My advice to disaffected young men is to get a squire p bass and join a band and your whole women only date rich guys reactionary politics vibe will seem pretty silly when a lady breaks up with her real estate boyfriend to date your broke ass
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I concur, but would venture to say that cultivating creativity in general outside of merely consuming the art of others' will go a long way in the dating world.
I have to say this thread has really changed my perspective the past couple days.
I also appreciate hearing from the older and wiser peeps too. Y'all that have adult memories from before the internet..that's a mindfuck for me!
A P bass is a Fender Precision bass (or a Squier Precision Bass, Squier being the budget brand of Fender). Telecaster basses aren’t super common, I think OP was saying to get a Squier Telecaster guitar.
Here’s mine!
I dunno, Squiers have gotten to be some incredibly high quality instruments for the price they are. The classic vibe and vintage modified lines are fantastic instruments and you can find them for nothing used.
I prefer a strat over a telecaster myself, but then my first guitar when I couldn't identify anyone's guitar was a cheap strat clone so I may be biased.
some of us learned to annoy people in public and even kissed a girl one time because we bought a red squier p bass in the early 90s and so you just keep that telecaster shit to yourself
You have to start with not hating women. They think they hate women because they won't date them, but it's actually the other way around, women won't date them because they can sense the hate.
It's true. Sometimes they even let you move in w/ them & support your broke ass while you pursue your musical ambitions & later while you pursue a college degree bc your band broke up when your drummer got married/had kids & y'all weren't making much money on gigs anyway. Or something...
As a strait laced corporate suit, being a keyboard player in a power rock band always set me apart. Spend $100 on a used Casio keyboard, I’ll teach you to play Kashmir, the ladies will be there. You don’t need F*ing Joe Rogan.
So you don't actually know anyone with developmental disabilities, talked to them, or tried to think of how that word feels to them. Because there is a social difference between idiot and the R word, and most adults have experienced both and know that, but my brother in law lives it.
Yes I absolutely have, I've worked in mental health clinics. Nobody there identified as retarded?
Might be a language thing though, not my first or second language.
But it's my understanding that idiot also used to be a medical term for somebody with developmental issues?
Kids are too lazy these days to even learn how to play an instrument badly. These kids today are just fine knowing that Sid Vicious got laid more than them and that's a goddamn shame.
There are women who are in relationships with investment bankers and they’re completely miserable. They would leave their wealthy husbands and partners to live in a van with a broke guitarist who makes them laugh every day.
It's optional with some genres. (Source: flutist who played bass more or less credibly on one song in my last band. Song was a Ramones cover. First time I ever even laid hands on a bass.)
Ok, but could you give me his @ because I need to know who made that bass, what that pickup situation is, and what the switch is for. Active electronics? Passive with a coil switcher on the bridge pickup? And that finish is gorgeous!
Okay but he cleans up well, and looks like he also works for a living. Many bassists do not do either of those. Many bassists wouldn't know *how* to do either of those. Definitely an outlier. Lol
I’m not disaffected but I am disillusioned.
That being said I’m playing a gig at the end of the month with my boys and yeah alt rock with my close good friends has become my light.
As a remarkably shitty bass player, let me assure you this is completely true. I am not good looking, I have no game, and I still managed to get laid. Just telling people you are in a band and being able to prove it works.
I just told my wife this! If these young men would spend less time online & more time forming garage bands with their friends the world would be moderately improved
And also get over your damn lost-the-plot bs about how having sex with women is gay and real men don't wipe their asses. Good Lord, I thought the 80s "real men don't eat quiche" nonsense was bad enough! (Yeah, I'm old. Deal with it.)
I keep saying that the reason we have so many reactionary young men is that we lack the social safety net to provide underemployed teenage boys with guitars.
I remember watching Crazy Heart and thinking it was unrealistic that Maggie Gyllenhall was crawling all over a disheveled guy who was sweating booze but then remembered the Musician Effect
the catch is that HAS to be a squier p bass. if you get an ibanez or some other ugly bass, you will only attract other weird dudes. source: ibanez talman bass owner.
I highly recommend for those with the relevant anatomy to select bassists over guitarists. Trust me. They don't always use picks. If you know what I mean.
Yep. In the wise words of John Mellencamp: "Forget about all that macho shit and learn how to play guitar." And the best part is, you don't even have to be any good, really.
these guys trying to game theory their way into dates when all they actually have to do is be funny or interesting enough to hold another person's interest for like five minutes
They think you need to crack some advanced code to be with a woman when they should know that just being funny is all it takes to make a woman interested in you.
A very attractive woman once considered sleeping with a comedy friend of mine, until she smelt his armpits (and told me this afterwards, perhaps hopeful that I'd educate him in time for his next show). So what the adverts say is true, you'll never lose a lady if your pits are clean.
I've done surprisingly well by showing women pictures of my little painted robots. And if someone finds it weird, no big deal, we don't need to waste each others' time.
I get what you're saying, but note that bartenders (not fucking "mixologists") are generally happier and healthier than band guys, and if dude works days, the bar's lower decibel level and his normal-ish work schedule will enable adult interaction. I'm no expert, but these things seem appealing.
The best thing about being a bassist is that you don't even have to know what you're doing for like the first 2 years and nobody will notice except your guitarist (but he'll be angry)
Unrelated, but you are a successful rocker, so thought I would ask you advice. My 12 yo daughter desperately wants an electric guitar. Whats a decent one that won't break the bank? So something better than what is sold at Target, but not a brand new Fender Strategy with gold frets?
You can go to guitar center (or a local music store, if there’s one near you) and find cheap beginner electric guitar bundles for usually under or around $200. You get the guitar, amp, strap, picks, a cable, and maybe a tutorial book or something.
Been thinking a lot about all the potential tail these incels are leaving thinking it's better to be angry and misogynistic. Wild to choose to worsen the society instead of playing shitty bar chords and drinking pbr and making out.
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I also appreciate hearing from the older and wiser peeps too. Y'all that have adult memories from before the internet..that's a mindfuck for me!
Me, dating every blue collar man in a 50-mile radius: wut
Nah bro, eat half a meal a day and cover yourself in bad tattoos as long as you can kinda shred a bit.
Someone dating the bass player
Hahahahaha
(Source: have literally done this)
Here’s mine!
Signed,
Dad who just got his kid a used electric Squire for his birthday (and a barely touched Strat for me)
it's really that simple.
The rest is up to you."
So uh yeah cosigned.
Mmmm.
Big drum energy.
Just like "idiot".
Might be a language thing though, not my first or second language.
But it's my understanding that idiot also used to be a medical term for somebody with developmental issues?
No joke.
That's 6 months' work, rather than 10 years.
@wilcohq.bsky.social
Come on, be serious.
Skill issue, boys. Skill issue.
*stares at dusty COVID lockdown ukulele*
PS. I must say, the replies to this are a joy. 😁
That being said I’m playing a gig at the end of the month with my boys and yeah alt rock with my close good friends has become my light.
What can a poor boy do but go and join a rock 'n roll band?
Gender stereotypes are weird.
Had caught a whiff of the quiche one (wtf it's an egg pie???) but not the gas one!
A bridge too far.
😂
one split pickup: many hoes
I'll see myself out!
we should start a charity together where we encourage awkward boys to form terrible bands
It all ended well for me though!
Met my wife in a choir so singing was enough musical skill for me :)
https://youtu.be/BgvBWR0Tr7I?si=wdf5_CkgGY8cX38z
Just never got the sense that was a common opinion, always felt like bassists were like stage crew, behind the scenes but backbone
-Up In Smoke
I say as someone without enough talent to play the drums half-decently.
(* = my wife)
But not everyone does.
When I was 19 my boyfriend went through a “I don’t want to shower anymore” phase.
His roommates told me not to sleep with him until he agreed to take a shower.
I didn’t need the suggestion.
some women are with guys whose only interest is money, they're bored and miserable and cheat on them with guys who own a squire p bass
Get into it, meet girls, have a great time
(definitely one of the meet cutes of all time tho)
Grow your hair long, wear jeans with band t shirts, and sunglasses indoors. Always look down, and let your hair hang over your face.
On stage, bob your head and do nothing else
Bassist: 🦐