Ever been severely betrayed?
If so, how did you deal with it/get past it/get over it (if you did)?
If so, how did you deal with it/get past it/get over it (if you did)?
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I went to therapy, sorted out my own life, and moved on.
Take some time to hunker down for just a bit and get your bearings. Then when you’re ready, or maybe even just a teeny bit before you think you are, start moving forward in the world again.
I doubt I will fully get over it, the only solace I have is that the convicted pedophile will spend the rest of his life in prison.
I imagine you look closely & critically at the character of people you let into your life now.
Took me a LONG time to get there tho.
Forgive when you're ready.
Learn from it.
Remember you're not the only one who's been there and back. Meaning you're not alone.
Hang in there, Hoarse.
xxooo
Waited a decade plus...
Not there yet...
Nope, never got over it. Got them out of my life ASAP & moved on as best I could.
100% effective for me. It’s still holding strong nearly 30 years later.
Yes. I did get over them…the last one was the worst - family member. It took years but I made it to the other side.There is a lesson behind every betrayal. We must find it.
I found at some point that if felt the person I loved is "dead" and the person who replace him is a stranger. A creepy stranger I never ever want to see or speak to again.
"There are three types of people in my life. Alive. Dead. And dead to me"
It sucks, though. It’s gutting. Allow yourself some grace. Wounds take time to heal and you will get there. Promise!
Cheers to you for closing that door. 🚪
I am glad I closed mine too, should’ve done it years before!
No drama! It’s great!
We have to deal with each other - his horrible wife calls me RUDE if I don't folloe their lead & he goes along.
I hope yours is as well.
Stewed in silence & anger for couple years.
Then she made herself the victim. I outlined our relationship, sent it to her via snail mail.
Ultimately I found peace knowing that the person would have to live w themselves, knowing what they did.
And then Karma took care of the rest. 🙌🏻
Someone told me her truth.
She should have been honest 25 years ago. It would have saved my late husband and me a lot of heartache & grief.
The story would have ended long ago.
Sometimes, there is no happily ever after. 😌
And NEVER
Let it go.
Then slowly moved on.
I expected this thread would be 90% exes.
Surprised to see a lot of sisters here.
Women are wonderful, but a few carry sharp knives, and use them on allies. Isn't that strange?
https://youtu.be/vI8z6A15wTA?feature=shared
You move forward.
The person still feeling guilty.
I did forgive but not close to person.
The ones who betray are making a human mistake and eventually they will feel like shit about it and wish they hadn’t done the shit.
Don’t let the thought of the betrayal fester in your mind. The betrayal happened in the past; learn the lesson and move on.
Don’t allow your mind to torture you by reliving the moment.
I replay things in my head and respond differently(better)
Wrote a letter, explained what I expected from a “friend”.
When I saw this person yrs later, I pretended I didn’t recognize them. It made them mad, they stomped off with a “FINE, you don’t know me!”
Never saw ‘em again 👍
Suddenly his car wouldn't work. oh my, how sad. A suit fell apart; in the middle of the day. The shoes; bought to go with said suit.....well, Damn. They fell apart at the same time. Imagine splitting your pants in front of 25 6th graders.............
I look first to the soothing balm of friendship, because I need that outside view--to be reminded that I am doing the best i can, and the betrayal is NOT my fault.
Lots of mindfulness in-the-moment focus. Not past or future, just right here right now
The feelings are not US, not the SELF - they are a temporary state 100% of the time.
Then I go to the river and throw rocks.
Give yourself time to grieve. You have experienced a loss. I’m so sorry.
Nothing serious
Many others not so fortunate.
Took it to my parents, who had told me they had the tuition saved up and I didn’t need to apply for loans or scholarships.
Turns out they lied & it was too late to apply.
Never got over it or forgave them
Then ran away and joined the Navy.
Finally went to Uni, on the original GI Bill, in my late 30s for a BS in computer science.
Not my original plan and still sad over it.
When I was younger, I'd rain hellfire down on their head because that's the kind of gal I was.
Now I just pop a gummy, say Meh...and binge something good on Netflix.