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I did vote for Harris so I am speaking from a distance here but I think its largely the whole dem party failing to connect with voters. Not Harris specifically. I was consistently disappointed by the continuation of the same unpopular talking points. And not standing strongly on populist values.
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If it helps, I think its def not an innate thing. Im still working through my mental health stuff but the gendered social conditioning is very strong, and it was taught. There's so much nonsense that ive been able to free myself of. It's just a long awful process and needing a strong support network
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Everyone deserves to take up space and I cant let society tell me that because my roll has changed I still need to stay small. I can take up space and allow space for others and have a healthy level of interaction with the world.
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Fr. It was the most paralyzing feeling when I first came out. I've been transitioning for about a decade now and am only now really discovering my voice and learning that it is okay to take up space.
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I also think there's issues with ppl raised to diminish themselves and transitioning and finding themselves still diminishing themselves because men take up too much space. Which is obviously an issue but I think it does create a weirdness for transmascs to tackle internally.
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Yeah its weird. I dont have issues with ppl being fem, I just feel like an outsider not fitting the aesthetic. I also have more community with transfem ppl, but not knowing transmascs at all makes it an issue. I blame marketing and queer capitalism alienating a whole wing of us.
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I wrote a bit about my issues here too (first posts of about total 30 ive made). It feels like there's a fem coding to the queer community even with transmasc, like flamboyant gay guy vibes, I think people who don't fit that aesthetic tend to just not feel at home in the queer community.
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Weird pile of shit. I will say some of the choices were so stupid it was funny. So not a complete waste of time 😆
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Lol this sounds like a joke but it's not!
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Share this far and wide -
From "On Tyranny", at your library here:
share.libbyapp.com/title/3108868
shorter version: snyder.substack.com/p/twenty-les...
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Hope you like them!
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First Kings Field is kinda tricky to list too... I definitely like it a lot and it's a bit rudimentary in a way that I'd want to make it an honorable mention earlier in the list but wouldn't be able to pick a spot.
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Pretty dang accurate for me too. I'd swap demons and DS and I'd put KF 3 below demons followed by KF2. Then the first armored core. No idea on where shadow tower would fit, haven't played that one either and I'd rather not speculate.
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After my first exposure I endeavored to sit with everything that made me physically uncomfortable. I'd say a major influence to my drive to work through my PTSD over the years.
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Accurate 😂
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It was an excellent episode, it was super weird seeing spock and colombo in the same scenes at first but they are both excellent actors, I got over it very quickly. I'd recommend anyone check out the episode, it's on Tubi!
tubitv.com/tv-shows/586...
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I did reach out to my primary dr & they are referring my experience to the referral team, so hopefully less ppl are sent her way... if you have a bad experience like this, there are things you can do about it to affect change!
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I thought that was bull & first chance I could go into an urgent care was this morning & sure enough my hand was infected & the dr was shocked at what my surgeon said. He assumed she told me to seek medical attention... nope! I am on the mend though & hopefully will be able to resume life shortly
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I hope this is a decent introduction of who I am as I process the last decade of exclusion from life and as I step into a world of self discovery and allowing myself to BE, despite the apparent packaged queer uniform.
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I love HK, it moved me to tears on many occasions, it is the closest to representation I have found that did not make me feel out of place, but I don’t know any other queer folks who appreciate it as queer rep as well. It doesn’t fit rainbow capitalism so off to the side it goes, along with me.
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My search for non fem coded queer media has lead me to Hollow Knight, fellow bugs treat you as a weird thing and don’t use pronouns for the PC. The game’s centered around a bug society where gender is performed & use of neopronouns is there so it doesn’t feel like a reach to draw this conclusion.
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I was a lurker on Twitter when I was on there too because a lot of the same problems were identifiable there. Where was this masculine representation that was so horrible it overtakes everything? This is a male centric society, but rainbow capitalism seems to be anti masculinity in what it presents.
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Why can’t trans masculine people pass and still be accepted by the queer community™? Why must we disappear? I don’t relate to cis men at all, I’m not a man but people will perceive me as a man and expect me to fit. I’m in limbo.
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On top of issues in FB groups I was seeing a lot of queer media in my feed that was all fem coded even if they were about trans masc ppl. It seemed like if you were going to be a masc person in the queer communityâ„¢ you had to be an ethereal unicorn aesthetic or identifiable as afab. Not my vibe.
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So what do I do? I can’t continue to minimize myself & clearly I wasn’t welcome to take up space in the groups meant to shield me from the cis gaze. So I became a lurker without identity. I left FB many years ago recognizing I was in a state of constant angst and this was harming my mental health.
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Also ppl raised as men are raised to take up more space & trans fems might try to take up less space in their transitions, but they do still need space like everyone else. But me being new to the queer community™ saw men are taking up too much space and felt that I wasn’t allowed to take up space.
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At the time these groups were struggling with balancing the trans fem and masc posts and trans mascs were taking up a lot of space. But ppl raised as women are raised to take up less space and in transition I wanted and needed to break out of that, presumably everyone else too.
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I am an agender trans masc individual and was eager to begin the search for community when I came out on Facebook back in 2014 (FB has since removed my coming out post). I struggled finding community. I joined all sorts of FB groups and was looking to post my own stuff after lurking for a while.