constantly feeling like i'm on walking on a razor's edge of painting an accurate picture of how scary things are right now for us so that they "get it" vs. becoming known as their "downer tranny friend who is always talking about heavy shit" and them just tuning me out because they're uncomfortable
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Juni! 🥰
it kinda sucks that I have to trauma dump to cis people for them to understand even a sliver of the pain we go through
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like, a) not helpful, and b) i am a trans woman who came out at 31! i spent decades finding joy where i could! i am better at it than you!!!
Being an ally nowadays means caring when it's too late or being performative when applicable. Phonies.
Don't ask what my plans are for the weekend if you don't wanna hear about how we need to counter the fascists because that's my plans for the foreseeable 🙃
i don't think any of my friends have even sent a single email to their representatives
an impossible task, p much
Fuck I hate this system
"really karen, have there been 27 EOs about you and a 200 million ad campaign?"
i hope you can find a way to make it work and keep your job tho
"yeah... i'm sorry. :( well, try to avoid reading the news this weekend and get rest"
"don't pay attention to the news"
it's like "SORRY I KINDA HAVE TO!"
i'm sorry, babe 🫂
Even still, when I talk about trans issues it feels like there's no engagement. The blinders go up. I've watched my friend count on
I've been trying so hard to keep positive for our brothers and sisters, but it's hard. It's hard to hope for hope when people just turn away.
When will they finally look at us? When will they regret their ignorance?
for literally just educating people on what's going on and asking for their support and help
We so desperately need more people to understand how much change needs to happen. We need our leaders to understand that.
I've also been told that trans people should just deal with it because maybe if all the attention is focused on us they won't bother other minorities...
I hope there will come a day when our existence won't be constantly villainized and threatened where we wouldn't have to hide who we are from people
i feel the struggle it's like i need to communicate about this but i just don't know how
doing it directly in 1:1 texts or in person has been... less successful
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My middle sister messaged me out of the blue recently and said how worried she was for me with everything that’s going on and asked me if there was anything she could do to help. 🥺
I’ve resigned myself to the fact that most people not directly impacted don’t actually care all that much. 😞
a lot of it seems to be born in this idea of 'i know but i can't do anything for you, can we enjoy our time together' thing that i do get, life is short, but people are trying to make mine shorter
we need a 'bring a cis hetero ally to work' day
Cis folks seem to have about a 5 minute window of tolerance and then it’s clear they don’t really want to hear about it.
There are exceptions, but not many
"at least you're safe in california tho"
"so all of my siblings in less 'safe' states are just out of luck? and do you know what federal laws are?"
I ended up staying in Florida because I realized no states are safe from fascists.