Got my hair cut and apparently need validation so please be kind, especially since I can no longer un-crazy my eyes after the last few years. Mostly just wanted to show off THE WAVES!!
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Hang in there. My grandfather used to say the first 100 years are the hardest. Thinking about them makes me lace up my shoes every day. Also, beautiful photo. 🙂
Awww! I haven't seen you in person in so long! It's so nice to see your gorgeous face and your gorgeous WAVES! You don't look crazy to me you just look VERY alert - because of course!!
We should remedy that soon if you're free, I think I'm through the worst of the post-layoff depression and can actually talk about something other than work for a change
Haircut looks definitely great. Lovely portion of waves. Suits you really good and whatever you did earlier with "uncrazying" your eyes. There's no need for that, because they aren't crazy at all!
love the waves! they're rolling like the ocean, but vertically. i don't have the luck to have waves. i just have some corkscrews that are frizzy more often than not so it always looks unkempt. because i refuse to style my hairs out of principle. they do what they want.
Your hair's beautiful, lady. And you don't have crazy eyes! Lol
And don't worry...everyone has moments like this, where they just need a kind word to pick them up. No shame in it. Keep the post, and use it as a reminder that there's a lot of lovely souls in the world, willing to brighten your day ♥️
I just started to notice that I looked really overwhelmed by everything starting around 2018 and now they're just permanently super wide I guess. I think it's just all the years of Trump admin trauma plus terminal brainworms haha. A doctor told me once that it might be my thyroid lol
All of the pictures of my husband as toddler, he has these huge wide eyes (even like Sears portraits!) Turns out, someone shot out the back window of his Mom's car when she was pregnant with him. That baby was running on adrenaline.
This happened to me in childhood but has settled down. The pictures of me in childhood or so haunted. I cannot believe all the adults around me where not like ‘we must save this girl.’
i'm laughing about the thyroid thing because I did go and get it tested and nope, I just look like this. But this is kind of what I always look like now, and people are always commenting on them
Oh, yeah. Years off my life. I also cracked four molars and had a real nasty vitamin deficiency that was making my hair fall out, all from the stress of fighting that mess. I would do it all over again if I had to, but probably won't survive another go-round. What a shitshow.
I have been thinking about this. I haven’t ever gone back to who I used to be. Did he really take years off our life? It seems highly possible. However, I quit drinking entirely because I realized no alcohol could ever be enough to deal with what is happening right now.
I worked Korea plans from 2017-2019 and thought I escaped to then go work Iran plans from 2019-2021. At the same time, my part-time job was responding to COVID, George Floyd protests, and the Capitol insurrection. Also had a second kid and my dad died in the same 36 hours. I’m a husk of what I was.
I was probably headed in that direction anyway, but by March 2019 I was lying in a hospital ICU with diabetic ketoacidosis, pancreatitis, and a 2cm kidney stone lodged just outside my kidney. The ongoing depression of living in those times just about killed me.
My second bought with COVID this past April made my energy levels drop by A LOT and it sucks. I'm also in perimenopause and that has caused me to get a bloated stomach and some memory blips. I'm so tired of this shit.
Oh God, thank you for the validation everybody, I guess I really did need it. I don't think I am great at being unemployed, it gives me time to dwell on all my insecurities
Aloe vera gel! Everything else makes me break out. I have hideously sensitive skin so I can'tuse the really cool defining products, just pure aloe, nothing else. Sometimes I use a little tiny bit of Jessicurl Aloeba conditioner as well.
You finally pointed me in the right direction Brooke. I guess I never looked hard enough🙃 Just knowing 1) to put product in with soaking wet hair and 2) to use a cotton T-shirt was a game changer 😀
Couple of things to add to this in the cold hard light of day:
1.) I was obviously in the process of getting "California sober" and
2.) I was self-conscious about my hair in particular because I cut it myself. Thanks everybody, that YouTube layers tutorial really worked!!
Can you point me to this YouTube layers video? I cried today looking at my dry, split ends and feeling sorry for myself that I haven’t been able to get a haircut in 4 years. Then I felt very pathetic after my cry
Don't feel pathetic, I cried and cried over the same thing, then I went and got a terrifying haircut while masked at a place that always had a door open, and it was a shitty haircut and I cried even more because I don't want to go back and spend a bunch of money to risk my health for a crap cut
Here you go! Manes by Mell. She's great if you have curly or wavy hair!! The only problem I have with her is that in one of her videos she went, "Happy birthday to me, I'm 23 today!!" and I was like JFC I have done nothing with my life...
You and me both! That’s why I spent so much of the summer trying to photograph birds: it’s an absorbing, creative practice I can pursue by myself, and as far as I can tell the birds don’t judge that much, which is anxiety-relieving
It’s starting to grate on me now that I don’t really have the lenses for bird photography, but especially when I started earlier in the year, doing things the hard way was definitely part of the draw—calls for more stillness, more patience, more time outdoors in the breeze away from the doom feed…
Well, you know what they say, the best camera is the one between your ears. Having said that I would just about kill for one of those Nikkor 85mm 1.2 lenses but alas, I am unemployed
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Seriously, you look great!
(And the hair's pretty cool too)
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hair is perfectly fine, fashionable, fancy, nice, but not gaudy/trashy
And I like the waves!
And as for the eyes, you could get away with “highly caffeinated “ as a description
And don't worry...everyone has moments like this, where they just need a kind word to pick them up. No shame in it. Keep the post, and use it as a reminder that there's a lot of lovely souls in the world, willing to brighten your day ♥️
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That’s a great photo and terrific haircut.
For the record, you look fantastic!
The smile and the eyes and the waves.
people are allowed to want (and ask for!) positive attention and validation.
it’s a healthy human behavior, and we should be unapologetic for it. 🖤
1.) I was obviously in the process of getting "California sober" and
2.) I was self-conscious about my hair in particular because I cut it myself. Thanks everybody, that YouTube layers tutorial really worked!!
You are bad ass and completely worthy and you do not need a job to have that be true
Just you being a person is enough