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Undiagnosed autism is... #AutismAwareness

submitted 12 hours ago • 15 comments

If you're undiagnosed but strongly suspect you're autistic, the chances of you actually BEING autistic are extremely high. There's absolutely no benefit to moving on with your life as though you're not & EVERY benefit to you moving on as though you are. I hope you know that. ❤️

submitted 6 hours ago • 24 comments

Fawning… A trauma response often seen in autistic people (especially women) What it can look like: - not saying no to things - over-apologising - doing “anything to keep the peace” - suppressing stims - downplaying sensory needs - tolerating bullying - always prioritising others’ comfort

submitted 1 day ago • 6 comments

How to Be a Better Friend to an Autistic Person (As Suggested by Autistic People) www.thearticulateautistic.com/how-to-be-a-... #Autism #Autistic #ActuallyAutistic #AutismMom #AutismDad #AutismParent #Neurodivergent

submitted 19 hours ago • 0 comments

If you've heard the term "autistic meltdown" but aren't quite sure what it means or what it actually looks like, this post is for you... I think most people hear the word "meltdown" and envision a person kicking, screaming, and thrashing around... usually a child.

submitted 18 hours ago • 14 comments

Canadian citizens: please go out to a polling station and vote on Monday (if you haven't done so already). This election is too crucial and high-stakes to sit out. Using your democratic voice matters more than ever for Canada's future. votewell.ca smartvoting.ca #cdnpoli #election #canadavotes

submitted 2 days ago • 0 comments

So with rejection sensitivity comes an intense fear and anxiety related to criticism and judgment... but it also comes with a desperate need to feel accepted. And I think we need to talk about this more. Because it's much more deeply internalized and way harder to rationalize yourself out of.

submitted 3 days ago • 17 comments

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Movie you've watched more than six times using gifs bsky.app/profile/alis...

submitted 3 days ago • 1 comment

1. Going to bed early 2. Not leaving my house 3. Not going to a party My childhood punishments have become my adult goals.

submitted 3 days ago • 5 comments

My partner just referred to me as a 'limited edition special flavour'. 😂

submitted 3 days ago • 0 comments

Autistic people can speak clearer than the most pristine water from a deep aquifer and STILL be told that we are saying something totally different (and always “offensive” or “rude”) It isn’t you autistic comrades. It’s other people not willing to hear you.

submitted 3 days ago • 14 comments

A note to all my fellow autistics: You weren’t being awkward, difficult or unreasonable You just had unmet needs Whilst trying your best to survive in a neurotypical society

submitted 3 days ago • 7 comments

Autistic person: Has a mentally crippling reaction to something. Is in full blown distress. Person who doesn't understand autism: "Why are you overreacting? It's not a big deal. Just get over it." Autistic person: Is invalidated and still in full blown distress.

submitted 3 days ago • 53 comments

You can’t build an autistic relationship on performance. If you’re masking, you’re not connecting. Real relationship starts where the script ends. Where you stop trying to be easy to love and start being you. Authenticity isn’t optional for mental health or connection. It’s the foundation.

submitted 6 days ago • 5 comments

Hello autistics 👋 You're valid as you are. Your experiences are valid. Your life journeys are equally valid. You're not a burden. It’s not your fault things are hard sometimes. Your needs are valid and there is no shame in needing support. You're worth more than your ability to make money.

submitted 4 days ago • 4 comments

"Autism doesn't excuse you from bad behavior" No one's saying it does. The problem is that people seem to think 95% of autistic behavior is bad even when it's not. We can't do anything without being criticized. All we're asking is that you stop vilifying us for existing. 😫

submitted 6 days ago • 13 comments

Autistic people are not diseased. Even those of us who have public meltdowns and use harmful coping strategies because that's all we know how to do to survive. Reducing us to a disease diminishes and removes our intrinsic value as humans. We deserve better. Stop it.

submitted 6 days ago • 11 comments

A recent study found that "mild" stress is enough to trigger PTSD in autistic individuals. Think about that. MILD stress triggering PTSD in autistic individuals. And not enough people are talking about it. This is a SIGNIFICANT finding, if you ask me. So let's talk about it...

submitted 6 days ago • 21 comments

An Autistic Meltdown Is Not a Tantrum - How to Spot the Difference and Avoid Further Traumatizing Your Loved One vocal.media/families/an-... #Autism #Autistic #ActuallyAutistic #AutismMom #AutismDad #AutismParent #Neurodivergent

submitted 6 days ago • 2 comments

"A new disease registry is being launched to track Americans with autism" 😳

submitted 7 days ago • 624 comments

Happy #EarthDay to our friends around the world! 🌎🌏 Our friends in Australia should hold on to something. 🙀😹🐈 #catsofbluesky #catsky

submitted 7 days ago • 0 comments

Mostly out of autistic burnout I think. Would be nice to have friends again lol

submitted 7 days ago • 3 comments

Finland just seems to get it right - education, housing. #TaxTheRich #ClassWar

submitted 8 days ago • 155 comments

Aaaaaabsolutely NOT. For exactly what reason do we need a registry of autistic Americans? www.cbsnews.com/news/rfk-jr-...

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One of the things I sort of touched on in my @msnbc.com column but didn't fully get to tease out: Framing high-support needs autistic people as a tragedy doesn't do much to provide them the support they need. Rather it adds shame. www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnb...

submitted 8 days ago • 19 comments

Some autistic people don't speak, some speak a lot. Some stim, some don't. Some avoid eye contact, some don't. Autism isn’t just one story. It’s a library full of wonderful people.

submitted 8 days ago • 55 comments

"Everyone gets sick at some point; everyone needs healthcare resources. Blaming people for requiring care has historically been a way to justify horrific treatment of the disabled, including autistic people." www.publicnotice.co/p/rfk-jr-wro...

submitted 8 days ago • 35 comments

[Intense staring intensifies] #adhs #adhd #adhdmeme #meme #productivity

submitted 8 days ago • 0 comments

❤️

submitted 9 days ago • 11 comments

Introverts be like: “please invite me so I can say no and feel included.”

submitted 9 days ago • 12 comments

That dark thought I’ve kept at bay for a time. Two attempts. Countless thoughts. Autism doesn’t kill you the indifference, the misinformation and the alienation does.

submitted 8 days ago • 1 comment

I have a young cousin around 20. Studying in Canada. He’s been following my journey while trying to make sense of his own life. Only met him a few times. Enough to know. He reached out. Difficult time. Lost and scared. No one did this for me when I was young but I can do it for him.

submitted 8 days ago • 2 comments

One of the worst parts of discovering the extent of your masking is realising how many relationships were based on the masked version of yourself, and that those relationships will fall apart if you unmask. #autistic

submitted 9 days ago • 5 comments

Thanks so much. If you liked my apperance on CNN, you can buy my book here. #Booksky #AutismAcceptanceMonth #ActuallyAutistic #AutisticAuthors #AutismAwarenessMonth www.harpercollins.com/products/wer...

submitted 9 days ago • 3 comments

The autistic urge to ONLY speak when you’re pretty sure or very sure about something (including having done a ton of research in your spare time about it)… whilst the average person will just speak regardless #autism #anxiety

submitted 9 days ago • 20 comments

What you see: Disabled person out and about. What you don’t see: What it took for them to get out, what it’ll do to them later, the amount of pain they’re in but hiding right now, the sacrifices they’re making to be out, the harm it’s caused them.

submitted 9 days ago • 15 comments

submitted 10 days ago • 4 comments

My autistic brain naturally tries to go into problem solving mode. However, I’ve learnt that sometimes people don’t want solutions. They instead want to vent or want someone to comfort them. So, now I try to tailor my support to each person and situation. I don't always get this right but I do try.

submitted 10 days ago • 9 comments

I’m an introvert. It’s not that I don’t like people — I just value peace. I recharge in quiet, not crowds. I speak when it matters. I’m observant, not distant. I crave real connection, not constant attention. I’m low maintenance, high depth. If I choose your company, it means everything.

submitted 10 days ago • 13 comments

To those pushing for a "cure" for autism, I'd like to explain a few things to you if you're open to listening... which I hope you are. Autism is a brain wiring difference. It comes in many forms. \1

submitted 10 days ago • 16 comments

It is important to share experiences. Just a few years ago, I would have seen this as a very strange and unique experience. And today: it seems to be a well-known ADHD thing. #adhd #adhs #masking

submitted 10 days ago • 1 comment