I'm not going to watch 20 minutes of this, but she looks like she's wearing a nightgown and I've always heard that picking cotton is backbreaking and very painful! I guess she's "working" at sunrise to avoid the heat?
That's a very extreme example for "watching a relevant video to something the OP said"...I dunno, maybe chill?
Like, if you're not gonna watch it, then fine, but posting about how you're not and then commenting some off base shit instead is a foolish act. Just...don't watch it and keep scrolling.
Yes, THIS. Was talking about this just yesterday with my spouse. He and I had a farm. A real one, that we loved and ultimately lost. Our life didn't resemble one bit this social media ready "farm" life currently "cool" I resent those people like fire.
Couple of my farmer’s wife German forebears had 20 children each. Extraordinary. They’ve probably indirectly populated parts of Colorado more or less single-handedly.
Conservatives don't want to drag us back to the 1950s, but to the 1650s. Pre-ENLIGHTENMENT. Rich ppl want to be the neo-nobles. While the rest of us get to be peasants, serfs & slaves. Rich ppl REALLY want their slaves BACK.
Oh yes, that part too: many a "tradwife" is basically fetish porn for the kind of dude who's too chickenshit to get an OF (or just purged it for the zillionth time).
I can't remember their names. But there is this Trad Wife one on TikTok and it was more so the husband who wanted this farm life but she does everything. (He also is a millionaire so they don't need to do it). She wanted to go to Spain or Italy for her birthday but he got her an egg apron instead.
I’m fairly well convinced that all these Instagram and TikTok accounts by these smiling white women in prairie dresses are part of a right wing psyop designed to normalize the whole Project 2025 goal of returning to some idyllic Laura Ingalls Wilder past that never actually existed.
Especially the part where Ma "hated Indians," and the grownups got to enjoy Thanksgiving feast while their daughters stayed in the kitchen to do dishes and finally eat leftovers.
Watched a couple of Ballerina Farm videos. Was left w the impression: 1) she has behind the scenes helpers, a lot of them—not just the film crew 2) this is a modeling gig 3) one day that woman is going to plant an ax in her husband’s face & go back to dancing ballet in nyc 4) he will act surprised.
That's exactly right. They SAY they want to be "traditional" in an Amish way but don't really want to DO anything but order the servants around. They want someone to raise the kids, earn the income and clean, cook, whatever. And then they want to take credit for it.
😹I grew up chopping logs, walking 3 miles to the store (we had no car), burning fallen trees/sticks/whatever for warmth. Dirt poor by many standards. Yeah of course there is fucking labour. We always had a flushing bog, so there is that. These people are useless! 😹
Yep. My mom's side of the family was full of traditional wives, living in one-room homes in North Dakota and eastern Montana, even raising children in old train cars, and none of the tradwives would put themselves through that. They'd get jobs in the WOKE city first.
I come from many poor farmers, and yeah. Actual "traditional" farmer's wives had to work their asses off in the fields AND home too, plantation owner's wives got to be all frilly and just ACT like they did stuff.
YES it’s like TJ getting credit for cultivating peppers or whatever at Monticello, like, “gentleman farmer” my ass, he did not have good clean dirt under his fingernails
💯 this. There's a video circulating online of some woman talking about how hard it is to be a working woman, and she lists all the things she has to do to "adult alone" and how she 'just wants to be a stay-at-home mom,' and that's exactly the vibe.
And don't get me wrong, work cultures (and costs) have worsened so that you're disincentivized to do anything BUT work, and home tasks are a sisyphean grind, and all of it SUCKS! But that's capitalism's fault, not gender equality's.
I think a lot of single women look at single men & wonder why the men seem to have it easier & either (a) they really don't, or (b) their homes are sparse/messy & they get takeout all the time so they don't have to cook/clean bc the guys are waiting for a wife/gf/mom to appear & do it all for them.
And of course they're buying into the social media thing where you only ever seem to see the good parts and not the Laundry Chair in the corner or cleaning the oven or any of the other messy, dirty, repetitive nonsense that yeah, used to be outsourced to housekeepers etc IF you could afford them.
Yeah, she imagined being pregnant, with a baby on her hip and toddler helping her gather eggs. Happy as a clam. No concept of the baseline level of exhaustion that scenario would cause. They're imagining a photo shoot.
"Trad Wife" is a word born from conservativism which in turn is the yearning for tinned past that actually never happened.
This in turn kinda includes conservative concepts and that is basically an exchange of goods, not love or romantic relationship.
It takes 2, I suppose...
There’s a 1950s variant requiring “the help” to cook & clean; afternoon ladies’ cocktails chased with a Nembutal; couch sex with shrinks, tennis pro sex at the private club. Cul-de-sac couple swaps & black-out drunks still the rage in suburbs. 20th century trad.
All fantasy all the time. They want to be paper dolls from an 1955 issue of Good Housekeeping. No clue what it's like to have no medical help during a miscarriage, no right to divorce, no domestic abuse laws, no money of their own...let alone vacuuming an entire house in high heeled shoes every day.
When their real life is constant cosplay they invite the shitty parts. Real life has a way of creeping in when someone is always pretending as an adult. The more perfection they expect in their make believe the more disappointed they'll be.
oh I know. I followed FundieSnarkUncensored on reddit for a long while. The influencer angle probably just adds to the spectacular awfulness, but they can't do -anything-. Cook, clean, daily function-nothing. The husbands don't work, usually.
Now one of them has an ectopic pregnancy & won't abort.
Exactly. You can't roleplay real life. It just doesn't work. Eventually the script isn't possible. It's sad really to me. These young women have no clue what they are throwing away.
And they refuse to learn about *actual* roleplay that would let them set boundaries and stop when it stops being fun, because that’s BDSM and therefore “degenerate,” according to their totally-not-perverted white supremacist husbands.
I spend way too much energy trying to convince them that “pet” rams will kill them, farm dogs require training, and ferchrissakes don’t can green beans in the oven. So their kids won’t die.
OMG does someone actually say you can process green beans for canning in the oven?! I think my Ball Blue Book just leapt out of the bookcase screaming.
All of the influencers, reality show mothers, and so on, rely on making the eldest daughter take over parenting ASAP. I've heard so many people say they're never having kids, because they had their fill during their teenage years.
Yes, the farmer's wives I know work hard - probably as hard as their husbands. The ones that don't are very wealthy, but worked like dogs before the family accumulated wealth. They like the idea of being a farmer's wife, but they probably wouldn't like the reality
Fucked up and completely correct. The other day on TikTok I saw some young white girl from Los Angeles argue that slavery would be okay if enough people voted for it. And I said "Cool, we all voted and you are the slave, how do you like it now?"
Cuz in her mind it's enslaving Black ppl by default
In much of California (where almost all affluent people are white or Asian, while almost all poor people are black or Latino) conflating race and class in this way comes naturally.
OMG! Yes!! This makes so much sense. I was just talking about how all the Minnesota farm wives I grew up around wore work clothes and even if they hired seasonal workers they worked from sun up to 10 pm to feed the crews in addition to working the garden, freezing/canning and feeding livestock. 1/
My dad was a teacher but always wanted to have a farm so for about 5 years we rented a farmhouse. He tended the HUGE garden all summer then we would can, freeze, pickle, dehydrate all July and August. It did make me cry 😂
My brother-in-law's family have a working farm in the South. The plantation as a glamorous lifestyle is like moving to Long Island and expecting to be friends with a Gatsby. That era is long gone and has been gone for over 100 years.
But in the 21st century who are going to be their servants? Unless they are rich, they can't afford to pay full time servants to cook, keep house and mind the kids for them.
well, that's why they need to abolish minimum wage and birthright citizenship and start arresting and life sentencing everyone below a certain skin tone or income level, so you can bring back at-scale slavery using the modern prison industrial complex
These trad wives have me furious in so many ways with them pretending to be milkmaids. I'm the first generation to not have to do farm labor on my mom's side of the family. Depending on the type of farm, there's field work, feeding livestock, or both.
As to why is because my mom married away from farming and the farmland was rented out and later sold. As in I'm kind of happy that I'm not stuck to a piece of land.
There’s a great chapter in Robert Caro’s biography of LBJ called “The Sad Irons” that does a deep dive on the lives of women in the Texas Hill Country before rural electrification (less than a century ago). I like to suggest it to libertarians but I can see it might benefit trad wife wannabes too.
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It’s even worse than I thought.
Like, if you're not gonna watch it, then fine, but posting about how you're not and then commenting some off base shit instead is a foolish act. Just...don't watch it and keep scrolling.
The point remains the same.
Conservatives don't want to drag us back to the 1950s, but to the 1650s. Pre-ENLIGHTENMENT. Rich ppl want to be the neo-nobles. While the rest of us get to be peasants, serfs & slaves. Rich ppl REALLY want their slaves BACK.
...the ENGLISH Civil War that is?
You can also get a good primer to a number of them here:
https://www.reddit.com/r/FundieSnarkUncensored/
Warning: it's often grim. Most are not sympathetic narrators, but the kids are tragic.
For more reasons than a lot of folks wanna admit.
https://www.news18.com/viral/multimillionaires-wife-hopes-for-greece-vacation-as-her-birthday-gift-gets-egg-apron-instead-8980534.html
I just had to share this message from The Women Against Tiredness Society :D
This in turn kinda includes conservative concepts and that is basically an exchange of goods, not love or romantic relationship.
It takes 2, I suppose...
Now one of them has an ectopic pregnancy & won't abort.
Plenty of women farmers.
And these jagoffs, cosplaying milkmaids.
I spend way too much energy trying to convince them that “pet” rams will kill them, farm dogs require training, and ferchrissakes don’t can green beans in the oven. So their kids won’t die.
My gramma explained to me why it’s unsafe in the 70’s.
But gingham cosplay “homesteader” numpties believe tik tok ding dongs and will totally botulism their kids.
The ones who haven’t been killed by sweet little Rambo the bottle lamb all growed up.
This is gonna turn out great. No notes.
Oldest daughter gets to do all the work, including what passes for parenting, because Mom's got a breeding kink.
Trad Waifu who has more calluses than me.
Cuz in her mind it's enslaving Black ppl by default
I never get offended when people tell me that they don't trust white women because ever the absolute fuck is that shit?!?
And there are SO MANY.
If you aren't actively trying to dismantle this shit you are part of the fucking problem
https://x.com/realLPBeria/status/1678882610200842240
It was a Black, queer person, Ife Grillo, on Twitter:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mister_Charlie
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miss_Ann
That's why Elon and Bezos are pushing so hard, theirs no anti slavery laws on Mars
https://thebaffler.com/salvos/land-ho-del-valle