men have two ways of dealing with something embarrassing that happened years ago: - only thinking about it at night right before they fall asleep, and reliving the embarrassment as a personal failure (normal, healthy) - turning into a Weird Online Guy about it (bad, unhealthy) - ThreadSky

jesseltaylor.bsky.social • 139 days ago

men have two ways of dealing with something embarrassing that happened years ago:

- only thinking about it at night right before they fall asleep, and reliving the embarrassment as a personal failure (normal, healthy)

- turning into a Weird Online Guy about it (bad, unhealthy)

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padrock.bsky.social•139 days ago

Only at night? That’s some weak shit reppage bro, you gotta grindset mindset those numbers up, stewing on bullshit for every meal

ltponcho.bsky.social•139 days ago

I find this post disturbingly reassuring

mcbiohazard.bsky.social•139 days ago

https://bsky.app/profile/hausofdecline.bsky.social/post/3kyqiopq3js2i

humanskeleton.bsky.social•139 days ago

- inventing a powerful new hot dog vacuum

iamgodzilla.bsky.social•139 days ago

Since lockdown I developed a third technique in which I scream loudly everytime I remember something embarrassing I did decades ago. (healthy, noisy)

nukeastle.bsky.social•138 days ago

It’s astoundingly effective.

bisforboogie.bsky.social•139 days ago

Get thee out of my brainpan and quiet thyself with telling my secrets, filthy sorcerer.

iamgodzilla.bsky.social•139 days ago

It's hardly a secret, we can hear you through the walls.

bisforboogie.bsky.social•139 days ago

That’s not me, I swear.

It’s my Jane Fonda Workout tape.

iamgodzilla.bsky.social•139 days ago

[remembers embarrassing aerobics incident, screams loudly]

screaming.party•139 days ago

my people

padrock.bsky.social•139 days ago

Do you just scream or do you say random sets of words, I’m big on the latter it’s working out great

iamgodzilla.bsky.social•139 days ago

Just an incoherent scream. Slightly high pitched. I would prefer a roar of anguish. I might practice that.

ogonbat.bsky.social•139 days ago

This is both mind-blowing and reassuring. A mix of "Wtf so there are other people in the universe doing this?" and "If someone else does it, I'm automatically not crazy". I will try to remember it at my next embarrassing memory, right after the random words.

screaming.party•139 days ago

yeah, I dug into this a while back and I think it's kind of a minor Tourettes thing or something similar to it, but here's a whole thread of people talking about it

https://www.reddit.com/r/socialanxiety/s/ZHs823gFLy

thedavis.bsky.social•139 days ago

I just mutter the word awful over and over

hmorrell.bsky.social•139 days ago

Third option - If it happened years ago, it no longer is powerful enough to keep me up at night or to turn into a Weird Online Guy about it. Learned from it and moved on.

dswgratm.bsky.social•139 days ago

I get psychic damage thinking about the Helen Thomas meme a year before she passed 💀

dswgratm.bsky.social•139 days ago

Its fine, its what i deserve 🌝

mkbinder.bsky.social•139 days ago

You forgot the simple beauty of "deny, repress, move on."

zodda.bsky.social•139 days ago

How much time can one healthily spend thinking of ways one could have avoided embarrassment and extrapolating forward on how one's life would have gone differently from that point? One is asking for a friend.

itsmejanet.bsky.social•139 days ago

this tracks

rarumberger.bsky.social•139 days ago

As someone who struggles desperately to not relive every embarrassing thing I've ever done in 45+ years, literally every single night of my life as soon as my head hits the pillow, this hits uncomfortably close to home. And, I guess, reassures me that I'm not doing so bad.

yakhunt.net•139 days ago

3. Heavy drinking

homelessrobot.bsky.social•139 days ago

You get experience points in real life when you get an intrusive thought of something dumb you did once and go "gah!! Wouldn't do that again!!"

imperialminion.bsky.social•139 days ago

I feel better knowing I’m not the only one that does the first one. And I’m healthy!! (Ish)

pedrodealmeida.bsky.social•139 days ago

How about thinking about it randomly, not just before falling asleep?

Asking for my dog 🫠

owlernook.bsky.social•139 days ago

No shout-out to the people who wake up at 3am after a bad dream then think about all the embarrassing things?

sauldk.bsky.social•139 days ago

Hard disagree, @jamellebouie.net

kroe14.bsky.social•139 days ago

Memories seem to come to me in the shower. I handle it by cursing myself, like a drunken sailor w Tourette’s. And then try to expunge the embarrassing incident from my mind.