Everyone on r/asktransgender just posts about how they're doing this with their family, and I reply and tell them, fuck that, forget your dipshit mother and her opinions, she's one fucking person - and they just ignore it and keep imploding in on themselves forever for Mother and Father Transphobe - ThreadSky | a Reddit-style client for Bluesky

zinniajones.com • 4 days ago

Everyone on r/asktransgender just posts about how they're doing this with their family, and I reply and tell them, fuck that, forget your dipshit mother and her opinions, she's one fucking person - and they just ignore it and keep imploding in on themselves forever for Mother and Father Transphobe

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Man Waiting Until Parents Die Before Doing A Single Thing That Makes Him Happy
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sbaudelaire.bsky.social•4 days ago

telling the people i was unfortunate enough to be born around to fuck off was the best decision i ever made

i have literally never regretted it for one single moment

markhouston72.bsky.social•4 days ago

📌

policyshift.bsky.social•4 days ago

We really do crave their approval that badly, don't we?

emiliagb.bsky.social•4 days ago

They're our parents. They're supposed to know us so well, supposed to love us so much. If they can't accept us, can't love us for who we really are what's that say about how the world will treat us?

Well not much, it turns out. Some people are just hateful assholes, and that includes them.

aliceworks.bsky.social•4 days ago

i am in that picture and i hate it

likethetree.bsky.social•4 days ago

"Just wait until your chud parents dies!", brought to you by That Second to Last Scene of "I Saw the TV Glow", in the Bathroom

quietjulia.bsky.social•4 days ago

I was once like that. I was the good son and tried to do everything for my parents to get them to love me. Later on, I finally did something for myself and started transitioning. Now my parents have disowned me, since they were also evangelical Christians who hate trans people. I could now care less

forevertrans.bsky.social•4 days ago

If my mom was a transphobe I would simply break her knees with a poolstick and drive away on a motorcycle but perhaps I was constructed distinctively

disorderlyf.bsky.social•4 days ago

I have a relative who died recently shortly before they would've turned 60 who once tried to convince me not to transition by saying "when I was your age, I thought I'd be better off as a girl, but I grew out of it" and I can't help but wonder if they were of the type the article is referring to.

disorderlyf.bsky.social•4 days ago

Father died when they were young, but mother is still alive and kicking

seeall.bsky.social•4 days ago

This is precisely the reason I cut my sisters off, you can't prioritize an abuser while maintaining contact with one of their victims. Family means nothing without loyalty and bare minimum human decency

zinniajones.com•4 days ago

Fucking stop it? You are an adult, they are also adults, they don't get to tell you what to do any more than you get to tell them what to do

So either you stop them from telling you what to do

Or you start telling them what to do

farmckon.bsky.social•3 days ago

So saw we all.

zinniajones.com•4 days ago

Why would a transphobe matter just because they sired or birthed you? You didn't know them at the time they did that, you had nothing to do with that decision, you have no commitment to them, and you already owe them nothing - you *especially* owe them nothing the very minute they are transphobic

zinniajones.com•4 days ago

It seems like these parent transphobes have even conditioned another adult not to even resist this, that resistance is somehow unthinkable or impossible or should not even be attempted at all

zinniajones.com•4 days ago

You should just accept whatever consequences they threaten you with or actually do impose on you. Those consequences are generally bearable and your gender is more important than avoiding the consequences. Being trans is more important than the punishment others will inflict on you for being trans

blushandmumble.bsky.social•4 days ago

I’ve been saying this for years to other cis queer people. If your folks wouldn’t like you if you were queer, they don’t like you now. They like an act you put on for them. Why stay in touch with people who hate you for existing?

anthonybecker.bsky.social•4 days ago

You’re asking people to be more courageous than they are.

Good.

zinniajones.com•4 days ago

So get a wooden spoon, bite down on it, and tell your mom and dad what your name is and that you're already on HRT and if they touch your property you're calling the cops, and they can do whatever they decide to do next. They'll make their decisions, you be ready to make yours

zinniajones.com•4 days ago

It's time for every trans person who's in this purgatorial situation of half-death to start breaking out of these domestic cisgender-built nuclear family prisons en masse. It's time to rip the bandaid off all at once and separate yourselves from a situation that's imposing an intolerable life

trans.bsky.social•4 days ago

this is what i did when first coming out. it went much better than i was expecting. would recommend.

kasprzyk.bsky.social•4 days ago

I sort of did this. It was the family members who would have loved me regardless that died, and I no longer am connected to the rest for obvious reasons.
I miss feeling like I had a home/family. I don't miss anything else.
It shouldn't have taken 18 years to start my journey.

beesmacca.bsky.social•3 days ago

This so much. What finally made me realize it was I finally asked myself why am I caring about a person’s opinion who holds such an evil person like +Rump in such high regard. Who is against anything her savior claims to hold dear.

mayroseowo.bsky.social•4 days ago

I'm far happier having cut ties with my transphobic family

klugunmid.bsky.social•4 days ago

My advice of ‘cut them off then’ might not be easy but it’s a solid goal.

emiliagb.bsky.social•4 days ago

Some of the folks on Reddit aren't even out of HS. Hard to cut out your parents when you're dependent on them. And if you're under 18, and your parents don't want you living elsewhere instead of home where they can "fix" you?

Survive until you can get out is the order of the day.

sbaudelaire.bsky.social•4 days ago

i became homeless at 12 rather than stay closeted.

i can unequivocally say it's better in every single way to live an authentic life than to continue to put up with abusers, no matter your circumstances.

klugunmid.bsky.social•4 days ago

Absolutely. Lots of people in situations where they depend on those who harm them. See also if you’re disabled and/or poor. Even harder. Hard even when you have resources. So much harder for those without. Why I say goal and recognise it’s not always helpful advice.

dydxdeathdroid.bsky.social•4 days ago

I'm glad mainstream society is a lot more fine with going NC with your parents than it used to be even ten years ago. One thing some people don't get is that going NC, even if it's for your own peace, can make you a pariah to certain people. For me, it was a necessary choice, even if it wasn't easy.

jigglybitch.bsky.social•4 days ago

"yeah they're transphobic but they still love me"

i figured out my family didn't love me before I turned 10 years old

i think these people are conflating love and want

I've explained the difference so many times, some people just don't get it. Only real love can fix them.

aldente.bsky.social•4 days ago

In All About Love, bell hooks says that many if not most children grow up in a household with care but without love and so as adults, we continue to confuse the two. I think about that a lot.

kissemjolk.bsky.social•4 days ago

“So, my opinion doesn't matter?” (actual quote) Yes, Dear Sister, in my life, my opinion matters and yours does not. That's how opinions work.

Absolutely floored that this needed to be said to her.

fantasmavie.bsky.social•1 day ago

Many such cases. This is beautiful advice! 👏

diidelphiis.bsky.social•4 days ago

i transitioned even though my parents were iffy on it and they got over it and started supporting me, nothing is more powerful than being authentic and true to yourself

kissemjolk.bsky.social•4 days ago

I did this with “Happy Zombie Jesus Day,” a topic about which I had no real care for, I just thought it was funny.

My mom has passed now, though, and all the sophomoric fun and giggling shall be had.

foxthing.gay•4 days ago

Ha i did this

Don't

Just fuckin do it

protonis01.bsky.social•4 days ago

I don't know how credible the story is, its published by the onion.

charonsferry.bsky.social•10 hours ago

My parents supporting my transition consistently and effectively is the one thing keeping me from cutting them off forever and ever

botanydropout.bsky.social•4 days ago

My person who raised me told me to "just wait until they die" and I told them I would race them to the grave in that case.

punchupnotdown.bsky.social•4 days ago

“Have a lot of experience with trans women, do you?”

“Enough to know that if you give them an inch they’ll steal ten years from themselves.”

brierussell.bsky.social•4 days ago

Unfortunately a common experience for trans and autistic people, signed an autistic trans woman who was raised by a very overprotective grandmother.

celesteweforget.bsky.social•4 days ago

I waited to fully come out partially because I was hoping to ease them into things hoping they might eventually learn, but honestly that was a stupid decision and now I'm no-contact.

Parents are people and some people are trash. Fuck 'em

nerdychara.naomi.party•4 days ago

Even if they have a broken leg?? Even if you have an anxiety disorder and literally nowhere to go and not a lot of money.

stablestrategys.bsky.social•4 days ago

you can get out and doing so is worth it

comrade-barbie.bsky.social•4 days ago

I will never understand this mentality. The blood of the coven is thicker than the water of the womb. If the people who had you on purpose can't accept you, that's their fucking problem, and you can absolutely find people who will love and cherish you, who aren't connected to you via happenstance.

annihilatethisweek.bsky.social•4 days ago

A good friend of mine is out to half a dozen close friends and no one else, and I think this is the motivation there. Meanwhile testosterone is taking a horrible toll on their body and it’s just tragic to watch.