Honestly? Because whiteness replaced all other culture. But it’s not anything. Whiteness is emptiness. And they are grasping for anything to fill that void.
I feel it, too. My parents and grandparents generations forgot their cultures. So at least in my family, we’re trying to relearn where we came from and in turn build something new for ourselves.
Just want to say this idea is not new. In Brazil, the Portuguese at some point decided for miscegenation instead of segregation because they thought it could “improve the race” over time.
It is bad but at the same time it could be arguered that it is trying to badly discuss the preformative aspects of anti-racists behavior commited by white people in the same mindset as an article about white privledge and the pattern of deny distance or dismantale just in terrible clickbait
this is how white folks get broken under white supremacy culture — so twisted by a system where we’re defined and define ourselves by being Not The Other we can’t engage with people
keep that dude away from Black women, hell, ANY woman until he gets some serious therapy
Tons of ways. I talked to black people on Twitter and learned far more than I would from just dating one person. Dude is trying to justify his dating preferences when he doesn't need to.
It sounds more like he has fetishized dating POC. My father liked Asian women as a fetish and only figured this out when the actually reality of having to raise mixed race children when his racist Caucasian family ostracized him and his children
If 530 something years of it hasn't worked, he needs to give it a rest and be realistic. Some things should just stay in the drafts. 🤦🏾♀️ Is this @nytimes.com or @washingtonpost.com #WasteManChronicles ? #BlackSky He's really a whole wasteman.
Redd Foxx had a whole routine that hits a little different with distance but it was something like “the world has ended, three people are living in a cave: Rock Hudson, Lena Horne and Dorothy Kilgallen…will Rock integrate? Of course he will! You’ve seen What’s My Line”
Wait they tested this theory on close friends got smacked down cause it’s so cringe and (checks notes) went out in public with the ideas anyway?
Holy shit, the caucasity!
His approach to this is so weird and wrong. What is he’s just a better person in multicultural spaces, and then if a romantic relationship happens because of real connection, it’s not some weird fetishization of interracial dating which is…racist.
What the fuck is this paragraph. Like, there’s not just cracks in logic it’s like they chose a direction and decided because the earth is round they walk the other way and then took a rocket to mars.
And also, keep writing no matter what and take yourself, your talent, and your work as seriously as this person takes their prospective marital obligation.
"for me, principles lead the way to attractions. I start by eating a food or adopting a habit because it’s good for me, and after trying it enough times, I find I really like it for what it is. The same applies to people I’m considering dating"
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I was participating in a Wikipedia discussion about images in a gallery on race and I posted a picture of a blonde white woman and a picture of a white horse and noted the immeasurable difference the categorizations meant. We ARE NOT BREEDS OR CULTIVARS
The same applies how? Is he saying that, after trying women of a different race enough times, he'll finally develop a taste for them? Why am I getting a feeling that a lot of white men in the US were saying this in the 1800s, they just didn't call it antiracist? and were in fact proudly racist?
The same way someone might increasingly try to engage in more minority communites that they believe their own implicit bias would keep them away. He is just adding it to his dating life too. Still terribly written but could be used for an interesting point about preformative white guilt
I think it is badly trying to suggest that his progressive values lead him to desire to promote interacial relationships including the aganist his own implicit biases of having one. That is distinct from his attraction but instead encouraging situations so that his implicit bias doesnt prevent it
You mean he just wants to expand his social circle and be open to dating people that he wasn't open to dating before but cannot admit it in a letter to the NYT? That would be fine if that's what he means.
In a sense yes, but i admit it is that to me this piece reads a bit like it was meant to be about the preformativeness of white guilt but then they made it more clickbaity.
The idea that someone can look at an interracial relationship and think this is fucking baffling, let alone kind of weird as someone who happens to be dating a woman of color??
I'll just leave it here that I, an Eastern European woman, stopped dating online long ago, and haven't dated an Anglo guy in years, because their tendency to objectify and fetishize even someone like me was exhausting.
One ex did in fact wistfully say he'd tried to find a woman of color to date.
Absolute yikes! I have seen a lot of fetishization of Eastern European women that reeks of savior complex. My heart goes out to you. And he had the gall to say you were a second choice too??
This is how you know people are just vampiric narcissists and haven’t done one lick of the antiracist reading they have on the book shelves. Anyway, whew, bell hooks covered all this in Eating the Other: Desire and Resistance
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*closes it*
The entire thesis of self is manic
We aren't churning through dates with non-whites to level up some anti-racism experience bar.
There must be another way to be
"Like a dish of quinoa and kale that you may once have forced down..." umm?
"You'd be using your erotic ecumenism to level up" wtff???????????????? 🥲
otherwse you're edging up to "the solution is colorblindness" which it obviously isn't
keep that dude away from Black women, hell, ANY woman until he gets some serious therapy
Too much has been abstracted away to an existence on paper. A whole society of page-fuckers
It’s really not difficult to just date who you wanna date and be a decent person in general.
Charitably, he might just be painfully dense in the emotional intelligence department.
Like “make you feel like you a slime in your head” kind of creepy.
If that isn’t the proof we need, I don’t know *what* is. /s
But some think it does work like that. 😵💫 That's quite alarming.
Holy shit, the caucasity!
But why did he have to tell us about it? Couldn't he have just quietly asked someone out?
And also, keep writing no matter what and take yourself, your talent, and your work as seriously as this person takes their prospective marital obligation.
Not saying someone couldn’t be this stupid, but it reads like a story made up by maga in a bar…
Where it went: dunno!
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One ex did in fact wistfully say he'd tried to find a woman of color to date.
Performative activism is performative, and it's partially why the Libs have lost the Left.
I find it deeply disturbing and wish to have never experienced it.