Tradwives make it look glamorous to quit the workforce to stay home with the kids. But women who have tried the lifestyle themselves say there's a lot you're not seeing on TikTok.
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There’s nothing wrong with a stay at home mom if she chooses to do that. That isn’t really what the “trad wife” lifestyle is about. It’s not just being the primary caregiver and house-caretaker, it’s about being subservient to the husband, acting and dressing a certain way, the mandatory Jesus shit…
Well, first these women spend so much time on Tik Tok, they’re working more than full time jobs. It’s 100% a total grift. Second, people who live this way are weird and out of touch. I always wonder how much physical and sexual violence women and girls face in these homes.
Huh? Influencers are not 💯 honest? They are trying to sell us something by only showing the glitz and glamour? Like an advertisement? Backed by mysterious figures because it’s harder to track the money?
Man, I tried that nuclear family bullshit once. By the end of it my crazy ass wife was strung out on pills smoking crack and shit waving a knife around at me because I "had to go to work sometimes". I now live alone in a shack happy as can be.
If anyone gets to be the wife next time it's me.
Traditional Wife. Think 1950s stay at home, cook, clean, raise the kids, be obedient to the husband. No income of her own, totally dependent on the husband.
The tradwife movement is a lot like ladies night at a sausage fest. Lots of dudes trying to score a little house on the prairie Barbi. The reality is women want nothing to do with this chud-alpha-male-breadwinner fantasy. “Give up my ability to survive, thrive and earn an income for you? Haha. No.”
There are gold diggers, but they usually aim for rich guys old enough to kick the bucket within a couple of years. I mean, how much time did Melania think Trump had left in him when she said "I do"?
It takes a lot of hard work to create the fantasy alternative image of your own life as an updated...and more photogenic... version of June Cleaver's. Looks exhausting. And what, exactly, is the point?
The ex tradwife tt content is exactly why I’d never choose that life. The abuse they go thru. They can’t find a job after their divorce. They accept consistent cheating bc they have nowhere to go. I listen to their warnings loud and clear
Let's just all stop using it as a derogatory term. If you can hire someone to do it for you, it's work. Domestic work IS work & it's usually poorly compensated & done by women.
Social Security believes disabled women on SSI who dare marry should lose it all, because they don't value domestic work.
Oh please. It’s about freedom to choose not trying to prove that our way is best. Women absolutely won the right to have a productive life outside the home. We won the fight and we’re NOT going back. Let these women have the freedom to choose traditional marriage if they want
The point is that these TikTok influencers portray this life as more readily attainable than it is, and downplay the very real risks in making yourself fully financially dependent upon another person.
The fact that some wanted to “try” it speaks volumes. I’m sure there’s many motivations behind attempting this lifestyle and you won’t convince me otherwise but a significant portion thought it was easier than working — they just used “doing it for the kids and family” as a cover.
Tradwives are a "gateway drug" to the right undermining gender discrimination laws, making wife-initiated divorce more difficult and, eventually, pushing to nullify the 19th amendment.
It's irresponsible to report on trad wives without also reporting the fact that this trend was a recruitment tactic of the far right and tied to white supremacy
It leaves women more vulnerable to abuse and control which makes it popular amongst the religious too
I don't think the tradwife lifestyle is inherently miserable, but you have to consider the type of men who want a tradwife. Most are going to be overbearing, ultra conservative guys who want to lord over their wife like a tyrant. Unless you crave dependence, that's going to be an unhappy situation.
Many women have to convince their husbands to be stay-at-home wives, especially if they are not homeschooling. I’ve seen it: women getting frustrated because their husbands expect them to work once their kids are in full-time school. Are those guys overbearing?
No they are not. Just because tyat dynamic exists does not mean the other does not.
Ive seen women push for wanting to be a tradwife because she doesn't like her field of work, and ive seen women pushed into it by emotional manipulation by very religious and traditional men. Both can be true.
I am old enough to remember the old days when "wives" w/zero work history became widows or hubby ran off with a new model. They and the children moved right in to poverty & cheap housing.
I think a lot forget. That "tradwife" crap was only advertised in the 50s and beyond. Literally marketing. Women have always worked. Especially the poor. And the ones that didn't were mostly hopped up on volume in the 60s because hi!!! It sucked.
The point of the feminism movement in the 60s and 70s was to give women a choice, not malign staying home with the kids. Women, and men, should have that choice.
They all have lots of money and lots of help (nannies, cleaners, gardeners, etc) My personal favourite is the supposedly ultra greek oxthodox wifey who knows diddly squat about the religion’s traditions.
I live in a rural area - huge garden, chickens, milk cow, hogs, drive used vehicles, thrift, can and freeze, cook from scratch. Our lifestyle feeds us but it's hard work and takes skills few possess. I grew up this way, recognize its inherent privilege, but am not nostalgic. If you spend all your
Anyone who has ever abandoned a shopping cart full of stuff at Target amid a toddler meltdown, found an entire family-size box of cereal emptied onto the kitchen floor, or had to clean vomit off carpet, couch and drapes knows exactly how unglamorous daily life with kids is.
What's traditional about putting on a full face of make up, doing hair, setting scenes, filming scripted acting and spending hours using editing software to create a perfect clip? It's not exactly mucking out animals, making frocks out of old flour sacks and dealing with scarlet fever outbreaks.
I was raised to be a "tradwife". I was raised w/ the phrase "joyfully available" meaning show up 100% w/ acceptance to mens authority with a smile. The women selling It infuriate me. Women buying into it frustrates me, the women escaping it have my respect & my support.
Why must everyone be categorized? Let people make their own lifestyle choices without labeling them in any way. Women fought for the freedom to be themselves without apology or judgement - time to enjoy whatever path you took! ☮️💖
Anybody that chooses this route should insist a pre or post nuptial agreement that awards them backpay and long term maintenance for the lack of personal savings and damage to their career. The law has changed and trad wives get burned in divorces.
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When will society finally start thinking of all the men oppressed by not being given a tradwife by the government? Hopefully President-elect Musk will finally put an end to this waking nightmare!!
Or people who make LARPing as a tradwife their actual business. They spend all their time posting made up scenarios on social media instead of actually being the tradwife they're pretending to be. "Hey, look at this pie I totally baked for my husband and absolutely didn't buy at the local bakery!"
I was a stay-at-home mom for many years. It was a choice my husband and I made, and I realize it’s a privileged choice. I’m also a feminist.we were still equal partners. This whole “tradwife”’trend turns my stomach.
Trad wife recruitment is about white supremacy and Christian nationalism more than anything else and it's annoying journalists either didn't research enough or wanted a softer cover for the reality of this trend
My farm is burning down in a wildfire right now. They don’t tell you about the late nights putting out literal and figurative fires in rural life. Calming kids fears. Organizing neighborhood help. Trying to save sick or injured animals. When your water goes out for days.
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Huh. I’m surprised. Soooo surprised. 😏
If anyone gets to be the wife next time it's me.
The whole Tradwife thing looks more to me like influencer grift.
The TikTok and YT tradwives have a job creating content, but it IS a job and they are the girlboss of that job.
Honestly, I'd have thought that living in a historically inaccurate retroactively adjusted LARP timeline where women can't win would be great…
Social Security believes disabled women on SSI who dare marry should lose it all, because they don't value domestic work.
Their kids turn out disaffected.
But at least they did give us goths.
It leaves women more vulnerable to abuse and control which makes it popular amongst the religious too
Ive seen women push for wanting to be a tradwife because she doesn't like her field of work, and ive seen women pushed into it by emotional manipulation by very religious and traditional men. Both can be true.
Van-life when you're Poor= Houseless
Maths 👍🏻
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Do yourself a favor and at least work part-time. The man needs to know how to care for a family beyond being a paycheck.
wouldn't work otherwise
It's called BDSM and you can do it in a healthy way
The dudes looking for a trad wife need to ask themselves: Can your income support 2 or more other people than yourself?