I'm a parent of a teenage boy and I'm curious what other parents are experiencing with this Andrew Tate stuff.
My son and all of his friends think Tate is a sad joke.
And they're normal teens, not exceptionally "woke", they just play video games and sports and hang out with their girlfriends.
My son and all of his friends think Tate is a sad joke.
And they're normal teens, not exceptionally "woke", they just play video games and sports and hang out with their girlfriends.
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Andrew Tate is for boys who don't have girlfriends.
All of it.
They shared, unprompted, that they were punished with a scalding shower at 4 yrs old. I asked if they'd consider therapy & said it helped me.
He's convinced therapy requires you to completely erase your past self and people do it too much.
I worry about housing, about food, about bills, about how to provide for myself in old age, taxes, my partner, my pets, that strange stain on the ceiling...
My masculinity? Nope.
Now I'm mostly hoping each month that no expensive surprised happpen
I have repeatedly thought "Please you fucking truck do not break do NOT break we have medical bills this month don't you DARE goddamn break."
He is fine
He is grown
He is the man of the house
Are things I have heard in the last year.
I am worried about this whole thing as a father of future teenage girl.
1. Teen boys, but not really.
2. Adult men who already want to believe the bullshit he spews.
Tate acts as a justification for already-held prejudices, which he amplifies. Adult men think he's cool b/c THEY think he's the future.
Tate feeds on frustration and discontent and insecurity. Those kids are getting validation from their peers - they don’t need to get it from an internet celebrity loser.
If he needs something we look it up on my computer together.
We hate bully's.
From ages 14-18, NONE of these kids ever thought Tate or his ilk were anything but cringe.
I talked to my son out of an abundnace of caution; but nobody needed to have a convo with these kids about it.
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/mar/17/teachers-school-students-culture-misogyny-classrooms-quarterly-essay-jess-hill
https://www.theguardian.com/education/2025/apr/19/teachers-warn-rise-misogyny-racism-uk-schools
You posted an article about misogyny and rape culture more broadly being an issue, which does not even mention Tate.
Did you think I was saying misogyny is not an issue among young men?
They see that as more of an annoyance/feature of the platforms, they roll their eyes at it
That option is a lie.
Blocklists need to work better.
And we need fewer terrible people.
It's basically a non-factor. So I wonder if the vulnerable Tate demographic is a specific kind of maladjusted teen.
Someone already more isolated, already without a IRL peer group.
He’s maybe a little woke but not particularly, went to private school for two years, now in big public school. He partakes of popular culture
My son and his friends are in the broad middle: they're not the uber popular jocks, not the complete loner misfits.
Just kinda normal weirdos.
Bear with me, because I think this might get into the weeds a little, but consider what happened with gay men, and trans men from the same era. There was an incredible popular flight to a hyper-masculinity. Why? Safety.
Makes me think the issue isn't with "American teens and Tate" so much as it it's "American dads and their sons"
I don't think you need great parenting for this — "barely good enough parenting" is sufficient and it's what most American households can sustain especially in this economy.
Pretty easy to connect those dots.
The boys that bought in were the sons of O&G engineers, accountants & the ones who went on to study computers, engineering & also the gym bros. They’re also into MAHA
The vulnerable ones are raised by right leaning or politically apathetic adults IMO
Yeah, the problem is how much money manosphere influencers pay to be plastered all over feeds.
Thanks for the reassuring anecdote that good parenting and healthy peer relationships still work
https://www.cybersafetyguy.com/
My impression is not that Tate etc really change a lot from what it was like when i was young, in general well adjusted kids from supportive homes don’t fall for this shit, for those that /
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Mother of a son not in the demographic targeted; too old for that nonsense. And had A. T. been around when my son was a teen, I would have kicked his butt if he followed him. His mama didn’t raise no misogynist asshole.
My 2 cents
They can also see right through you, so you must be authentic and set a good example.
Something like Innuendo Studios ‘how to radicalise a normie’ would give a great explainer if the kind of audience he’d appeal to, and why.
Every dude I know in their 40s thinks he's Jesus.
Given that my kid actually likes me, though, and I’m kind of ridiculously woke, I don’t think he’d be converted by Tate’s brand.
SUPER uncomfortable to be around