It's especially tricky when people change hobbies all the time. I am that kind of person, changing my hobbies every month or so.
I wasn't like this when I was younger, focusing on one hobby for years, but somehow I have found out that life is too short to not experience everything it has to give.
Because of this exact situation I got my husband one of those wearable baby carriers but it's for dogs. On the one hand I think he will love it, but on the other, will he?
Told my father-in-law that if he did not send me wishes then I would buy him a gold fish. He's not a fish person and we got a wish list within minutes!
My advice for everyone with a family member who has what they need is to get them a special pie from a real baker for Christmas! I struggled to get my dad gifts FOR YEARS before I figured this out.
The Blight of all Men, but really this is just kind of a test to see what you would give them.
Here is an example. For hobbyists, find a very repetitive task that they go through and give a high-quality version of it so they don't have to do it so often.
Buy him something from whatever piece of fiction media he loves. Or just do something intimate and passionate together. That works too. Doesn't need to be a physical gift
Ha! Counterpoint, everything on my husbands list requires things be tried on or understood “I need a pair of comfortable work shoes and a golf club cart.” I don’t have his feet and have never golfed. Gift Cards are out. 😳
His shoes size is easy, but he’s got bad feet. He tries on about 6 or 7+ shoes before settling on a pair that might be okay. I could buy him placeholder gift shoes, I guess, but instead I will get him what he needs instead of what he wants. 😂
I have told my wife that I would like to make all my random battery-powered power tools "match" so I don't have a DeWalt, Stanley, Rigid, Milwaukee, Makita, Ryobi, Greenworks, etc. battery packs and chargers taking up an absurd amount of space.
We (I, cis white het woman) just want to get you (every cis white het man I have ever known except possibly 2 who are bi) just want to give you something that will make your little face light up.
Is this one of t minor poisons of toxic masculinity, that you aren't allowed to have your face light up?
Honestly, I want to know that you've thought about me. I buy myself what I need, so it's a chance to get something meaningful. My favourite gift in ages was a WWI trench lighter that only cost a few quid, because it's something I'm interested in.
So much more than "What £50 item will you accept?"
Amazon ruined Christmas and possibly humanity.
anything you want delivered to your door, people can get things so easily now and its led to boredom, which pushes people online to post stupid shit.
Back when you actually had to travel and work to get the stuff you wanted, it had a lot more meaning.
Get him a framed picture of this meme so that next year he can simply point at it. You then get him a framed picture of him pointing at the framed meme, and so on and so forth
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For me that doesn't work because if I can't justify myself spending the money on it then why would it be justifiable for someone else to spend the money on
that's fair lol. i guess i mean things like...Hunt a Killer. Fun game that I want to do a lot! Slightly too expensive for me to do so. but if someone buys it for me, then hell yeah.
Why buy stuff you don't need? It was always a chore more than anything, I talked to my partner and my family and we're not doing presents anymore. It's so much better
I’m so glad my wife and I are in agreement on this. We only give to kid relatives. We do not give to each other on holidays or BD’s. It has been a pure blessing not to have that December stress.
People who respond combatively like this to "Nothing thanks" are not doing it for the giftee, remember. They are doing it to make themselves feel good. Which is fine when you aren't torturing everyone around you while doing it.
"Donate the money to your favorite charity" is one logical workaround.
Consumable fancy items - soaps, jams, spices, olive oils, wine, whiskey, cheese, locally roasted coffees or limited run IPAs (all usually also available in ‘of the month’) installments.
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People don't listen to "Don't get me anything" very well. If I say "well okay then, buy me a coffee mug" they'd say "but you have 20". "Okay then, buy me an ornament." "But you have shelves of ornaments". "Okay then, buy me socks". "You just bought socks". "Then...why are you asking me?"
"But you have a ton of books you haven't read"; "But you already have 3 swords"; "But you already have the room full of star wars stuff"... Don't get me anything then!
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I wasn't like this when I was younger, focusing on one hobby for years, but somehow I have found out that life is too short to not experience everything it has to give.
Also me: Let's do without the tree this year.
Grown-up children: You're such a Grinch
*gets in car and drives to Pines&Needles, scowling
Here is an example. For hobbyists, find a very repetitive task that they go through and give a high-quality version of it so they don't have to do it so often.
I won't spend the money on myself. I always get Warhammer and books so it's not like it's a huge downer but I still want the Sukenari 240 mm. One day.
But if you insist on paying, kisses and hugs from a hooker will do.
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"Ok, here's a list of about 50 things I'd like"
"But I don't want to buy you any of that, what else do you want?"
If he's into cars get him some accessories
Handyman, get him new set of tools can never have too many 😂
Gamer, accessories again or game he talks about but won't get himself.
But as cliche as it sounds all he wants for Christmas is U
She doesn't understand.
When I say I don't want anything, what I want is for you to not buy me anything. That is the gift. Please get it for me. It's free. You can afford it.
Is this one of t minor poisons of toxic masculinity, that you aren't allowed to have your face light up?
So much more than "What £50 item will you accept?"
anything you want delivered to your door, people can get things so easily now and its led to boredom, which pushes people online to post stupid shit.
Back when you actually had to travel and work to get the stuff you wanted, it had a lot more meaning.
I might even throw in some fancy chocolates or treats with it (which is what family gets anyway).
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I think he’s adding to my gym gear though so that’s cool
what seems to work is things that i want but can't justify spending my money on.
That reminds me, I should order 50 pairs of black socks (I won't though)
"Your presence is present enough"
Ok, but you know I'm going to buy you a gift, so please just name one thing you enjoy that I could buy you.
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"Donate the money to your favorite charity" is one logical workaround.
and maybe some candy :)
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