Also, like, who the fuck do they think makes all these shows and movies and comics? It’s not people in their teens or even twenties.

bleentastic.bsky.social•17 days ago

Stop having hopes and dreams you're 31! Have kids instead and be dead inside like I was. Maybe in your 60's you'll get a hobby - the old

necroknights.bsky.social•17 days ago

My Dad spent his entire life coming home from work, sitting down his chair and staring at the TV until it was time to go to bed. Every night, when he turned off the tv he said, “There, that’s my favorite show.”

He had no hobbies.

necroknights.bsky.social•17 days ago

(The joke was he considered the blank screen better than popular television. I may not have made that clear)

tombrazelton.bsky.social•18 days ago

Shit, I feel like I'm ADDING hobbies as I get older?

aiyaruk.bsky.social•18 days ago

My aerial/pole classes have women in their gd 60's - your bones do not just turn to dust and suddenly become incapable of doing anything fun

soloseattle.com•18 days ago

Few things bring me more joy than watching someone in their silver age strap don a pair of platform heels and drop into a jade split. It's GLORIOUS!

soundandtense.bsky.social•18 days ago

Part of the joy of hitting your 30s and 40s is enjoying what you like while realizing you no longer care what other people think of the things you like.

Like, babe, I own my own house and I decorate it with posters of Wonder Woman. Whatcha gonna do about it?

darthastris.bsky.social•17 days ago

*waves to you from my Star Wars bar/dining room*

artfulscientist.bsky.social•17 days ago

spoiler alert: being 40 also does not suddenly make you hate things you liked when you were 39.

or some things you liked when you were 16. :D

darthastris.bsky.social•17 days ago

And now that I’m creeping on 50, I can tell you they don’t go away then either. If anything, you now have MORE time and money to spend on the things you love.

artfulscientist.bsky.social•17 days ago

hell yeah, that’s what i’m looking forward to

dinosprout.bsky.social•17 days ago

honestly all this is so great to hear as i rapidly approach 30. it’s always those quiet little social pressures that get to you before you realize

t3hdh.bsky.social•18 days ago

Hell I am almost 50 and still enjoy my hobbies from my 20s

leverite.org•18 days ago

Preach it! What's the purpose of a life without passions? Sorry if I have more interests than described in the mythical adulting manual folks seem so obsessed with me following

91vaults.bsky.social•17 days ago

Also the fact that more people choose not to have kids so I guess you're just supposed to come home from work and stare at the wall?

nullcast.bsky.social•17 days ago

That's I've of those things I noticed in my teens: All adult advertising is for cars and booze. No way is that healthy.

fruitbat-art.bsky.social•16 days ago

The great thing here though is that if you just tell them where to shove it for long enough then they'll eventually turn 30 and stop coming into your spaces anyway.

coocoopuffs.bsky.social•17 days ago

Few things more childish than turning your back on harmless hobbies for the sake of looking more "mature".

I don't want to spend the rest of my life validating everyone else's.

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