This has more to do with novelty experienced than with simple progression of time and age. The more you fall into routine, the more memories that are considered rote fail to get committed to memory, and the less subjective time you experience.
Younger people experience more subjective time because
they've experienced less in total. The more novelty you can inject into your life, the more subjective time you'll experience.
I occasionally wonder if anybody is studying the monotony of the height of the pandemic as-publicly-acknowledged in this regard. I'd imagine subjective time became weird
hahahahahahahaha, katherine. at your age, they still let you have a calendar with days in the weeks. mine is just 12 months with 4 or 5 bars a piece and i have to go to court once a year to argue that i deserve to keep my bars.
You were never funny. You were relatable and adorable and real. You made my kids believe in themselves in ways I never could. I, and they, will forever appreciate that.
I still worry about too often talking AT people and not talking TO people. I like humor, humor is a part of me, it's a way of coping with life and all, but I don't want it too go too far or be too much of a priority. I'm here to socialize and communicate, really.
Gets even better after 65…. you can say stuff that you would never say at 30. Of course people often blow you off but 6 of one, a half dozen of another..
im glad to be older and internet friends with you and talk about tv shows with you. i still feel the need to be funny though maybe i need a couple more years
Hi! Your 40s are calling. It recommends naproxen for muscle and joint pain. You can take fewer pills with longer effect! Buy the generics, though, that’s how they get you. Anyway, I’m off to buy a motorcycle.
Mara, the choice to voluntarily retreat from humor, unencumbered by advanced age or major injury, is an admirable decision. With many healthy years left, may your entry into the monochromatic world of apathetic piano tuners, matter-of-fact actuaries, and uninspired painters remain luke-warm always.
It gets even better when you’re in your 40s and you don’t pretend to like anybody else anymore. Sure, we get called a bitch a lot for being direct, but you don’t care what others think. It’s a thing of beauty.
The best part of the mid-30s so far truly is the gradual shedding of all the stuff that seemed important before. My fear of "social repercussions" is all but gone. I aim only to impress my spouse and my cats, now.
Yeah. As a chef, most "expect me to be mean" and they think it's funny. Now I'm just mean. I like walking past ppl I either know from my area that are magats or have their magat uniform on and just say "under his eye". Most are baffled because....reading.
Just be you, Mara. I know, it sounds so simple, but it’s really not when you constantly trying to live up to everyone else’s expectations of who you’re *supposed to* be. I wish you the absolute best of luck on your self-discovery journey.
I don’t have TikTok. never downloaded it. don’t want to. it’s okay for kids to have a place to do their thing without me there. it’s soothing. plus where performativity fades, passion remains
I'm ok with a text based social media, I grew up on message boards. A primarily video based social media is too scary for me I don't want to have to hours of prep work to make sure I look good before every "post" or whatever lol
I kind of had to make peace with it, just because of my life experiences. But it’s one of the main reasons why I don’t want to try to be some kind of Hollywood star. I don’t wanna have to spend hours doing my makeup and planning an outfit before I just go on a fucking walk.
Yeahhhh, fame is scary. That's kind of why I joke so much about it because like actually thinking about it freaks me out. Perfect Blue scariest film of all time lol
same. I’m a writer through and through. likewise I use the painting I do (it’s by Keith Rankin of Giant Claw/deaths dynamic wave) because it feels closer to Me than my face
I don’t write the kinds of things I do to impress weird twitter hangers on. I do it because I find joy and fulfillment in it, my wife does, my friends do, my editors do. feels good
I know you're enjoying it now, but when you hit your 40s, there are whole new fucks you stop giving a damn about, and it's GLORIOUS. I can't wait for you to discover them.
My 18 year old self would stare in horror at my 44 year old self with all the fucks I've discarded.
I feel like being in this phase of life is a lot about letting "pretending" fall away like a cocoon. My mid-30s have felt like my real emergence into the life I think is often attributed to one's 20s.
If Matilda was the Harry Potter of my generation, that would make your cousin a real life Dudley Dursley minus the redemption (and I promise that will be the last I will ever mention your cousins here).
Being comfortable in your skin takes time (more time for some of us) and is so liberating! That core theme was so apparent when you moderated the #EmpireWaist screening at The New School.
It feels great being in your mid fifties and not giving a hoot anymore, trust me.
Life is more simple, mid mgmt in work, local pub nearby, stress from the college teenies, what more do you need 🙈
As someone who for years loved the fact that I was voted class clown & who prided myself on my quips for years into adulthood, good GAWD was it EXHAUSTING. So from someone in her early 40's to someone in her mid 30's, I see you, & HARD relate! It's so fricking freeing! There is simply more to LIFE.
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Younger people experience more subjective time because
I occasionally wonder if anybody is studying the monotony of the height of the pandemic as-publicly-acknowledged in this regard. I'd imagine subjective time became weird
to dust we all return, katie.
ly bad.
at everything.
Things really get fun then!
I'm still a tougher crowd then I'd like, but hell, what do I know about funny? I just live to amuse myself.
(but still does feel good when people laugh)
Looking forward to seeing what’s next for you.
You’re only in your mid 30s, plenty of time to decide
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88hQgxgqdo4
i’m 40 and the fucks just get fewer by the year
https://bsky.app/profile/lippoenen.bsky.social/post/3lb3wzutjhk2e
It's a whole new world! 🤭
My 18 year old self would stare in horror at my 44 year old self with all the fucks I've discarded.
One. All one has left.
If Matilda was the Harry Potter of my generation, that would make your cousin a real life Dudley Dursley minus the redemption (and I promise that will be the last I will ever mention your cousins here).
or maybe that’s just me 🤷🏻♀️
Life is more simple, mid mgmt in work, local pub nearby, stress from the college teenies, what more do you need 🙈
"See, when you're young you SAY you don't care.
When you're my age you ACTUALLY don't care."