its kind of crazy to see people go back to saying da r word all the time like if you were doing it for the past 10 years or whatever i guess thats one thing but if u stopped then started again when u felt like it came back in vogue or something thats really bizarre behavior - ThreadSky

merrittk.com • 23 hours ago

its kind of crazy to see people go back to saying da r word all the time like if you were doing it for the past 10 years or whatever i guess thats one thing but if u stopped then started again when u felt like it came back in vogue or something thats really bizarre behavior

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truantmusic.bsky.social•20 hours ago

I remember a huge online fight and also using 'gay' to mean rubbish. I used them without thinking but I never thought it was worth fighting over, I just stopped because people didn't like it.
The literal meaning of retarded is appropriate for a lot of public people right now, not disabled, just...

merrittk.com•23 hours ago

obviously language shifts, some ppl have suggested we stop using "crazy" and "idiot" as pejoratives, but it feels like the r word thing was pretty much settled by the late 2000s in normal adult circles

bonkoboi.bsky.social•18 hours ago

Apparently my old ass dad said it recently.
Not a great thing to hear about in the family

wattznext.bsky.social•23 hours ago

A lot of people have no moral convictions of their own. If it's uncouth to use a word in mixed company they won't do it. If they can seem cool and edgy by using it, they will

pillowfort.bsky.social•23 hours ago

reckon this'll be short-lived. course-correcting in the opposite direction with the current cultural shift to see how it feels. and people will go, like, actually this isn't getting much of a reaction.

deadblossomjesse.bsky.social•16 hours ago

Have been seeing this with all slurs and among some otherwise totally normal friends. Really no clue why. Totally bizarre. I have only the vaguest theories

tommybingbong.bsky.social•11 hours ago

In Alabama none of the slurs ever really went away. I still hear all of them pretty regularly

bernard.rpgbook.club•23 hours ago

it’s so weird, i feel like i didn’t really hear it for a decade and now it’s everywhere again

derek.bsky.social•23 hours ago

It definitely was.

This is definitely regression.

The only silver lining is that anyone saying it now, immediately shows us who they are and we can just ignore them forever.

chronolynx.bsky.social•22 hours ago

I remember even when I was still in high school (mid-00s) it started falling out of fashion, and that was in the rural US

sleepyredpanda.bsky.social•22 hours ago

yeah this lines up with my recollection. by the mid-2000s, the insult of choice was usually gay. which also sucked! but people weren't exactly casually slinging slurs, at least not on school grounds

gwill2k.bsky.social•22 hours ago

for me it always boils down to there are so many better words. why limit yourself to base level dumb fuckery.

swamplizard.bsky.social•23 hours ago

It is sort of the perfect example of the kind of cultural stakes many of these people were willing to sacrifice all other purported political values for.

tidesaway.bsky.social•11 hours ago

What makes me feel insane is that in my memory, it was Sarah Palin of all people that kicked off the campaign to ask people not to say it in 2007

iancognito721.bsky.social•23 hours ago

It's especially bizarre given the primary users of the word up til now were sixth grade boys

robertmccleery.bsky.social•23 hours ago

It makes me uncomfortable and I just do not use it.

christhefriend.bsky.social•23 hours ago

Just been charging up their r word the whole time like Goku.

winterpancake.bsky.social•22 hours ago

Noooooo

fussybabybit.ch•23 hours ago

The resurgence of “the r word” has to do with hauntological futures but specifically the axis of >tfw_no types late to the party on hipster indie rock pining for that scene in Garden State

fussybabybit.ch•23 hours ago

Like it’s a joke but also a surprising number of that twee indie movie base has scenes where characters casually drop it so I imagine the distance being so short between those time periods that people watch it and *dont* cringe the way they would watching older media with Poorly Aged Moments

dry.ad•22 hours ago

i think some of it has to do with accelerated political polarization and ppl awakening to the reason that u have to speak the same language as someone to hurt their feelings

at least thats why i do it no offense

fussybabybit.ch•22 hours ago

Oh I’m thinking here of like the ascendant rightoids celebrating that they “can say it again”, dirtbag etc sphere is entirely different and ime did not have much a discontinuity in saying it

dry.ad•22 hours ago

real

epee.cc•20 hours ago

It's vice signaling. They are trying to signal their membership in the cool kid squad by using the cool kid slurs as a shibboleth. Only the "cool kids" in this situation are the biggest dorks who have ever existed.

1981photo.bsky.social•22 hours ago

Conservatives are just trying to reclaim every slur until they can finally take back the big one.

syx98.bsky.social•23 hours ago

god just thinking about how white people treat the n word alone as some kind of vast white supremacist metagame is fascinating but also hilarious. They can channel all their contempt into a slur, but not being able to use that slur drives them absolutely bonkers.

skilletqueso.com•23 hours ago

the idea of someone saying the r or f word in high school then spending all these year pining for it to come back is wild to me. they were the words ignorant immaturity

epee.cc•20 hours ago

If they wanted to say the f slur that badly they could've just fucked a dude ONE TIME and had a pass for life. Smfh these lazy kids, unwilling to Pau their dues, I tell ya what.

epee.cc•20 hours ago

Obviously this trick only works for men. But thanks to the Queer Solidarity Accords, women with the d-slur pass can use it to say the f-slur as well, so it's still just fucking ONE WOMAN.

hiking-metal-punk.bsky.social•22 hours ago

There's an abnormal number of people who have been insisting this whole time it's fine as long as everyone in the social circle agrees its fine

notunliketwitter.bsky.social•20 hours ago

sorry, just to clarify, we are talking about "rich cunts" right?

moxburrito.bsky.social•22 hours ago

I have a coworker who uses it often. He has a daughter with developmental disabilities. Needless to say, yes he is not a good person.

yiff.com•23 hours ago

just a matter of reading a room. there's places you can, and places you can't. once you have achieved the forbidden knowledge allowing you to read rooms and know where such words are safely used, YOUR POWER BECOMES EXPONENTIALLY INCREASED. YOU ASCEND TO A HIGHER PLANE WITH THE LEXICONOGRAPHY MASTERS

spider.florist•23 hours ago

Yeah like it’s just kind of goofy and stupid looking? It’s like someone saying “forsooth” to look dignified, except it’s even worse bc you’re using middle schooler slurs to look edgy

buffaloshuffle.bsky.social•23 hours ago

it's been really funny watching a bunch of like 40 year old fathers breathe a sigh of relief as they do this lmao

antifa-operator.bsky.social•21 hours ago

I never stopped. It is a highly appropriate pejorative in certain situations and frequently, an accurate assessment of fact.

norbertmadao.bsky.social•22 hours ago

It's so jarring that I'll see people with trans flags and free Palestine and all that in their display name calling people that. I've even scrolled through their profiles and they don't even look like right wing trolls disguising themselves. Genuine social justice types who just like the word.

peacesells.bsky.social•22 hours ago

I kind of get it because just about every synyonym for "stupid" feels like it doesn't hit hard enough, but still...either you understand the logic for why slurs and bigoted language is bad and abstain from it or you don't, you can't go making exceptions just because you like the way it sounds

gentleox.bsky.social•22 hours ago

In my experience “Smooth-brained” and “dipshit” both hit way harder and don’t make you sound like a twelve year old trying to impress kids on the playground by telling them you snuck out to the living room last night to watch South Park after mom and dad went to bed

peacesells.bsky.social•20 hours ago

smooth-brained sounds too internet-ese and dipshit doesn't convey stupidity, specifically. plus if we're being completely honest with ourselves "smooth brained" is basically the same kind of thing as "retard", using congenital disabilities as an insult, it just hasn't accumulated enough history yet

yeoldebuttpirate.bsky.social•6 hours ago

Huh, I didn't know that there's was an actual, survivable congenital defect for this. Learn something new everyday, I guess

That said, dipshit does specifically convey stupidity. That's the entire purpose of the word lol

nimrodtzarking.bsky.social•7 hours ago

I think people tend to radicalize on the issue by following that semantic trail to its logical conclusion. Either they conclude that "crazy," "idiot" and "moron" are slurs too, or they embrace cliches about the "euphemistic treadmill" or w/e and revert to using the r-slur.

nimrodtzarking.bsky.social•7 hours ago

I think the superior framing privileges impact over meaning per se- to what extent does this word normalize violence unto the disabled, to what extent will real disabled people internalize this slur as an attack against their being. On both counts, "retard" emerges as especially problematic.

myherozero.bsky.social•22 hours ago

A lot of the "humor" of the 2000s is so regrettable that I struggle to accept my part of it as teenager back then. Using any of those terms or jokes now (and for those people to now be adults) feels just so completely beyond the pale. It feels like a switch flipped and it was 2005 again so suddenly

boy-5.bsky.social•21 hours ago

I saw it constantly the brief time I spent on twitter, I thankfully haven’t seen it here yet

glittertooth.bsky.social•23 hours ago

a bunch of people pretending they're from New England alla sudden

embrrrrrrr.bsky.social•18 hours ago

Punching down is just really important to them i guess

isthispraxis.bsky.social•23 hours ago

one of my colleagues at work is that guy. we told him we all took a vote without him about which stuff should be allowed now that Trump is president and the r slur lost to posting petrochem CEO home addresses in the group chat

isthispraxis.bsky.social•23 hours ago

i don't make the rules

glassvanguard.bsky.social•22 hours ago

I mean, this is what stand-ups and comedians have been complaining about for the last decade right? Chapelle will finally be happy now?

sleepyredpanda.bsky.social•22 hours ago

lol yeah waiting for the golden age of comedy to be upon us once more

glassvanguard.bsky.social•22 hours ago

I'm eager to laugh again

carlemot.bsky.social•22 hours ago

It's funny how it depends on the industry. I didn't hear it in probably 15 years of white collar work but as soon as I switched to the security industry it's like it had never left

I don't really feel one way or another about it because it's like the discourse just never happened in this industry

boneduck.art•23 hours ago

What fucks me up is people like 20 and under saying it. I cant explain why exactly but it bothers me even more than people my age or older saying it

bitdizzy.bsky.social•16 hours ago

so smug that i got the polemical brainworms i have about the word (people just substitute more polite versions that are still as wickedly mean-spirited and antisocial) before the selfidentified human livestock started using it again also anyone who didn’t say it because of social pressure is a dweeb

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