I feel like it’s OK to consult ChatGPT for initial ideas, but then rewrite it in your own words, just like you would with a school paper. Maybe add personal details or favorite memories. Even a heartfelt “Me no word good, happy birthday!” works. People crave honesty more than they crave perfection.
That is peak laziness. It's so dumb too. Everyone would rather have something heartfelt and genuine, even if it's not perfect, over AI-generated stuff like this.
FWIW, I’m a professor who grades lot of student papers. In my experience, while plagiarism detectors are accurate, AI detection algorithms give lot of false positives (saying something is AI generated when it’s not). I do not trust them enough to flunk a student.
Main difference is that he is not her student with passing conversations and essays. They intimately know each other and more importantly she noticed the difference in the writing style first.
Of course. But, from personal experience, some of my own "greeting card" messages probably were (are) equally clunky, cringe, and very unlike my standard writing, even if heartfelt. At least it didn't include a made-up reference, or "As a large language model ..."!
Ditto. This is an important point! I see a lot of ai use in student papers and have yet to find a good ai detector outside of my own experience with the student and knowledge of the way they normally talk and communicate. I'm not excusing the bf but don't throw him out bc gpt0.
I mean… isn’t that just the same as buying a greeting card and writing your name in it? I’m very anti-ChatGPT but it just sounds like if it was ai-generated, it’s no worse than buying a card.
Addendum to my original thought: yeah when it’s a getting you KNOW the other person didn’t write it. That’s an excellent point I didn’t originally consider. So, there’s some overlap but yeah, this seems on the sketchy side. But I don’t assume the worst based on this. Some ppl don’t words good.
It’s like the worst ever retelling of Cyrano, where the wordsmith has no soul and the one proffering such emotive is nearly as dead inside as the automaton itself.
For the love of. If you want words put in your mouth do it the accepted way. Dude could have spent 5$ on a hallmark card with rewritten sentiments and signed his name. This way he’s fake and cheap. >_>. Not a good combo.
Unless there's a follow up where she asked him about this and he admitted it was AI, there's at least a 50% chance this guy is being piled on for nothing.
If it had written something spectacular that would be one thing. But this is just such generic prose and platitudes. It feels as soulless as if it had been written by a committee of marketing executives.
to be fair, ZeroGPT (and AI checkers in general) tells me MY writing style is AI because AI checking is kinda trash (or i am a robot?) but yeah, if it's not expressions he normally uses, yeah, probably AI... honestly if i were her, I would have appreciated a simple "happy birthday" over this
Man, I would have a hard time (but I know it's different when feelings are involved) not just taking a screenshot of the ChatGPTZero thing and sending it to him. Or write a sort of stock letter response...
"Aww (insert partner's name). Thanks for thinking of me on (insert special occasion)" But of course don't actually fill in the paranthisis. Leave them just like that.
There was nothing personal in that, he didn't even give any points to Chat to make it specific to her. It fundamentally lacks effort or thought. It could have been written by a stranger.
So not enough thought?
I’m sympathetic as I’ve used it to write card greetings and messages when I don’t what to write. Not my strength
But ChatGPT writes excellent challenging communications, for the benefit of the recipient. If more people used it, it’d probably remove a lot communication errors
I the person can tell he didn't try. They're telling us it feels impersonal, and they know him personally. I get the instinct to feel sorry for someone who might fail to meet a moment, but failure is not something to try to hide in a personal relationship, imo. He let her down.
If he had written it himself, it would be more genuine and as such way better.
He used an AI to come up with an "i value you" speech and achieved the opposite.
Because in personal affairs you do not want nor need polished words. You want stumbling and "stupid" because these mistakes make it human.
Most men are not good at writing heartfelt messages, so men stole song lyrics or copied poems in the past. This guy used AI to help him express what he can't normally, which is not necessarily an easy thing if you get the prompts wrong. He made an effort, unlike too many we read about here.
It's kinda funny to me, that this AI text tries so hard to write a "I value you" speech for the lazy ass guy and the recipient did not receive it as that, because it reads so incredibly fake.
Write “Dear NAME OF BOYFRIEND” (Write that, not his name.) “We regret to inform you that your services as BOYFRIEND are no longer needed. We wish you the best in your future endeavors.” Or she can be frank and tell him she would rather a real message than an AI one, and breakup if he does it again.
He is bad with words and wanted help getting them right. Not a red flag. Not worth getting mad about,but worth a sincere and loving conversation at some point.
There was nothing personal in that, he didn't even give any points to Chat to make it specific to her. It fundamentally lacks effort or thought. It could have been written by a stranger
Where does it say he is bad with words? He could just be lazy. Besides, I don't don't think most want to receive some uncharacteristic paragraph from their loved ones. They want to hear/read their own words expressing their own feelings. Even if they don't write well.
I am begging men to just research (read) romance even just a little instead of trying to use a machine as your Cyrano. Buy a fucking book of love poetry from actual people if you’re not confident in your own words. You could even just read ones you like aloud to your beloved. Don’t do this dumb shit
Or just... tell her you love her? (if you do). Tell her things you like about her. Say you're not good with words but you want her to know she matters to you! Surely none of that requires more than basic language skills...
My husband shows his love in many other worthwhile ways but I do sometimes wish he was better with words. Thankfully he is extremely thoughtful with what he does so he wouldn’t do something as careless as this.
Ill be the devils avocate here : maybe he did'nt feel "up to par" writing something on his own, maybe hé wanted to impress her. And maybe he does'nt have good writing skills.
Right?? My bf isn't much of a poet either, but when he wasn't home for dinner bc of work and picked something up on the way, he brought me dessert. It's those regular little acts of thoughtfulness that tells me he loves me more than words ever could.
WORD. I'm notoriously bad at writing cards. So I draw on cards I give people. Or cook food for them. The effort says something. The lack of also says something but the wrong sort.
If he couldn't be bothered to write a real one, then he probably doesn't feel any of those things written in the fake one. That's the problem. Why are men.
What happened to these guys? i can write something better than that. Heck, i wrote a song for a girl I was interested in. I have written poems for multiple girlfriends. it isn't hard to express your feelings in writing
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And those AI detectors are shit.
Maybe it's coz most of them haven't ever talked to women outside of family and elementary school, but still.
I’m sympathetic as I’ve used it to write card greetings and messages when I don’t what to write. Not my strength
But ChatGPT writes excellent challenging communications, for the benefit of the recipient. If more people used it, it’d probably remove a lot communication errors
- He claimed he wrote it, so he’s dishonest
- There’s nothing personal, so it’s not about her
He used an AI to come up with an "i value you" speech and achieved the opposite.
Because in personal affairs you do not want nor need polished words. You want stumbling and "stupid" because these mistakes make it human.
Everything is better than cobbled together AI slob...just speak from the heart, man.
It would give me pause if a bf did this, because it comes across as him thinking, oh women love this stuff.
If he’d even said “I couldn’t come up with better words so I asked a chat bot” he’d be less icky. He attempted to pass this off as him.
I asked an ex to compliment me, about me, not him. He couldn’t.
This guy essentially AI-generated a couple of greeting cards from CVS 🙄.
This said, he should be upfront about it