phazel.bsky.social
The name stays for as long as it's true. Urban hermit, queer crip, knitter, tech ghost, ND, parent, gay married, any pronouns.
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Previously @phazelic on Twitter.
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"He said he is proud of the work he did in parliament despite it being a challenging, and sometimes abusive workplace."
Yeah sounds like it.
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What a sore winner. This is so unnecessary, childish, and pathetic. What a way to ruin the good time we're all having.
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"Wait when was Jeremy Corbyn the PM of Australia?" is a thought I have had multiple times in my life and it's very embarrassing so please do me a solid
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Not quite, it went down by half a percent from last time. But it's definitely not as huge a turn from the public as the media are making it sound. I don't think most people turned against the Greens so much as very much didn't want Dutton, and many still don't understand preferential voting.
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I think the implication is clear tbh
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“Are you sick?”
“No I’m just a good person.”
Ends the conversation really quickly.
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He may well be back next time
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I’m not nice I’m angry.
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I haven't actually been allowed to build anything in almost half a decade. It's just a fight to get hired at the next place that will fire me.
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Thank you, but sadly I don't get to work on anything. I recently lost my job when I came back from maternity leave. And when I do have a job, I'm not allowed to actually solve problems because it makes the greasy tech fascists feel insecure so they report you to HR and get you fired. It's a farce.
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I used to feel proud to tell people I was a software developer.
[stares into the distance]
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I hear you. I’m dealing with it in a very close relationship and honestly it’s the most heartbreaking thing of all the things I’m going through right now. They say they understand and it will change but evidence suggests that’s just another instance of dishonest avoidance. 💔
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Lmao we said the exact same thing at the exact same time
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Yep. It’s all down to how cowardly our culture is. Everyone is so terrified of conflict that they imagine it everywhere, and thereby actually create it. If I don’t want to do something I simply decide not to do it, and communicate that decision as politely as I can. It’s not actually difficult.
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The true contrarians
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Yeah. Or even just see the "inconveniences" as somehow reflecting some aspect of the relationship. Like you're using it as an excuse to not spend time with them, and they'll just politely accept what they perceive as a slight and move on. It's all built on the assumption of an abled body.
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People pay good money for that
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Yeah this is it. I have *one* close friend who has seen me through and I trust to stick around. That friend grew up with a disabled parent. I don't think that's a coincidence.
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Imagine the competitive advantage a company would have right now if they actually let their employees do work that makes money.
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Oh don't worry I know, I live there. I've read about the other kind of burnout though and it does seem to apply to most cases. My knowledge of it is entirely theoretical though. đź«
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And even then a big part of burnout recovery for most people is doing activities that bring joy, not just exclusive inactivity
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There are a few factors in losing those seats, but the whole situation is being misrepresented and framed only from the perspective of Labor voters, as if theirs is the default. I don't think most consistent Greens voters are condemning the Greens right now, but they make it sound like we are.
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The criticism that's being cited as the reason Greens lost their seats is the reason Labor voters don't vote for them. Yeah, duh. They don't want the better thing. I do.
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That makes sense! Thank you for indulging my curiosity
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I was assaulted on a train, had spinal injury symptoms, couldn’t walk. I was kicked out of the ER because I had EDS in my history and the doctor deemed them all hypochondriacs and “frequent fliers” despite my having never been there before. I still have additional symptoms from it 6 years later.
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Being a human barometer is also a fun feature of EDS/hypermobility. Our necks are so messed up that the change in air pressure gives us a headache, migraine, or just makes us feel lousy before a storm comes in. What’s the mechanism for Crohn’s disease alerting you to the weather?
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I don’t want to make assumptions, maybe the UK already has preferential voting. Sorry, I didn’t look it up before making my comment.
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Something that makes our compulsory voting system really work is also having preferential voting. I’d say you really need to have both to get the full benefits we see over here.
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I wish my baby didn’t have to become homeless just because I can’t figure out how to exist in society.
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Maybe that’s right. Maybe I deserve this. I don’t understand how, but maybe that’s part of the problem of what’s wrong with me.
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Like they say, assholes don’t do well professionally. Maybe I just have no moral compass, so all the successful assholes I see are actually wonderful people and it’s me who’s the asshole. I have no idea anymore. I just wanted to write code and make a living, and I can’t. I’m not allowed to.
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Then I tell myself that’s just a cope. Just because I’m a failure doesn’t mean everyone is. Maybe they’re just better than me. Maybe they’re just more likeable than me. They have the right looks, the right tone, the right body, the right attitude. Maybe I’m just a bad person and everyone can see it.
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Sometimes I even get low enough to wonder if I should have just had sex with the men I was supposed to have sex with, was expected to have sex with, in exchange for having a career. Maybe that’s what smart successful women do. Maybe nobody has really made it at all.
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I’m such a good software developer. I don’t like talking about tech anymore because of the trauma but fucking hell I know I’m still good at it. But I don’t have the right kind of body, the right kind of face, the right kind of voice, the right kind of social presence. So I’m garbage.
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I was going to reply with exactly this
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Also gotta give it up for this queen I saw on the way to the rally
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What the fuck did I even learn any of this for. I'm just the canvas on which men paint their careers. I'm team filler, so they have someone to lead. I could be replaced with a cushion and nobody would even notice the difference.