A shared sky, row, or sometimes a story.
Not everyone travels the same way & that’s okay. This was not a post saying I'm entitled to your (apparently fascinating) stories or that we should ignore social cues.
I just miss when we were willing to take a risk, look up more often and see each other.
Not everyone travels the same way & that’s okay. This was not a post saying I'm entitled to your (apparently fascinating) stories or that we should ignore social cues.
I just miss when we were willing to take a risk, look up more often and see each other.
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Nancy French
Unpopular opinion: I know it's cool to wear your earbuds and carry a book while pasting a disinterested, don't-talk-to-me expression on your face, but I like to talk to the person sitting beside me on airplanes. I liked it when we were willing to be inconvenienced by strangers.
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and i'm gonna take the risk and assume you're a real boundary crossing kinda person and that you give off that energy like a nuclear power plant
Work on yourself first.
I just don't get it, why don't all these heathens want to talk to me?
she has no leg to stand on telling the rest of us that we need to “see each other”
she’s the exact kind of person we’re trying to avoid
Feel free to back up and try again. 😃
ie; flying 1st class one isnt physically crammed up against neighbors for 3-8+ hours as fully booked cattle: chit-chat as a social norm could fit there, its socialy abnormal in coach.
Get fucked.
https://bsky.app/profile/nancyfrench.bsky.social/post/3lnr67czvjs2d
The people who miss when we would “take a risk” to annoy strangers as a captive audience on a plane are the same people who call the cops whenever too many black or brown people gather at a public park “they shouldn’t be at.”
Whatever you do, don't ever say you liked pre-9/11 air travel better & miss it too. You can't even imagine what you're actually saying...🙄🙄
I will chat with people who are chatty, for a few, and then go into travel mode - with my "air pods, book, and... 'look'(?)." When someone goes into that mode, stop talking, Nancy. :)
Your original post was your actual opinion, Nancy :).
And note: talk at not talk with.
It's fantastically simple. She's getting pushback because she's prioritizing her own needs/wants over others.
We all say things we don't mean sometimes. It's proper to apologize, not to claim you were misinterpreted.
Maybe think more about what you're trying to say before you say it?
Because you literally said, in a very judgemental sounding way, that you want conversation from someone even though they are showing more than one indicator of preferring to be left alone.
there'd be no rude comments.
The words where you sneer at people who don’t want to talk to you at your demand. The words where you insult anyone who disagrees.
I would feel nothing but resentment and contempt if Nancy - well meaning though she be - tried talking to me on a plane.
But then again, people try to talk to me when I'm swimming laps, so there's that.
Do you *always* want to engage? Ms French says you should, or you are less than human.
You are the one that sees others as just toys for your fun.
Binging a textbook before class?
Finishing your bookclub book?
Found out spouse is cheating?
Just left a funeral?
Big day at work?
Just tired?
Depressed?
Anxious?
Don't care. You must entertain me!!! Not entertaining me means you don't see me as a person!!!
But I also respect people. They don't owe me conversation and engagement, no matter how much I want it.
This is pathetic.
She really does think people who won't talk to her are bad people.
Seriously. You and I are probably about the same age. And I grew up in what was the most nihilistic, anti-social age in American history.
Wearing earbuds/reading is "cool" (performative)
[Un]interested expressions are "pasted" on
Talking is an "inconvenience" ppl should be willing to put up with like they used to do back in the halcyon days of yore.
It just sounded very patronizing.
And that's ok.