I’m asking for thoughtful responses:
What is the best way to approach life in this era with close family members (spouses, siblings, parents, children, etc) who are on opposite sides of the Trump issue?
What is the best way to approach life in this era with close family members (spouses, siblings, parents, children, etc) who are on opposite sides of the Trump issue?
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Surround yourself with tolerant people.
Musk attacking our denomination got some of their attention.
#beexcellenttoeachother
I told them that nani & grandpa love you & they believe their vote was what is best for you.
We can disagree and yet still love them. In order to keep the peace we have a no talking politics rule.
Best I could come up with.
Praying that you and your
I've told people at church, "I didn't come here to talk politics. I came to draw near to my Savior, my Shepherd." If they press, I repeat gently but firmly, "That's not why I'm here."...
I may even ask, "How can we love God, ourselves, and our neighbor better within this issue?"...
We just talk about the weather, cute animals like bears, or maybe sports (although that doesn’t interest me but I pretend)
... about a lawless offshore concentration camp of torture and abuse where enemies of the regime were scooped up and disappeared.
... about how much it sucked when the big neighbor country invaded us out of the blue.
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If not, protect your peace and shut them out. When they try the “I just think family is more important than politics” bullshit, don’t engage. Shut them out.
I could tell by his expression that I shocked him with my anti Trump rhetoric.
https://leavingmaga.org/they-left-maga/
Begin with first principles. Can we agree about the most basic things. What kind of world do we want to live in & how do we want our community to look like?
Only then can we begin to discuss specifics. Anything less and we're just talking past each other.
‘along with your muddy shoes, please leave all politics and negative comments at the door’
It worked.
People say “just cut them off”
Well, you may be talking about a spouse. A child. An only sibling. To each their own but that does not seem like a good answer for most people.
A child : That’s not what I taught you .
Our siblings : Those are not the values and things we grew up knowing
Other Family , best bet is not engage in politics
Friends , we may need to cut off or distance they r
not who we thought
I don’t know how to navigate these relationships. I’m struggling.
But if anyone else is still supporting Trump, I’m done. They can keep it to themselves, or I’m cutting them off.
I’ve tried for years, now it’s too late. They don’t care about the Constitution.
The only thing that will change their minds is personal pain.
Openly hostile and angry.
So however much trouble you think we are in, it’s worse.
They would prefer authoritarianism over admitting they were wrong.
So much of being on the Trump side is buying into the lies. Only a careful and accurate telling of truth can dispel the falsehoods. We are obligated by our Christian faith to expose lies and to not engage in telling lies ourselves.
But it’s all so painful.
I don’t trust them.
The lack of shared news sources is a big part of the problem and treating that first can build trust later.
This assumes you have a good rapport despite things.
If not, then you politely but firmly have to assert that you think they are wrong and that you believe that Trump will not only fail in his promises but hurt them personally.
If they want to reach out and apologize for their support of that man, I'm here for them. Until that happens I'm done with them.
I didn't communicate this to them. Just stopped talking.
We avoid all politics. If they cross the line on a topic with snark, it's off limits. I hold my boundaries.
So I'm going to try asking them to think about what it means if it turns out that is what will happen.
People who are ok with what Elon is doing, ask them if they'd be ok if Biden had given George Soros the ability to do it?
What if Obama had blamed plane crashes on white privelige? Exc
I do not talk politics or religion with them.
It’s a difficult situation, but they are my family..
It is hard.
[14] For the whole law can be summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” [15] But if you are always biting and devouring one another, watch out! Beware of destroying one another.
https://bible.com/bible/116/gal.5.14-15.NLT
BTW, I've had to do the same with pathologically Never Trump family as well.
It is NOT easy.
Say nothing.
If asked for an opinion, offer up an anodyne bromide, and stick to it no matter what.